BlogHer - Family Dynamics - Comments

Thanks.

lblock — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 22:54:43 -0600

I have been a member here for a while, but have not had the courage to do a blog post. This is my second one. I am going to use this forum for my serious writing. Things I don't want my husband to read. He reads my other blog. Daily. So, this is going to be my other outlet. I am going to go and check out your link.

Lee

www.headacheshormonesandhotflashes.com

Yes, it really does put

avflox — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 21:35:39 -0600

Yes, it really does put things in context, doesn't it? That's why I blog. That and to remember. I think of BlogHer as my safe place, too. It's risky, of course, this being the web, but the community makes that risk worth the sharing, the opening up of the heart and spilling of guts.

We're here for you, sweetie.

Kudos

LRM — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 21:23:29 -0600

I think it's wonderful that you are posting your feelings. BlogHer is like a virtual haven that most women are hard-pressed to find in the real world. (Or maybe that's just me.)

Good girlfriends become long-lost acquaintances, wives and then--gasp!--mothers. I think communicating here within this community of women is empowering. Although, I admit to doing more reading than contributing...and I need to work on that.

But, just so you know, I admire how open you have been. Writing is thinking and therefore helps renew the mind and, eventually, the heart.

http://www.StuffMarriedPeopleLike.com

Wow...thanks. I had no

lblock — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 20:12:57 -0600

Wow...thanks. I had no idea you posted it. I'm honored and touched.

Lee

www.headacheshormonesandhotflashes.com

I linked you and

Denise — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 19:58:27 -0600

You have some comments on the BlogHer Facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/BlogHer

~Denise BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings

Thanks!

lblock — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 19:17:01 -0600

Debra: Thanks so much! I am posting over here, because I don't want my husband or my ex to see it, and they both visit my other blog daily. It helps to write it out...therapeutic. It doesn't help that I no longer have any hormones, so I am sure I will feel better once I get all of that worked out.

I agree...earning your own keep...the question is how.....

Lee

www.headacheshormonesandhotflashes.com

Thanks!

lblock — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 19:14:47 -0600

Thank you so much for the kind words. I am starting to post feelings and serious things on Blogher because my husband, ex husband and his new wife and family read my main blog. It is amazing how it puts it all into perspective when you write it out.

Thanks again!

Lee

www.headacheshormonesandhotflashes.com

big hugs

avflox — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 19:06:15 -0600

Hi, I'm here via a BlogHer post on Facebook. I think you have incredible courage sharing this here--reading it, I feel less alone. I know what it's like to be in a marriage that doesn't fill you, to doubt your ability to make it on your own, to question whether you have the skills it takes to come out of the house and make things work--especially since you have children who depend on you.

I wish I could give you a hug and let you know that you're not alone or crazy, that even though many of the women who read your words are states and worlds away, we're all here for you, able to listen, to console you, to commiserate, to counsel if you should need it.

If you feel like connecting with someone who was in a similar but completely different situation, feel free to send me a message through here: http://omgomgomfg.com/contact (I don't put my address on the web because of spammers.) Take care of you and let yourself cry. It was one of the best things I let myself do when I started questioning if my marriage filled me.

xo,
AV

So sorry...

debra roby — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 18:42:01 -0600

I some ways we are going through similar things. (our spouses..) As soon as I figure out how to earn my keep, I am outta here.

The depressions and problem sleeping was me last year. My doctor finally sent me to a psycho-neurologist who put me on meds. They help a lot. And he is FINALLY a doctor I have no problem calling when things aren't working. In the past? I'd swear I could tough through it with fortitude, diet and exercise. Those things help -but they are not a cure.

Hold on until you see your docs. If they are worth their title, you will be feeling better eventually.

Debra A Stitch In Time Weight for Deb

Ugh

TW — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 18:24:07 -0600

I am sorry to hear that you are going through all of this...hang in there.

~TW

Retro-Food

Uma Thurman Speaks About Motherhood

sapci — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 16:30:53 -0600

Here is the video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P4x2zLO9y2o

Hi GinaThanks for mentioning

lnuhaan — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 20:58:25 -0600

Hi Gina

Thanks for mentioning FamiliLink. We also want it to make it as easy for everyone else to communitate with our older FamiliLink user. The family can continue to use their preferred form of communication. For example photos sent as an email attachment to a FL user will automatically display on their page

Best

Laura Nuhaan

www.famililink.com, everyone can be included in the digital family life, no need to be tech savvy, great for older adults and their loved ones

Dallas Divas and Daughters, episode 5

Christmas Girl — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 16:37:40 -0600

Here is the recap for episode 5. It was worse than the 4th one.

http://blog.peoplenewspapers.com/2009/11/03/dallas-divas-and-daughters-episode-5-recap/

I Love that Woman

AmyMusings — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 10:09:59 -0600

I want to take out Victor so she can be mine all mine.

Jenny, leave the yogurt out longer next time!!!

Amy Kehoe

www.amymusings.com

My Parents Never Fought, My Husband's Did

AmyMusings — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 09:31:10 -0600

My parents never fought. My husband's mom and step-dad fought until his mom ran out of steam. I avoid conflict. It makes my guts tie up in knots. The dog hides, the kids are on eggshells. So he doesn't understand why I always say "let's talk about it later." He wants to tick this "discussion" off of his to-do list. I think fights where you have your buttons pushed and it's not behavior you want to model for your children, should be fought when the kids aren't around. But to fight over things that you know you can resolve are constructive fights that the kids need to learn from so they know how to do it. There are healthy fights and unhealthy fights. The goal is to model the healthy fights, not no fighting at all and not fight until you drop.

Amy Kehoe