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So true

mashadutoit — Fri, 19 Dec 2008 09:38:19 -0600

You know, for me one of the most frightening moments come (usually in the middle of a fight, like this one you describe) when my husband says something which makes me suddenly realise that - we have been experiencing totally utterly completely different realities. And that I dont know how to cross that gap.

I find it so very scary. But in your case, it was a positive thing, if you can put it that way. A "re-framing" that made it possible for you to step outside the situation and go - "actually, no".

Wow

It is amazing what getting

Kian Yamaguchi — Fri, 14 Nov 2008 18:03:14 -0600

It *is* amazing what getting a full night's sleep will do for you. My baby (the youngest of my 7) is 18 months. I stopped nursing him at 16 months. I got a full nights sleep shortly thereafter and lo-and-behold, I'm nearly human again.

I still can't get anything done with him and his 3 year old brother hanging on me, but at least I'm sleeping.

Good luck!

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So glad you're sharing your

katstone — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:40:02 -0500

So glad you're sharing your feelings -- your trials and tribulations. It's so important for women to feel safe telling the truth about new motherhood.

It is true that sleep management is a very important tool in dealing with PPD. Your doctor is EXACTLY right that no amount of meds or therapy will help you get better if you're being tortured by endless sleep deprivation.

Even those of us who can't afford night nurses -- which is almost ALL of us -- can get some sleep. My husband and I had a 2-nights on, 2-nights off deal. For two nights I got up with the baby the entire night, and for the next two nights I slept soundly throughout the entire night in a room without a monitor and knew that my husband was in charge. And yes, he had a job to go to in the morning. But that's life. In sickness and in health, right? He knew this was what he had to do for our entire family to get healthy.

And it helped immensely. The truth is studies show that unless you get 5 hours in a row of sleep, what you are getting is NOT helpful.

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You're Not Alone

Teresa B — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 15:52:49 -0500

I have had 3 children and have suffered with ppd with all three of them. The last one was by far the worst, because you of course have to still be mom to 3 children, right? My youngest is 3 and we are finally seeing a little light at the end of the sleep tunnel, but the fact that he is now sleeping in my bed could be something there (insert bad parenting note here).

Please know that it will get better, you will start to see old glimpses of yourself, and eventually get a night's sleep. You are lucky to have a hubby willing to take the nighttime responsibilities from you, be happy there.

Good Luck & Good Night!

Teresa

Therapy is Good

MiaHysteria — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 08:14:57 -0500

Therapy is good no matter who you are.

We all have issues that we can't resolve on our own or with friends and family. Go Angelina (whom I initially was 'against' with the whole Angelina/Brad/Jennifer drama) and Go Her Bad Mother!!!!!!

~Mia.

My blog is General Hysteria~

From another sleep deprived mama

Cassandra — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 11:37:17 -0500

It's been over a year since I've had more than 4 hours of uninterrupted sleep. On good nights I will get a single stretch of 4. That happens maybe once a month. I feel your pain. I knew before I got pg that this would be the hardest part for me. It sucks to be right. My daughter was born 3 months premature, so I got to start the sleep deprivation cycle early. I am too sleep deprived to be the kind of mama I want to be, need to be, KNOW I can be, and yet, caring for her means I cannot get the sleep I need. It's a vicious cycle.

All I have to say is night nurses are all well and good, but they don't work for those of us who breastfeed unless they are WET nurses, too.

I've been in therapy for about a month and a half now, with a PhD, not an MD, so no meds for me, yet, but I'm sure that once she weans, I'm going to need help getting my body to figure out it is allowed to sleep the EIGHT HOURS IN A ROW I DESPERATELY require.

This is so important for other struggling moms

Vered — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 23:29:01 -0500

It's wonderful that you're sharing your struggle. On your blog and here.

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Chutzpah

rebellious thinker — Sun, 29 Jun 2008 07:52:14 -0500

Yes, there is at least one person who made it through your post. I only lasted three sessions in counseling before heading for the Bid D.

Chutzpah is a Yiddish word (a amalgam of Hebrew and German) and not only does it mean what dictionary.com said it did--but it is a compliment. That is what you should take away from the counselor's comment. To not hide away from confrontation, to not do what is expected of you when it counters what you want--that is chutzpah.

Laura (blogging at www.rebelliousthoughtsofawoman.com)

A Work in Progress Being Built Well!

SandyHov — Sun, 15 Jun 2008 08:10:49 -0500

I'm so sorry your childhood church experience freaked you out. I'm really glad you're opening yourself up to the adventure of finding God, not just religion. There are lots of churches with rockin' electric guitars and drums and keyboards and pastors who teach Truth and love the folks who walk through the door. Keep looking until you find that place. In the meantime, you're doing lots of things right...God didn't give us a brain to not use it, avoid the judging (that's religion, not an adventure or relationship with God), and know that you're right -- God is wildly crazy about you, not standing up there waiting to hammer you down. Rather, He's waiting to welcome you home! Be blessed cool ass mom!

Sandy, www.apprehendinggrace.com