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I'll check her out

Candelaria Silva — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 12:53:47 -0600

First of all, I think Wanda has one of the most wonderful voices for comedy and for telling it like it is. Her intonation is funny, quirky and great for setting up her comments. She's bright, bold and on a roll. I will check her show out when I'm not out dancing!

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Good and plenty!

Adoring Wanda!

DeeNigma — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 16:02:00 -0600

I have always loved Wanda Sykes. She is a riot and says what's on her mind, which is a rarity.

I watched her on Wendy Williams last night and as usual, she was right on the money. Her best lines came when Wendy asked her about coming out and how she felt, who she told first, and how they responded. The quick answer? 'Why does everyone want to know that? It's not like I had to come out and tell my parents and friends that I was black!

Being a lesbian was just one more piece of her as a whole. Love her!!

And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.

She has a talent for saying what's on everyone's mind...

sgoyette — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 11:50:06 -0600

As in her campaign against the use of the word "gay" to mean "stupid." I think she will be the perfect addition to late night TV - she's a lot funnier than the guys who make up the current roster, and she injects a lot of social and racial awareness into her work.

Plus, she's the only reason to watch Pootie Tang.

Hopefully this works.

Lisse — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 09:57:11 -0600

Ellen was much funnier doing stand-up than in her sit-com. Her talk show seems to be working for her.

Hopefully Wanda will see the same success. She was so much funnier with Ima be Me than I ever saw her on Inside the NFL and the sit-coms she was in (although one day while channel surfing I came across her telling Larry David to "Shut the hell up," which, frankly I appreciated). Her stand up show proved that she was not only funny in her own right, but she's got a refreshing POV and is interesting to listen to.

It doesn't seem that FOX took that much of a risk putting her on Sat at 11. I think her target audience is much older than SNL; the question for me is - will they still be awake?

- Lisse

@ Home in the World: International Adoption and Other Travels

Syked for Sykes!!

AmyMusings — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 08:48:52 -0600

It seems like ever since Wanda came out of the closet, it has freed her up internally and she has NEVER been THIS FUNNY!!!! I saw her "I'm a Be Me" HBO special. No amount of kegels could keep me from wetting my pants when she did her schtick on male enhancement drugs or getting waxed.

Amy Kehoe

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I've been flashing since I

Gladys Tells All — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 21:33:53 -0500

I've been flashing since I was 25...hot flashing that is. I had a hysterectomy when i was 25 and it's been 25 years now of waking up in hot sweats and wanting to crawl into the freezer. I have taken HRT and now they have decided I need to stop. I do not want to stop. I don't feel well when I am off of them. I feel flu-ish and sluggish and bitchish and lazyish. Gosh I guess it just makes me Ish.

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elizabethsekagray — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 20:53:27 -0500

Security

My therapist talked about how we build this security and it is really all just a big sham. Today as my future looms in front of me, a gigantic, blinking, neon question mark, I think about all of those things I did to feel secure.

I moved out and got my first apartment when I was 20. Some people stay at home for security, others move out, I was an other. I was still in art school (at this point on my dime), working part time at an advertising agency, a job I found by calling every advertising agency in the phonebook. Call number 72 needed someone for 6 weeks while his “girl” (it was a long time ago), was out recovering from a hysterectomy (he probably said “female problem”). I was in (the job), and out (of the house). I didn’t have money for food (but I had enough for cigarettes, again, it was a long time ago, and a cleaning woman, I have my priorities!), did that stop me? NO!

I bought a house when my last roommate moved out and stiffed me with 2 months rent, after all as she explained “how was she going to have her rent money and security deposit if she paid what she owed me?” I was never going to be put in that position again. I would own my own place. I had credit card debt and no savings, did that stop me? NO!

I got married at 30. Love and numbers would keep me safe, now there were 2 of us and that’s double the safety, right? We started to add to our security pile, life insurance, bank accounts, a big sweet Yellow Lab. I didn’t really know how to be an adult (what with being raised by wolves and all), but did that stop me? NO!

Over the years we have bought real estate in Hawaii (Maui and the big island), Florida and the Jersey shore. Real estate is the ultimate security, right? Well, maybe not right now, but hopefully soon. Amassing a ton of security (debt). Mortgages, condo fees, taxes, the triple crown of insurance (wind, flood and fire), they all come with strings attached. Some of them I have never even seen, none of them pay for themselves, but did that stop me? NO!

We had a child that we both love and adore. You would be hard pressed to find a kid more loved and adored. We can move in the family world knowing we belong, school, karate, piano, camp, braces, the whole deal. We are securely a family now. We had no idea what to do with a child, and cried more than he did the first couple of months, but did that stop us from having another one? HELL YES! Even I have my limits, after all this is a real human being, not just a plot of land.

You really can’t build security with things. I have tried, and tried, and tried, believe you me, none of this can help me now. Or can it? Because as I re-read this I no longer see security, but I do see a willingness to try new things, a real risk taker with an extremely strong drive to move forward. And isn’t that what I really need right now? Nice to be reminded of this, I really needed it this morning. - Beth @ http://mynext50.blogspot.com

Nice

Denise — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 11:43:10 -0500

My hot flashes have started and TW keeps suggesting I go discuss this with my doctor. I'm dragging my feet because really, I'm not all that interested in medicating my menopause - not unless I really have to.

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Hopeful

tamiel — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 16:49:55 -0500

Thank you for your comments...stay hopeful! I will if you will...

It's just life, after all.

Inspirational

amandahdah — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 10:00:26 -0500

The beginning of this could have been written by myself...it's uncanny! I too, have boxes of old papers, letters, unfinished dreams and disappointments...I really think we must be soul sisters of some kind! You truly are insipirational and give me hope for myself. I just want you to know, I have faith in you and if you ever need a little help propping yourself up from someone who understands, please call on me!

Halloween

Julesngold — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 00:44:35 -0500

Halloween when I was a child was the most magical night of the year. The magic of this holiday has haunted me to this day. I remember one Halloween when I was 7 years old. It was so windy that after visiting our first house (at which we got a full sized Hershey Bar!) we were banned from Trick or Treating that night, lest the wind blew us (me, my sister and my four cousins) away. I believe that was the Halloween I dressed as Peter Pan. In my imagination, I remember flying over the houses with Peter and Wendy. What a wonderful night!

Great advice, Zaz.

Nordette — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 15:11:36 -0500

I don't see the point in having a fit. You're so right about the calm voice. I gag easily, but try my best to dash from the room if I'm going to have a gagging episode. I'll make a point to drop by your site.

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Great advice!

VenusVision — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 08:36:37 -0500

Thank you for posting this. It shows true wisdom, especially in respect to making healthy lifestyle changes. So many people focus so much on the end goal they don't pay attention to the journey. If you focus on the journey, you might realize how good it makes you feel (if you making realistic, sustainable changes), and that feeling can become the new goal, rather than fitting into a a certain size jeans.

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Lisen Stromberg — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 20:27:11 -0500

I can only hope that my parents had the insight and wisdom that you do. I am sure your son will be the role model your anticipate - he has a mother with vision!

What did your parents expect?

reneeraisonstorey — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 20:16:43 -0500

As the mom of a Harvard student, class of '12 (who was also accepted to Dartmouth,) I can't tell you what your parents expected, but I do have some insight.

We live in a small town in a fairly rural area, and kids who attend Ivy schools are so rare that most people think we're kidding about where he goes to school. And so, while in some ways I would love to think that he will change the world for the better, my wish is that he will at least change the goals of some of the kids in our area. If he earns a degree, finds a career that he loves, and makes a decent living, that will be enough. But if knowing that he made it allows others to dream bigger dreams, that may expand the world for some people. If any of them come back here and share their experiences, the world stretches again. Maybe just by having the courage to reach for that world, he will bring some of the world back home.