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Research leads to employment for some

prophetlady — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 01:05:49 -0600

You might consider it blowing money on research, but someone got paid. In todays times people need to make a living and a research enables this process. I use to work for a variety of research companies, and I made a decent part time living doing it, and it placed food on my table.

I think you are more affected by the outcome of the statistics then the actual research itself, I hardly doubt the statistics are lying or are inaccurate in the findings of this particular study.

try not to take it so hard, and look at it as a paid study that someone made a living from, and that was the end result

Sure, why not?

TheBeerLady — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 09:15:39 -0600

sorry - double post!

Sure, why not?

TheBeerLady — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 09:14:46 -0600

I get a kick out of the term personally - and yes, I fall into the cougar category. It was all I could do a couple of weeks ago not to laugh out loud when a guy referred to me as a cougar in the grocery store. I'm fairly certain he didn't realize I could hear him when he told his friend, "Dude, check the cougar with the pink hair - I would totally do her." Shoot, he seemed to mean it as a compliment, so it's all good...

Women and the Great Depression

dkdanielson — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 10:15:38 -0600

Hi Suzanne - Thanks for including us in this. Glad to see people discussing the topic and not assuming it has "gone away." Your comments made me think back to some of my historical research about women in the Great Depression. Here's actually a good summary of how the women's movement stalled during the Great Depression, yet there are some parallels to what is going on now. http://www.novelguide.com/a/discover/egd_02/egd_02_00550.html.

P.S. I'm with you on the more male caregivers being a big deal. It's an interesting twist. Especially because more people miss work for elder care than child care and it's going to be am even bigger issue. I'm thinking that maybe it's son's out of work? having to move back home? or Single/Divorced? Also, I note that my brother will have the responsibility because he lives near my parents. So, it may be a geographic thing.

Diane K. Danielson ceo, DowntownWomensClub.com

Women and the Great Depression

dkdanielson — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 09:46:13 -0600

Diane K. Danielson ceo, DowntownWomensClub.com

Greatest.Study.Ever!

Suzanne Reisman — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 20:14:19 -0500

OMG. I cannot imagine what the funding requests for that study looked like.

Suzanne Reisman, Contributing Editor - Feminism & Gender Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Oth

And then there's the sleep issue!

zip_n_tizzy — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 18:21:49 -0500

My husband told me last night, about a study he'd read that confirmed that men who sleep in the same bed with their wives are more likely to have atrophied brains. So not only do we need to worry about birth order, who's dumber when we marry, but we also have to make sure we give our husbands their own beds.

Maybe we should run a study on the people conducting these studies, eh?

I suspect that'll reveal more than the studies themselves!

The Doomed Wives Club

Suzanne Reisman — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 11:03:38 -0500

I noticed an interesting theme here: almost all the lovely comments on this post are from women like me who married younger men. Perhaps we should start a "Doomed Wives Group" or something like that on BlogHer. Then researchers can find us and document our horrible sad lives as women who foolishly married men "on the basis of love, physical attraction, similarity of taste, beliefs and attitudes, and shared values" rather solely based on age and IQ. Actually, let's go one step further and include people who want to form long-lasting partnerships with someone who is the same sex. The Doomed Partners Group...

Bill, of course, is right that the survey is not designed to find out what makes women happy, although I'd argue that the idea that marrying a younger woman is guaranteed to make a man is happy is as ridiculous as saying that all men prefer blondes.

Suzanne Reisman, Contributing Editor - Feminism & Gender Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Oth

No to "cougars"

Suzanne Reisman — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 10:56:16 -0500

No, I don't think women should be called cougars. It is ridiculous. Thanks for sharing your link. “reeeeaaarrrr” :)

Suzanne Reisman, Contributing Editor - Feminism & Gender Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Oth

SHOULD WOMEN BE CALLED COUGARS

jilly3 — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 09:16:00 -0500

I am married to a man three years younger then me.

I invite you to come read my post titled, SHOULD WOMEN BE CALLED COUGARS: http://www.isdisnormal.com/2009/07/29/feeling-cougar/.

hehehe

Bill Cammack — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 03:49:56 -0500

You basically made the most important point in the beginning with

"I love that the headline says that men should choose younger, smarter women in order to be happy, but it doesn't say whether this makes women happy or not."

That's basically what this "study" was about.. How MEN can be happier in marriage. Women don't actually figure in at all other than the fact that men need to get married to them. Perhaps there's a parallel study (of course there isn't :D) about what parameters women require to be happy in their marriages.

The "findings" are obvious, however. Since most guys select women visually, of course they're going to stay married longer to younger women because younger women become older "more slowly" than older women. Guys are going to remain "content" longer because it takes the younger woman longer for her looks to change.

It's also obvious that she needs to be smarter than he is. If she's dumber, assuming that he's not a Rocket Scientist to begin with, you end up with two people that can't effectively communicate and without communication, a relationship's doomed.

The 5 years part I don't necessarily agree with because there's no magic formula that X-5 years makes you compatible with a female for a relationship. I think the conclusions were necessarily skewed because when guys stop dating gals their age, we practically always go younger instead of older. Assuming that we learned what we didn't like from our previous relationship, we would have selected a more compatible female from the pool of YOUNGER women, which means that the relationship to the new gal is better because we chose from the position of an educated opinion and not merely because she was much younger than we are.

~ Bill
I blog at billcammack.com

Eek. I Meant Younger

cluelesscrafter — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 17:11:45 -0500

in my post above.

I must be senile already. I should have expected as much.

http://www.thecluelesscrafter.com/

Yes, this one really strikes me as a money-making machine

LucindaA — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 09:55:03 -0500

more than an actual concern for health. Grrr...

Please Don't Label Me...

TheBlackTortoise — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 08:30:55 -0500

My husband is six years younger than me. We've known each other for 19 years. Which of us is smarter is yet to be determined. Come to think of it, it's probably me because the two of us met when I was raising four teenagers on my own. Anyone taking all that on has got to be either really dumb, have a screw loose, or be a candidate for sainthood.

All that said, why must I be labeled? Especially as some kind cat? And why the need for a beauty contest? I am so much more than what I look like, whether I'm a mom, or the age differential between me and my husband. I'm complex enough that I haven't quite figured myself out yet. So don't try to put little check-boxes next to my characteristics and then squeeze me into a pre-defined category. That's about as meaningful as trying to squeeze into my high-school prom dress.

Adela www.theblacktortoise.com

I married a man older than

cluelesscrafter — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 07:59:03 -0500

I married a man older than I. Though I wonder if I have a chance at true love with my condition?

Yup, the ol' uterus is tilted. A bene?

On pins and needles for the next study. Until then I self loathe. . .

http://www.thecluelesscrafter.com/

BlogHer - Europe - Comments

Research leads to employment for some

Sure, why not?

Sure, why not?

Women and the Great Depression

Women and the Great Depression

Greatest.Study.Ever!

And then there's the sleep issue!

The Doomed Wives Club

No to "cougars"

SHOULD WOMEN BE CALLED COUGARS

hehehe

Eek. I Meant *Younger*

Yes, this one really strikes me as a money-making machine

Please Don't Label Me...

I married a man older than

Eek. I Meant Younger