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Save the words

BrownPaper — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 22:59:23 -0500

Ah, if you like odd and unruly words, check out http://savethewords.org/

It's run by the Oxford dictionary people. You can adopt a word that is slipping out of usage. They also have suggestions on how to spread unusual words--in tattoos, for e.g., or names for pets. All great fun, and plenty of words beginning with sch.

Niranjana Iyer

http://niranjana.wordpress.com

What works for me.

Happy2008 — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 07:32:44 -0500

I have a very busy schedule balancing work, kids, household and freelance work.

What it works for me is to create a schedule and a to-do list for each area in my life and work at one list at a time ticking the tasks off.

1) Work (Teaching)

2) Children/family

3) Household chores

4) Freelance writing/webdesigning

Dominique

Elementary teacher, mom to two boys, freelance writer and parentpreneur

www.dominiquegoh.com

www.savyhipparentpreneur.com

WWW-Love

JonJonsMom — Mon, 04 May 2009 15:24:00 -0500

I spend a lot of time on the Internet. This is a fact that I can not deny. But "addiction" is such a dirty world. Can't we just call it WWW-Love or something? Being a SAHM of a 3 month old, in the country, can be pretty solitary. There are days that if I did not "talk" to friends through email or Facebook, I would have no adult conversation to speak of. So Amen to the Internet. Thank you for not letting me feel like I have to just go "goo goo goo" all day long.

http://ponytailsandslippers.blogspot.com/

I feel its a bit of an over

ami.bunch — Sun, 03 May 2009 17:27:09 -0500

I feel its a bit of an over reaction to state the internet as an addiction! At least not in the sense of catagorizing it with alcohol. As a new mom, in a small town, I feel it is vital to my sanity to participate in the "world wide web." How else am I to connect with other human beings while my husband is at work and my baby is still to young to speak? I would go stir crazy without being able to connect and explore all that the internet has to offer. I feel like there is so much to LEARN out there. SO, when my internet goes out and I get irratated because I haven't had it for one day, do not compare me to an alcoholic please. Instead compare me to a plant that with sun and water thrives, but without it for a day is slightly wilted and thirsty.

It's All About Balance

sugarbritches26 — Sat, 02 May 2009 21:00:29 -0500

I'm addicted. I know it. I admit it. But I try hard, when I know I've been ON IT a little too long to take a tech free break. It's hard. I crave it like caffeine, but I know my kids need me more during the day. So at night, like now when they're in bed, you're all mine Internetz. Mine. Mine. Mine.

A.A.

When I was a single mom, the

sidhesays — Fri, 01 May 2009 15:04:34 -0500

When I was a single mom, the Internet kept me connected and sane. Now that I'm happily involved, I find the Internet to be a blessed sanctuary - a place where I have my own 'room'. I do agree that it can be addictive, but as with all things, moderate use is not just harmless, but in many cases, really helpful!

SidheSays

I'm totally not addicted, really

AmberS — Fri, 01 May 2009 00:14:28 -0500

ISometimes you need something to get you through the day when you have little kids. My grandmother watched soaps all day, for example. If the internet does it for you, that's great. If you're happy with how much time you're spending and how you're spending it, and you're not using your grocery money to buy bandwidth, why should anyone else judge?

Something becomes a problem only when it's not working for you or your family. Most of the moms I'm familiar with online are very attentive parents looking for an outlet or a network. I see no harm in that, and possibly a great deal of help. Really, do we need yet another thing to pick on moms for?

As for me, I can quit anytime I want to. I just, you know, don't want to. ;)

~ Amber

www.strocel.com

Such a subjective thing...

nelle2nelle — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 20:37:59 -0500

and generally think one knows if they have issues - sooner or later.

I had issues; I know now.

I'm not going to share long details, but I'll give the short version.

Gender dysphoric, deny until 40s, begins to tear apart, support in home is only to bury not solve, increasingly needy, increasingly seek support online, completely blow off self-employed work (for two years), and eventually take out everything that was my life, harming way too many in the process as I became totally dysfunctional.

I doubt any of you are within a continent of such a scorched-earth place, so relax and have fun!

llhaesa

Nope

phdinparenting — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 20:36:41 -0500

No, they wouldn't be happier.

They'd be happier if you were barefoot, pregnant and in the kitchen.

PhD in Parenting - http://phdinparenting.com

Once again..we are supposed to sit down and shut up..

Crunchy Carpets — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 19:33:23 -0500

No outlets for us! OOOOOH no.

Granted if you are not feeding your children or yourself because of your addiction....then you may have a problem..

But it all feels again like targeting moms..make us feel bad AGAIN...heaven forfend we have something we like that is not focused around our kids and crafts.

Look for me at http://crunchycarpets.com or check out the ladies at www.wetcoastwomen.com

and! and!

Erin Kotecki Vest — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 19:25:13 -0500

(as I defend my addiction further)

What if I were yaking on the phone all the time with my girlfriends....would that make everyone happier?

Does anyone realize that I read books, read magazines, watch shows, yakk with my girlfriends, etc etc etc ON THE INTERNET????

Politics & News Contributing Editor
Queen of Spain

here's the thing

Erin Kotecki Vest — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 19:23:51 -0500

If I were to sit here and read a magazine instead, would everyone be happier?

If I were to sit here and watch soap operas...would everyone be happier?

What if I read the paper? a book?

Because I do all that with my laptop.

I'm not sure it's an addiction in so much that it's where everything has GONE.

Politics & News Contributing Editor
Queen of Spain

I don't think it's actually an addiction

shellab — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 13:04:27 -0500

Is it really an addiction? Does this also mean you're addicted to electricity or your phone or the mail? I think the question comes up because not to long ago the internet was a luxury that a small subset of the population had and used. Now it's getting to where the internet is replacing things that are considered critical infrastructure. You check your e-mail because it's more common to get communication that way then from the post office. You chat on IM because it's easier and more powerful then chatting on the phone.

10 years ago were people talking about addiction if a mother at home was on the phone with friends during the day or if she had groups that she was a part of? People are social creatures, and if you're a mom you need that connection with other adults. It might be on the internet, it might be meeting with other moms at the park, or whatever. It certainly can become an addiction, but I think the vast majority of moms who are on the internet most of the time are not addicted. It's just that the internet has replaced other forms of socialization and communication.

I'm addicted

mochadad — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 10:55:22 -0500

I'm addicted to the internet and I'm fine with that.

Mocha Dad

http://www.mochadad.com

I have come close to

lilmommythatcould — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 10:53:42 -0500

I have come close to quitting many times, but I just can't. It is my outlet.

I look at it this way, my sister-in-law goes downstairs every night and on the weekend and scrapbooks. She does it all the time, and if she doesn't she can go a little crazy. Does she have a "scrapping"addiction? No,she is just getting out her creative jucies. Why is blogging and being on Twitter during the day different.

I have talked to other older moms about this and everyone of them said they wished they had an outlet like we have now. How many questions would have been answered, feelings comforted when you are at your worse.

It is all about the dreaded "BALANCE" You just gotta have it. I know I can shut the laptop- I get out with my kids. I know I have the balance.

~Susan

http://lilmomthatcould.com/