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hello to all from Roselotus here

roselotus — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 21:16:36 -0500

Hello, I am Roselotus and this is a post at my newer blog. Could use some followers if anyone is interested (?) Can do a trade too, just tell me about your blog and its address. Thanks alot & do appreciate it!

warmest wishes,

Roselotus

www.spiritsoulchat.blogspot.com

I agree...

shillberry — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 16:28:24 -0500

Thanks, Vanessa. I agree that things are often bigger than us. It helps to consider that, and to be okay feeling up and down.

I appreciate the encouragement!

Bigger than us

notyourmotherscrazy — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 13:32:42 -0500

Sometimes we need to recognize and understand that the things that we're dealing wiht are bigger than us. At that point we need to decide whether we cahgre against them and deal with he agressively or whether we take the calm approach and wait out the storm while we try and keep our minds in a "steady" place. Sounds like this is where you are. Just don't forget to let yourself feel. There isn't a right and a worng way to feel. You just do it and then try to move past it.

I was a basket case tyring to conceive my daughter and deal with miscarriages. It makes you crazy. Good luck. You'll be in my thoughts.

Vanessa

The crazy girl behind http://notyourmotherscrazy.com

LOL - Yes, Somedays I Really Don't Want To Cope

Gena Haskett — Fri, 05 Jun 2009 07:04:21 -0500

I'm not a good cusser. I'm more of a rant, cuss, ranter. I have been in the presence of those that have let it rip as they verbally assaulted another person. Not for the faint of heart.

There are a special few who can do it without using the 7 words you can't say on TV. Those folks are scary good at it.

You are right, it should only be used in the most extreme or provoking situation. The people who constantly cuss other people out for petty reasons generally have no power, language skills or self-esteem.

There are certain legendary contestants on reality TV shows that prove my point.

Baden Powell - hadn't thought of him for years. I think I read his biography when I was a kid. How the world has changed.

Gena - Out On The Stoop

Coloured pencils

kazari — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 23:43:33 -0500

When I'm angry, drawing a picture of how i feel (with lots of red and scribbles ) really, really helps. my favourite one lately was a small girled curled up in the corner of the page and a big scream trumpet saying 'I DON"T WANT TO COPE!!!' across the rest of the page. lots of red and black and yellow.

then i could look at it, and say, yes, that is how i feel, and put it away.

and about the cussing - it sounds like you're good at it! But I like the quote by Baden Powell (victorian guy who invented scouts) - i don't know it exactly but he says that cursing is such powerful stress relief that we should save it for the most stressful situations. this allows it to retain it's power, and also stops us inadvertently letting rip in front of an inappropriate audience...

Seaching For The Right Physical Activity

Gena Haskett — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 21:28:07 -0500

I do need to find something - in my fantasy it is boxing or learn how to become a ninja. That ain't gonna happen but I can visualize being victorious as I concur the forces of evil.

I do a lot of walking but I think you are right; there has to be a committed daily exercise to move the toxins out.

Stagnation, yeah I should be so lucky. I just know I'll be on the re-incarnation express because it does seem like it is taking way longer than it should for certain lessons to kick in.

Life is a process and a journey. I just want a better road map is all. I have spoken to the Head Deity in Charge about this often.

I can hear the laughter from here.
Gena - Out On The Stoop

A few responses

Candelaria Silva — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 17:28:50 -0500

I feel you and hear you and been you, well not you, but where you are.

Cussin' - sometimes we have to succumb to that urge. Carolyn Rodgers wrote poetry in the late 60s and 70s and she had a great political piece called "The Last Motherf..." If you've never read it, you must find it.

Lamaze breathing - I do deep breathing that I was taught in Lamaze classes many years ago to regulate my thoughts when I get too angry for my own good.

Walking - I've been committed to walking for some time - 2-3 times a week with 1 or 2 friends, 3-5 times a week by myself doing errands. I take diffierent routes. We sometimes catch the T and go to different places - like a garden, the waterfront, etc. It chills me out more than anything except dancing.

Books - I enjoyed a book "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway." I read it more than 10 years ago I believe, but it struck a chord with me and has helped me since. I also read the prayers in Illuminata by Marianne Williamson a lot. They are calming.

Drafting - I draft a love of angry missives, 99% of which never see the light of day because writing it or saying it aloud helps me clear my head, heart and energy.

If you "were as enlightened as you wanted to be at this point in your life" there's be no more room for growth and taht stagnation would be worse.

Sometimes, you just got to get somone/some institution, told! (I wrote a piece on my blog called "The Missives are in the Air." Check it out when you've a moment.

I'll check out the video above. Thanks for the post.

http://blog.candelarisilva.com

http://examiner.com/x-2478-Boston-Domestic-Issues_Examiner

Good and plenty!

Internal Self-Defense for Kids - Yes A Wonderful Idea

Gena Haskett — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 17:49:34 -0500

I do like to find a positive outlet for anger by transforming it. There are times however when I go from zero to 60 and the mental brakes aren't working.

Not as many as when I was younger but I think I beat myself up more for being angry than the actual thing that flipped me off.

I like what you taught your nephew. Internal self-defense. A mighty weapon.

Thanks,

Gena - Out On The Stoop

One of the toughest lessons

Creatively Belle — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 08:18:37 -0500

When I was in the depths of grief I had to learn the lesson that one of the hardest things to do in life is to direct appropriate anger in the appropriate direction, in the appropriate way.

I'm still learning the lesson but at least now I'm aware of it.

At the time I was going through the anger stage of grief and wanting to snap at people in public. I got to thinking that the old tradition of wearing a black arm band to signify that you're in mourning made a heap of sense - then strangers wouldn't take it so personally when you did eat their heads.

Well this approach wasn't working. My solution was to see a grief counsellor to find a better way through. It worked. And it gave me longer lasting skills too. Now I get upset about things but I cool off faster and sooner. I have more balance. I also know what to compare the crap things in life to. So figuring out the small things or what I can't change is easier to let go.

It's all still a process but that's fine too, it means I'm human.

On a note about cussing, I taught my nephew how to come up with a string of insults for bullies at school who were ruining his self-esteem. He never said them to their faces but he did end up laughing about the nasty prats by coming up with ridiculous insults for them. My aim was to take their power away and, to a degree, that's what we did.

All the best,

Belinda

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Thanks for sharing your favorite podcasts Kia and Tracy

Britt Bravo — Mon, 18 May 2009 19:20:36 -0500

Tracy - Do you mean that you get updates of new podcasts in Google Reader, or that you have them show up on your iGoogle page--or both!

Top 5 Podcasts

Kia — Sat, 16 May 2009 08:45:36 -0500

The Sound of Young America

The Splendid Table

Sound Opinions

Democracy Now!

Tell Me More

And there are tons more...

My husband had an ipod years before I did because I was a happy dinosaur with my music cds and ratty cassette tapes. Once I finally wised up, I couldn't believe the number of fantastic shows that were now available to me.

Kia

http://theseagreenhouse.blogspot.com

My favorites

TracyD — Sat, 16 May 2009 08:11:38 -0500

I love pod casts. Sometimes I cannot work without listening to my favorite local radio program. Sometimes it is an hour old, other times it can be a week old, but I don’t care since I have my buddies in my ear.

My favorite podcast is The Wallstreet Journal This Morning. This is up to date information regarding business and trends. The hosts are fun to listen to and give their funny sidebar comments. You can find these free podcasts in Google Reader gadget and on iTunes. I have it on my Google page where I can get to it immediately and I also download all my favorites into my iTunes where I can carry all of them with me while traveling and working out. (Ok, I am a talk show junkie!).

Thanks for the article.

-Tracy

Part 2

Peppermint Patty — Sat, 14 Mar 2009 09:18:07 -0500

Susan,

No you haven't missed Part 2. I'm planning to publish it early next week.

Thanks for your interest.

P.P.

I'm dying to read Part II.

Susan Doherty — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 23:52:20 -0500

I'm dying to read Part II. Have I missed it?

Susan Doherty

Six Minute Style

Little Show. Big Ideas

www.sixminutestyle.com (& http://sixminutestyle.blogspot.com/)

Miracle Journal

msteidle — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 05:29:06 -0600

What a great idea! The big things don't always go the way we'd like them to. When we learn to appreciate the little things in life, we can derive satisfaction and joy from an otherwise stressful or unhappy situation. I've enjoyed the new fallen snow - so peaceful.