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Asking for what you want is never wrong.....

dashingscorpio — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 07:49:35 -0600

Lack of communication destroys more relationships than those where a couple asks each other for what they want. Being asked does not mean you have to comply but to have a relationship end over something you never knew was important to your partner could lead to heartache. You always have the power to say NO just as your mate has to decide if what he or she wants is a deal breaker. If it's a must have in the relationship then it's only a matter of time before they move on. No matter who you are , male or female when you're in love you are going to do some things just to please your mate. This does not mean you sold your soul. It's just natural to want those you love to be happy and in healthy relationships this is reciprocated in large and small ways from cooking a favorite dish, going to see a ballet, trying something new in bed, to going shopping on "Black Friday". One of the leading causes for divorce today is there is too much "YOU & ME" and not enough "US & WE" in relationships. Everyone is so worried about "losing themself" in a relationship they are practically ready to fight at the mention of a request to try something different. Ideally a man in love will do some things that he knows his woman loves and she in turn will do some things she know he loves. The only people that get their way all of the time are those who are not in love. They don't care about anyone other than themself.

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We are all unknow til our story is told

Vita lingus — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 18:03:17 -0600

This is perfect timing by the way snigdhasen your story will be told as well mark my words.. Your days in the sun are coming..... I wil be in touch

Vita

Big releases current issues and women's tenacity

Vita lingus — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 18:01:10 -0600

That is a tricky business indeed but given the issues that are affecting Indian students here at the moment .. It would be an opportune moment for Megan and this film to get a good release .....

As an aside for those state side Megan has quite a body of work in the industry as an editor ..

http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0232432/

The fact Megan got it up is extraordinary as your wrote it produced was the cinematographer

and directed it ..So that is a passionate tenacious act in it's self really and just another woman who is following her dream and living it........

vita

Wow!

snigdhasen — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 13:05:02 -0600

That's pretty cool, Nita! Why don't you leave a link here of your post and her comment? It would be very interesting to read about policing and what she has to say. I will go hunt for your post on your blog.

She seemed very accessible at the screening. She asked me to email her with further questions. I did, but never heard back, though :) I am guessing they are very busy with more screenings, etc. The filmmaker did not reply either.

Building character?

snigdhasen — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 12:56:30 -0600

Yes, that's Bedi! As Doneman said at the screening. There were several times during the filming that she wanted to hang up her boots, give up and head home. But she couldn't give up when she was making a movie about a woman who never gives up!

You should have seen Ms Bedi at the screening. I think she thinks of Doneman as her sister now :)

Thank you

snigdhasen — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 12:52:42 -0600

Vita, thanks and you are always welcome. I hope you get a chance to watch this film. Doneman has already won awards for this film Down Under :) I will be surprised if she doesn't get a wide Australian release.

Kiran is an icon

Nitajk — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 22:21:56 -0600

I am admirer of Kiran Bedi. And do you know that when I wrote a post on the policing, she actually came to my blog and left a comment? I am still thrilled about it! Just shows her temperament, she likes to reach out to people and such people always do things for others.

Nita

That's what I wonder, too

Suzanne Reisman — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 00:47:48 -0600

At what point does being asked to change who you are stop being compromise (which is important to a relationship to a point) and start becoming control? When my mother-in-law started graying, my father-in-law, who is overall a very good guy, told her to start dying her hair, as he didn't marry a woman with gray. She felt that coloring her hair was a small concession she could make, and didn't mind, although I was horrified. Of course, she didn't marry a guy with a big bald spot, but she didn't see the point in asking him to grow his hair back when I suggested it. For them, it was a good compromise, but I think if he asked her to have a facelift or something like that, she'd be offended. Anyway, I hear you.

Suzanne Reisman, Contributing Editor - Feminism & Gender Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Oth

I just fell in love with him, too

Suzanne Reisman — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 00:42:22 -0600

What a beautiful story! I wish every person could have such a thoughtful and compassionate partner. Thanks so much for sharing.

Suzanne Reisman, Contributing Editor - Feminism & Gender Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Oth

I totally agree

cluelesscrafter — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 21:28:38 -0600

I totally agree that some things are just worth changing for when it comes to love. Once I was asked to change my face and so I did.

Easy as pie.

The only tragedy here was that I misheard what my partner said. Apparently it wasn't my face that was the problem, it was my race. What a mess.

As you may have surmised, we are no longer together.

http://www.thecluelesscrafter.com/

I totally agree

cluelesscrafter — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 21:27:35 -0600

I totally agree that some things are just worth changing for when it comes to love. Once I was asked to change my face and so I did.

Easy as pie.

The only tragedy here was that I misheard what my partner said. Apparently it wasn't my face that was the problem, it was my race. What a mess.

As you may have surmised, we are no longer together.

http://www.thecluelesscrafter.com/

I totally agree

cluelesscrafter — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 21:26:49 -0600

I totally agree that some things are just worth changing for when it comes to love. Once I was asked to change my face and so I did.

Easy as pie.

The only tragedy here was that I misheard what my partner said. Apparently it wasn't my face that was the problem, it was my race. What a mess.

As you may have surmised, we are no longer together.

http://www.thecluelesscrafter.com/

A personal story

kazari — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 20:09:03 -0600

Very early on in my relationship (which is now 9 years and counting), we ended up in his bedroom. I was thrilled and looking forward with anticipation... until I remembered the state of my legs. From memory, we'd just got back from a multi-day sailing trip or something, and I don't think I'd shaved my legs for a week.

I was horrified, and immediately switched gears, looking for a way out of the situation. When he insisted on knowing what the matter was, I couldn't even think of a decent lie, so I told him the truth.

He hugged me, and said he cared about what was in here (touching my head) and in here (touching my heart) and not about my legs at all.

I think I fell in love with him, just then.

http://myrope.wordpress.com

A worthwhile man would, I

mdilloway — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 19:07:57 -0600

A worthwhile man would, I think, be attracted to his partner with or without hair. What if she gets ingrown hairs? Would he still want her to go through the burden and pain? My husband says he likes me how *I* like me, and based on his response, I believe him. My hair (on my head as well) has been short, long, medium. I have gotten hugely overweight (70 lbs!) during three pregnancies and gotten back down to 18% body fat. My body has changed tremendously during the time we've been together. Through it all I have never, ever felt unattractive to him.

I think a woman should hold out for a mature man who will not want her to harm herself to please him, but will be pleased by her regardless of what she chooses to do with her body hair. Because if the man can get so worked up over pubic hair, what's going to happen when she gets stretch marks from having a baby or her breasts sink by gravity?

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