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Fan me instead!

pamvictor — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 11:45:24 -0500

Virginia,

You're right your Friend Request might throw me into a tizzy! ;-) But I welcome all "Fans" http://www.facebook.com/pages/Pamela-Victor/43596058787?ref=ts!

Pam

I'm completely entertained

Virginia DeBolt — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 08:58:45 -0500

by this post. However, I might attempt to friend you on facebook just to imagine your comments about a friend request from someone you never heard of. It would be hilarious.

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Agree, but

Alphanista — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 13:44:42 -0600

It is really up to the parents tho, not anyone else.

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"Responsible teenager" is NOT always an oxymoron.

how_impossible — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 14:42:53 -0600

Yes, there are some teens who make bad decisions. Of course we know about them, because they get the media's attention. Their situations have a lot more to do with peer pressure, low self-esteem, and inadequate support networks than their age. There are plenty of teenagers out there who have camera phones and somehow manage not to take naked pictures of themselves to circulate. The real solution is not to ban teens from getting camera phones till their hormones settle down, but to have open dialogue with your daughters about what is and what is not appropriate.

Not all teenagers are like the girls in this situation, though, and that is so frustrating for me, as a college student. People will generalize, as they usually do. There are so many responsible citizens in my generation that get overlooked for the few that make colossal mistakes.

THIS IS A SERIOUS MATTER

debramorrison — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 21:40:44 -0600

This should be an action for this. Parents need to double there time talking or disipline there teenagers about such behavior. It's very scary and needs to worry about because there integrity is at sake!

Thanks for the post in this way we should be alarmed!

Debra Morrsion

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Teaching self control to our children

Nordette — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 17:04:20 -0600

Thanks, Dee. It's scary how fast technology lets someone act on vindictiveness. When I think about this in terms of adults use of technology, I recall websites that let people put up pictures of cheating spouses and boyfriends. You can ruin someone';s reputation with a false accusation. But in the end, it seems, we're still fighting what we're always fighting, negative human emotions and emotional confusion with a lack of maturity.

Giving our children access to technology without teaching them boundaries and to follow the golden rule when using technology is very much like having a gun in the house with the safety off and not teaching that maiming and murder is wrong. Sure, you could kill someone hitting the person over the head with a rock, a much older way to kill, but a gun is faster. And you don't have to get close to the person to pull the trigger.

We don't have to have guns in the house, but increasingly we do need some form of high tech in our homes to communicate with the outside world. Some schools now require that students have computers at home. Therefore, the no guns in the house rule is difficult to apply. Parents will need to work this issue out with their children the hard way, through love, discipline, and thoughtful talk.

So, perhaps we could say that new communications technologies amplifies our lack of self control and so we need to work harder to teach our children to practice self control.

Nordette is a Contributing Editor with BlogHer.com whose personal blog is WSATA, and she's finally taken the dive into Twitter.

Fatal Flaws...

SexyWhispers — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 09:44:50 -0600

My best friend recently was telling me that a group of her daughters friends (including the daughter) was changing to go swimming and taking camera phone pictures of each others panties. In short time, one of the girls who was feeling left out of the group emailed the pictures from her phone to her email list. All of the girls near naked butts ended up circulating throughout the email of their high school!

Now, that is scary and embarassing yes. More scary? Ready...if it ends up on a MySpace page or the wrong email....sexual predators!

It is vital that we teach young women to use technology intelligently. It could be very damaging!! I tell this to women every day!

~~Dee

Is technology at fault?

Nordette — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 06:03:41 -0600

Amber, I don't think you have to worry. I don't think technology is at fault because there are lots of teen girls with camera phones and web pages who don't send out nude photos to their boyfriends, just as there have always been gorgeous women who could pose for PlayBoy but choose not to do so.

Hate to sound cliche, but I think the problem is either the girls are really cocky and think they live by a different set of rules than other girls or their lives as popular cheerleaders are a facade and they have a hole that needs filling. I base this on the girls wanting to impress their boyfriends. If you feel whole, you don't try to impress others with bells and whistles.

So, I think this situation is more the result of cultural and psychological issues related to the girls' environment and experience.

Technology's only contribution to this scandal is that it made it easier to send a naked picture quickly, which gives a cluttered mind less time to review actions.

Nordette is a Contributing Editor with BlogHer.com whose personal blog is WSATA, and she's finally taken the dive into Tw

This scares me

AmberS — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 00:17:40 -0600

My daughter is 3 1/2, and I'm not sure what to make of this. I'm scared to think of where technology will take us in the next decade or so, as she becomes a teenager. Can I keep up? Can I equip her to navigate these issues? I'd like to think so, but the truth is I have no idea.

~ Amber

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The lawsuit

Nordette — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 20:30:14 -0600

I had a similar thought. The lawsuit gives us the chance to discuss it as more than just another teen scandal. Thank you for commenting.

Nordette is a Contributing Editor with BlogHer.com whose personal blog is WSATA, and she's finally taken the dive into Tw

Our own skeletons

Nordette — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 20:28:54 -0600

Yep, there are things we did and thought as teens that if revealed would have mortified us. Today's teens are broadcasting what may later come back to haunt them.

Nordette is a Contributing Editor with BlogHer.com whose personal blog is WSATA, and she's finally taken the dive into Tw

Great point

Nordette — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 20:27:33 -0600

you can't hear what/when your kid is texting, camera phones, video
phones, facebook, myspace, twitter and a handfull of other things that
most parents don't even know how to use! I'm interested in how most
parents are coping.

And I also would like to hear more about what parents think and how they cope with it.

Nordette is a Contributing Editor with BlogHer.com whose personal blog is WSATA, and she's finally taken the dive into Tw

You've Come A Long Way, Baby?

lostinmt — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 15:55:47 -0600

No doubt, this generation has access to more sexually explicit material through a variety of mediums than in generations past. I don't have daughters but I am one. Growing up at the back end of the bra-burning era, I know how hard women fought for equality. I know how hard it is for women in the workplace from first hand experience and I know how much inequity there can be in the home. It saddens me that young women buy into the pressure of this type of "Girls-gone-wild performance" when they have the opportunity to have so much more. My three sons are 15, 12 and 9 and I hope that when they've grown I've been able to help them understand the fact that girls/women are more than just their body parts. Parents have an obligation to keep in step with technological advances and to talk to our kids even when they tune us out. I think we've only seen the tip of the iceberg with situations like this. I'm not sure a law suit is necessarily the answer, but it certainly brings the discussion to the forefront. That is never a bad thing.

Technology ups the ante and the dangers

Candelaria Silva — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 22:13:44 -0600

U wrote provocative journal entries growing up and provocative poetry which I sometimes read aloud. I am so glad I didn't have today's technology at my disposal before my had caught up to what to reveal and who to reveal it to.

I do think the soical networking sites, celebrity news on all media, images of celebrities doing sexually provocative (and down right sexual) things on line, etc., makes girls more prone to repeat these behaviors. They can also learn how to be more provocative by cruising you tube, etc.

Discretion, privacy are hard to come-by and many teens don't even try.

When you are young, being enamored of your beautiful new adult-looking body and wrestling with your sexuality is part of what you have to learn to navigate.

As always, talking with your children, doing "what-if" scenarios with them, discussing privacy and intimacy and technology (using real-life cases), etc. Parents have to be on top of things. Teenagers and young adults need as much parenting as toddlers albeit in a different form.

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Good and plenty!

This is a really interesting

kcochrane — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 17:31:04 -0600

This is a really interesting phenomenon and I think it's only the beginning. I had a discussion with my family over Thanksgiving as to the "new age" of parental control. Over the past 10 years there has been an explosion of new technologies that allow teens to communicate with out parental supervision i.e: you can't hear what/when your kid is texting, camera phones, video phones, facebook, myspace, twitter and a handfull of other things that most parents don't even know how to use! I'm interested in how most parents are coping.