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Wow! Thanks so much :)

KateSavage — Fri, 16 May 2008 18:52:30 -0500

I do so love adventure - it's the best thing that's ever happened to me - and, after reading your blog, I see you do, too! I would just lovvvvvvv-vvvvv-vvvvvve to write a guide book. Kudos!

And, thanks again!!

Kate

All Over the Place

Wow! Thanks so much :)

KateSavage — Fri, 16 May 2008 18:49:39 -0500

I do so love adventure - it's the best thing that's ever happened to me - and, after reading your blog, I see you do, too! I would just lovvvvvvv-vvvvv-vvvvvve to write a guide book. Kudos!

And, thanks again!!

Kate

All Over the Place

Hallelujah!

Pam — Fri, 16 May 2008 18:06:50 -0500

Here's to the voice of adventure. Thank YOU for posting your crazy undertakings here. Keep going!

Nerd's Eye View

Kudos to BlogHer

amygeekgrl — Fri, 16 May 2008 12:57:57 -0500

I admit I did a doubletake, but loved seeing that number jump up yesterday. Thank you, BlogHer. :)

Amy
Crunchy Domestic Goddess
BlogHers Act contributing editor

Thanks for the links - Added them to my personal blog

amygeekgrl — Fri, 16 May 2008 12:55:40 -0500

Thank you all for posting the links to your Bloggers Unite posts. I added them to a post on my personal blog yesterday.

I finally got my own Bloggers Unite post up late last night: Women, children resort to eating dirt cookies in Haiti: Global Food Crisis

Amy
Crunchy Domestic Goddess
BlogHers Act contributing editor

Thanks Kalyn!

KateSavage — Fri, 16 May 2008 10:44:49 -0500

You know, I am new to Blog Her, and absolutely loving the interaction and feedback here. So, thanks for your comment! It's encouraging! I do recommend Buenos Aires, even if the food is a little bland :P

Single and childfree women contribute

violetteb — Fri, 16 May 2008 08:52:58 -0500

Personally, I can't see how we could get along without having single and childfree women friends. They support us in so many different ways.

I know there have been heated debates on some forums and I never knew of the pressures of society on women really to "have children" and I only associated those pressures with family more so than the outside world. I mean why would anybody care whether an individual had children or not, except for countries that think there are too many to support...and mom's who want to be grandmom's.

I guess I've been a to each his own. I don't think it is required to be a do-gooder to make up for lack of offspring either. I have a few friends that are either unmarried or childfree and I think it enhances my experiences to communicate whether about kids and family or not. She offers a fresh perspective on issues and quite frankly it is nice to know sometimes that if you need to get out with a friend, the one with out the kids is the easiest one to tear themselves away sometimes.

So, I guess to answer your question, I see them as contributing no matter what their main focus is. It doesn't have to be child related at all. It is nice to know that while some women are busy raising children that there is a group in society that is available for other community work or what have you. We don't need to all be supermoms either. LOL.

http://her-christian-blog.com

Great post!

Kalyn Denny — Fri, 16 May 2008 08:32:01 -0500

Really enjoyed reading this. It made me wish I could jump on a plane and go somewhere.

Kalyn Denny
Kalyn's Kitchen

very true

mashadutoit — Fri, 16 May 2008 07:06:14 -0500

"The measure should be what would happen to the woman if she decided not to do it. "

I could not agree more. And you are perfectly right that there is the world of difference if women are living in places where they face violence or phsycological abuse if they dont follow certain dress codes.

In Cape Town a girl was recently beaten up at a taxi rank because she was wearing a short skirt. The men justified this in terms of "she was not showing respect to our culture" - black women should not wear short skirts.

All in the name of culture.

But I think its also important to remember those not so obvious aspects of mainstream western culture that also keep women "in their place". We might not be in purda, and a lot of it is self imposed - but isnt it also very harmful?

mine's up

laurie — Thu, 15 May 2008 22:06:34 -0500

Nothing like the last minute.

It's kind of fuzzy on the details but it's more about a commitment to actually do something.

And examples.

With links, of course.

Here it is.

Laurie

www.notjustaboutcancer.blogspot.com

Since you are extending the project

Vered — Thu, 15 May 2008 19:55:50 -0500

I added the widget to my sidebar, but I have 2 questions, which I am going to ask here, since I'm not sure where else to ask them:

1. There was a smaller widget - I would prefer to use that in my blog - where can I find it?

2. Any chance of the widget becoming customizable color-wise, or is it one-size-fits-all type widget?

Thank you

Vered DeLeeuw
www.momgrind.com

The key is "choice"

MMarquit — Thu, 15 May 2008 18:08:35 -0500

If a woman wants to wear an abaya, more power to her. In Saudi Arabia, though, it isn't her choice. A woman must wear an abaya, regardless of what she wishes, or face very real legal consequences. In Saudi Arabia, a woman cannot drive, whether she wants to or not, because she is a woman. The choice is not there.

I agree that banning headscarves in France was an overreaction. That takes the choice to wear them away from girls who want to express themselves and their culture in that particular manner.

Sure, we can ask what it means that a woman wears certain things or subscribes to certain practices. But that should not be the measure of whether we tolerate it as "right." The measure should be what would happen to the woman if she decided not to do it.

Just made my monthly donation..

debra roby — Thu, 15 May 2008 17:20:25 -0500

I give myself an "allowance" for fun stuff: searching for used DVDs of movies I like, going out to lunch, getting my eyebrows waxed..

And once a month I figure out what I spent on fun and just give the rest to Global Giving through the buttons. This month, no time search those DVDs, so Global Giving got lucky!

Debra
A Stitch In Time
Deb's Daily Distractions

I reloaded and saw the jump and I was proud

Denise — Thu, 15 May 2008 15:50:57 -0500

Thank you Elisa - and BlogHer. Seeing that jump made my entire day.

I'm thinking my next donation will happen in the days before I move to Illinois. All of those jars of change that have been accumulating around the house in the six years I've lived here... they're going to the bank and from there to one of these projects.

~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager

Flamingo House Happenings

For their own good?

mashadutoit — Thu, 15 May 2008 14:35:19 -0500

I agree with you, Suzanne, about being careful of kneejerk reactions when it comes to judging the culture of others.

For example the banning of headscarves in France, for muslim girls. To me that verges on the racist. It is an intollerant reaction born out of ignorance and an unwillingness to understand context or the feelings of others. As soon as you find yourself saying "it is for their own good" you need to get worried!

In our neighbourhood there are many women who wear a type of burqa outfit that cover them complete - even sometimes a veil over their eyes. The fabric is brightly coloured and patterened and (judging from their husbands) they are black muslims and must be from some northern african country. I am too ignorant to know which one!

They are strange to me because so much of our comunication is through body language and facial expression. And often you find them in Woolworths shopping for lingery wich is a little surreal for some reason.

In a world of jeans and t-shirts, coca cola and 50cents, its so precious to find people who are proud to display their difference.

I find the whole female circumsition thing horrific though. And what about cultures who consider the environment to be theirs to exploit? I can think of some "western" cultures who have no problem poluting and poisoning with no thought to the people who share resources with them. And is it OK for our sangomas to slaughter endangered owls, baboons and hummingbirds for muti?

There are no easy answers here.