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Powerful Post

mslady327 — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 09:13:29 -0600

I send you lots of hugs and love. I know that this is a difficult time. I honor you and your courage for writing about how you feel. We all know that this is one of the first steps to recovery. I wish you the best in all you do.

I agree with the above

sugarbritches26 — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 10:12:47 -0600

I agree with the above commenter. You need to talk to someone. We as women and bloggers are all here for you, but pulling away from a child who needs you isn't good for either of you. Big hugs to you and hoping you come out of this.

A.A.

I'm so sorry for your loss

Michellesamom — Mon, 17 Nov 2008 21:12:32 -0600

Do you have someone (a professional) that you can talk to? A 2 year old can take a toll on anyone, but trying to deal with one through a depression? That seems unfair to both of you.

Please get some help.

Michelle writes at Michelle's Blog

Never experienced the loss, feeling for all those who have

kansasmotherkate — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 19:43:39 -0600

I personally have never lost a child, thank god, but I feel for those everywhere who have. I'm glad that this day is recognized, tho I know you must feel the pain everyday. My heart goes out to all of you...

~*mOmMy KaTe*~

Oh yes..I contribute when I can and need...

Crunchy Carpets — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 18:57:26 -0500

it has been a great help to me

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Sweetie, have you found Glow

Melissa Ford — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 18:23:47 -0500

Sweetie, have you found Glow in the Woods? They are the most wonderful community of women.

Venting about infertility since 2006
www.stirrup-queens.blogspot.com
and we're not talkin' cowgirls...

I am so incredibly sorry,

Melissa Ford — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 18:20:04 -0500

I am so incredibly sorry, Jes!

Venting about infertility since 2006
www.stirrup-queens.blogspot.com
and we're not talkin' cowgirls...

I didn't even know the day existed....it exists everyday for us.

Crunchy Carpets — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 17:38:54 -0500

and feeling that you have some sort of black cloud or big arrow pointing down at you...'Mother of dead child' or something..something to scare others away.

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ironic

jes — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 17:35:00 -0500

My husband and I found out yesterday that we are going to miscarry. Ironic, considering what the day memorializes.

jes

I am so incredibly sorry

Melissa Ford — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 10:42:04 -0500

I am so incredibly sorry about your losses. It's so true--no one knows what to say or how to comfort.

Venting about infertility since 2006
www.stirrup-queens.blogspot.com
and we're not talkin' cowgirls...

I did not know that

zitast — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 10:14:27 -0500

I did not know that yesterday was pregnancy and infant loss day - I'm glad it is recognised though. Having lost my first two precious angels during pregnancy, you feel displaced from society. All you see are pregnant ladies, pregnant teens, mothers shouting at their children and you think, why me? Society does not know what to do with you. Comments like "it wasn't meant to be", "it's God's way" all well intentioned do nothing to relieve the grief and the feeling that you somehow are to blame. I had never finished anything I had started and this compounded it - I couldn't finish a pregnancy properly! But time does heal and I found contentment through hypnosis and want to use this tool to help others. I am now a mother to three beautiful babies but still have a moment on my "loss dates" and on what would have been my due dates. Thank you for your post.

Zita

www.ZitaStanley.com

Hypnosis Helps You Create Positive Change!

Ouch...

kazari — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 23:14:17 -0500

I wish I could give you a hug or a blessing. Or something that would help.

Whine all you want! But your post touched many things in me, and I wanted to share:

- 'does not live up to potential' was the theme song of my formal education. it's possibly still true - i didn't find my focus there. i haven't found it yet. Possibly we could have looked harder, fought harder - or maybe our answers weren't there in the first place.

- don't let your instruments gather dust. play for yourself, not an audience - pick it up with the INTENTION of playing badly, if that's the only way you can pick it up at all.

- solitary practice may help you in ways you could never imagine. it could open your eyes to ways of worship that are completely personal to you.

keep going : )

I am sorry for your loss.

girlyclown — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 08:08:14 -0500

Jennifer---

i am sorry that you never got to see or hold your son after he was born. Things have change and there are many working to change just how stillbirth parent and family experiences stillbirth are treated.

I am not sure what state you are in but if you are in a state that offers a certificate of birth resulting in stillbirth you may want to look into getting one. http://www.missingangelsbill.org/

it may be too late to hold him and look at him but it is not too late to name him. It may bring you some peace.

beside The glow in the woods gals there are a few other place you can find blogs on loss... the baby loss directory, and the stirrup queen both have extensive blog rolls about various types onf baby loss. if you care to read or share.

peace, light and love from one stillbirth mom to another.

http://clownbaby.blogspot.com

I love the ladies there and the site...

Crunchy Carpets — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 19:41:45 -0500

It is a safe and comforting place to visit....when I need it.

Look for me at http://crunchycarpets.com or check out the ladies at www.wetcoastwomen.com

Beautiful, brave site

whymommy — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 17:50:51 -0500

I have been a huge fan of Glow in the Woods since its inception, although I can't exactly say why. I approach this fire cautiously, not wanting to intrude, but unable to stay away from the beautiful souls that encircle it. I want to speak up, to soothe, to comfort, but I know that I can never really understand the loss that these strong women experience.

There is a kinship, though, and whether it be the kinship of all mothers or the kinship of those who truly understand how fragile our time here on earth with our little ones is, it is an amazing gift to be able to join with these women, hold their hands, and offer what little I can.

Thank you, Kate, Bon, and all six of you, for sharing this with the world.

Susan

http://toddlerplanet.wordpress.com

http://motherswithcancer.com

http://womeninplanetaryscience.com