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Best wishes!

nelle2nelle — Thu, 15 May 2008 15:55:25 -0500

Change can be scary, but I applaud most anyone who gives a go at following their dreams (not that I know anything about that.)

nelle

You rock!

Liz Rizzo — Thu, 15 May 2008 14:14:57 -0500

How totally awesome, and such an inspiration. Congratulations on all your good news. :)

Liz Rizzo

I blog at Everyday Goddess.

And the short answer:

Liz Rizzo — Thu, 15 May 2008 12:39:53 -0500

Walk away.

It really can be that (painfully) easy. Just be done and move on.

There are SO SO SO SO SO many other fish in the sea, and you have SO SO SO SO SO much life left to play with them!

Liz Rizzo

I blog at Everyday Goddess.

well...

Raquita — Thu, 15 May 2008 08:14:23 -0500

Okay my friends often ask me for advice and they call me Mama Qwhen I give it - so I'ma break my mama Q out for ya. ready ? here we go..

I can tell you what to do but chances are you won't do it.

Stop talking to him, stop seeing him in person. Stop calling him and answering his calls, forward his email address to the trash folder, delete any voice mails he leaves with out listening to them, CUT off all contact. All of it. ALL OF IT. He doesn't work with you. So thats a non issue, he doesn't live iwth you, so throw out any of his stuff from your place so he had no excuse to come there and don't answer the door if he does.

Block the number of the girlfriend, his mom, his sister, his best friend, anybody who might call you on his behalf. He is like your appendix. In your body but not for any particular use and he's burst - cut him out heal and move on.

he is not someone who is taking you seriously. He's playing games, and has proven he cannot be trusted, but you keep going back and setting yoruself up to be deceived. so STOP. Love isn't a good enough reason to let your self be used and hurt.

Its just not.

And if you don't love yourself more than you love this guy you got other issues you need to be dealing with more so than his baby mama drama and wack declarations of love which sound more like "I realize you are the gravy train for me the way this chick thinks I'm the gravy train for her." Which in no way sounds anything like 'I love you and want to be with you and want to build a life with you.'

So I implore you RUN in the other direction if you see this guy comnig, there is no shame in self preservation. find a mantra - this is mine- you can borrow it for a while if you need it

--We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.

sincerely

Mama Q

be peaceful, be poetry http://blaquepen.com/wobl

If there's evidence that a CEO is a racist and an anti-Semitic

Vered — Wed, 14 May 2008 14:00:38 -0500

Then yes, I would prefer to buy my discounted sheets elsewhere.

Seriously? You don’t boycott companies b/c of political issues?

Vered DeLeeuw
www.momgrind.com

PS. It's noon PT. I think your workday should be over now. :)

Er what political statement?

Denise — Wed, 14 May 2008 13:49:07 -0500

I boycott Overstock due to poor customer service, not the CEO's politics. It's all about me personally when it comes to how and where I spend my money.

:-)

~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager

Flamingo House Happenings

Overstock's CEO Patrick Byrne’s political views

Vered — Wed, 14 May 2008 13:45:48 -0500

Wow, you learn so much on the internet. Now the simple act of buying discounted bedding has turned into a political statement. And, now that I have the info, I have to boycott Overstock too. Sigh. Non-discounted sheets are so expensive.

White sheets belong in the hospital. :-)
I don’t like dark colors either, but shades of off-white and what they like to call oatmeal and sand and light khaki-type colors look great and natural and clean and non-fussy. Yes, I’ve got opinions too when it comes to sheets.

Liz – whites are the easiest to keep clean, easier than colors I think, if you are willing to use bleach occasionally. But that would be a non-PC choice too, right? Bad for Earth. Also, I think you are correct on the no-name issue. Didn't even occur to me that the whole thing might be suspicious.

Sigh. You live and learn.

Vered DeLeeuw
www.momgrind.com

TW is responsible for washing sheets

Denise — Wed, 14 May 2008 13:21:26 -0500

But I will be happy to discuss this white sheet fetish of mine with you in person at BlogHer Con this year.

~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager

Flamingo House Happenings

Got to wonder about the ply...

Liz Rizzo — Wed, 14 May 2008 13:18:54 -0500

When I see a high thread count with no name brand I begin to wonder. It may be 400 double ply (hence "800"), which isn't as smooth as 400 single ply. Also, it says "cotton construction" as opposed to clearly stating "100% cotton." No mention of Egyptian or Pima.

OK, I'm a little obsessed with sheets...

Denise, how do you keep white sheets clean?

Liz Rizzo

I blog at Everyday Goddess.

Sheets should ONLY be white

Denise — Wed, 14 May 2008 13:11:58 -0500

I like white sheets and only white sheets and I've boycotted Overstock for years but before that boycotting, we always got our super high thread count sheets from them. Always.

~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager

Flamingo House Happenings

OK then I agree

Denise — Wed, 14 May 2008 13:10:42 -0500

If you don't want to totally disconnect, then a chumby is the perfect internet accessory for your bedroom.

Now what color would you want? lol

~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager

Flamingo House Happenings

I'm with Liz on this one!

Vered — Wed, 14 May 2008 13:01:57 -0500

I like a bedroom to be just a bedroom - no distractions. Definitely no technology.

Agree with both of you on quality sheets - take a look at this 800 thread count set from Overstock.com. They even have dark colors! $73 including shipping.

Another good place for discounted quality bedding is smartbargains.com.

Vered DeLeeuw
www.momgrind.com

Letting Chumby into the bedroom

Liz Rizzo — Wed, 14 May 2008 12:51:03 -0500

You know, I think I see the Chumby as the perfect bedroom compromise. Like, OK, you've let the Internet in, but in specific ways that don't intrude the same way as a laptop. I mean, you're not going to blog or email on a Chumby. It's like a multimedia alarm clock/picture frame/music player.

Yeah, I really dream of a bedroom that's not full of stuff - but that doesn't mean I want to be *totally* disconnected. :D

Liz Rizzo

I blog at Everyday Goddess.

Great sheets and a chumby

Denise — Wed, 14 May 2008 12:19:39 -0500

I have to agree that really GREAT sheets are a MUST. We've got some super high thread count bamboo sheets right now and I really like them BUT in the middle of winter, they seemed a little too "cool" and light. They're better "summer" sheets, I think.

We had the Chumby in our bedroom for awhile are you sure that's your ideal bedroom accessory if you want a bedroom that's truly a bedroom? Chumby can do so much more that it's tempting to "do more" with it --- and if you're going to do all of that with it, then why not just keep your laptop in the bedroom? Just talking out loud here - personally, I want my bedroom to have a laptop and books and everything that I love but your post doesn't sound like you want that sort of "stuff" in an ideal bedroom...

Now about those black out curtains. I think I need to research those. We're moving into what may be a very very bright bedroom (well as bright as a bedroom in the gloomy north can be...)

~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager

Flamingo House Happenings

Cop + Sex Toys: OMG

Liz Rizzo — Tue, 13 May 2008 22:07:56 -0500

That's hysterical! I'm glad you got so much of your - ahem - stuff back!

Liz Rizzo

I blog at Everyday Goddess.