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You deserve better

tarawhitneysims — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 16:11:18 -0600

Your headline stood out to me. You are an amazing, loving, and devoted women from what you wrote. When you devote your life to someone, and they don't appreciate you; You feel like you should have done more, did things differently...hell I don't know. In the end he will feel like an idiot. No women will ever give him what you have. Go out and have fun.

But you're real

lulamae — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 18:41:56 -0500

I think a lot of men get to a point in their life where they realize that women do have bodily functions, and if this man is in a medical profession he is probably one of them. It's certainly doesn't stop the situation from being embarassing but remember, you'll always be his first ;)

Seriuously though, he sees way worse things. If you two are meant to work out it will happen and if not he is actually not allowed to tell his friends. Laws and all that.

Good Luck!

Lula Mae

www.queenofquirky.com &

queenofquirky — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 12:30:08 -0500

oops double comment. :)

No excuses

queenofquirky — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 12:28:34 -0500

www.queenofquirky.com & www.quirkywedding.wordpress.com

Wow, it's terrifiyng to be a human being in a monogomous relationship, isn't it? I guess it's really all about trust, but wow, those comments top the cake. (Not the wedding cake though. :))

you DO deserve the best!

MaryanneLive — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 18:11:04 -0500

you go, girl! this sounds like something i would've written as advice to someone stuck in the not-so-great relationship trap. sounds like you are EXACTLY where you need to be - comfortable with yourself, getting what YOU want out of life. BRAVO! and keep us posted!

<3 maryanne

https://www.maryannelive.com

Catty Women

foxyc — Sat, 21 Feb 2009 16:01:33 -0600

You have a point. I agree that the example should be set by those in charge, but, I've seen some folks with the title abuse that standard. It surely depends upon the integrity of women as a whole.

Catty Women

foxyc — Sat, 21 Feb 2009 15:57:55 -0600

Honesty does have its place, but, should we be brutally honest at another person's expense? I don't know, I just think women in particular should be 'intuitive' enough to know where to draw the line...

Office culture

nelle2nelle — Sat, 21 Feb 2009 12:33:22 -0600

It need not be this way.

Oh, people are human and we have moods, people get ticked at one another, etc, but an office culture can be set at a high standard where this is minimal, if everyone is on board.

I work with eleven others, and we manage just fine, probably the long term core group will have none of this nonsense. We focus forward, our boss watches our back, we watch hers, and we watch out for each other.

People often do not think that each co-worker is in fact a customer to us, and we really need to think in such terms when questions arise, and interaction takes place. I might have fifty cases ready to work, but if one of our newer adjudictors needs assistance, I will spare no effort to assist and guide them.

When a supervisor will have none of it, when most of the staff will have none of it, it is not very likely to surface. It all starts with... us.

nelle

llhaesa

Sharp tongues

mashadutoit — Sat, 21 Feb 2009 12:25:14 -0600

Some people just have such sharp tongues.

I've known a couple - and they have not all been women. They seem to have this ungovernable need to say that clever nasty thing that they've just thought of.

Is it because they are insecure? I'm not sure. But it can be hard because its always passed off as a "joke". I've often had to go along with it, pretending to laugh when its not that funny at all. Its quite humiliating, and it certainly erodes your relationship with the person involved.

What is worse - when it becomes that "I'm an honest person" thing. So their honesty gives them liscence to say whatever they like. Hmmm.

Thanks Denise, Just threw

foxyc — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 10:01:45 -0600

Thanks Denise,

Just threw that cookie part in for a bit of flavor:) perhaps for the guys...

Clara

My g/f made gingerbread vaginas once

Denise — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 07:37:42 -0600

So there's really no secret to baking vagina cookies. Use your favorite cookie recipe, mold the vaginas by hand and bake.

~Denise
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Flamingo House Happenings

It's just easy...

paulahu — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 06:12:19 -0600

I've experienced this before and I've always thought it provides an easy way for them to explain away an old relationship with having to go into detail and, of course, without accepting any blame themselves...

Paula

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They're ALL crazy, I say!

jadedthinker — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 19:41:18 -0600

I have wondered the same thing, many times. Why are their ex' always crazy? Was she not crazy when you met her? Or is she crazy because YOU couldn't figure out how to make it work? I wonder how many have called me crazy? It may be nice to take a poll, "How many people have you told that I was crazy?" I think it's a great idea not to date a guy who says his ex was crazy, mostly because I KNOW I'm not crazy!

All ex-girlfriends are crazy psychos

nannygoats — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 18:02:04 -0600

Because women MUST be crazy to leave a lying, cheating, abusive man, right?

Margaret

Nanny Goats In Panties (www.nannygoatsinpanties.com)

You can't possibly believe

searchingwithin — Sat, 20 Dec 2008 08:33:48 -0600

You can't possibly believe that a mistress helped keep a marriage together, unless it was from the man's viewpoint. You can't possibly believe that the wives did not care, and more obsurdly because they were too tired to take care of their wifely duties, so they left it up to the mistresses.

The era that you are speaking about, left these women with no other choice, not only to earn a livelyhood from being a prositute or mistress, because their were no other opportunities for them, or to stay with a man who cheated, because they had no other form of support.

Women today don't put up with it, because the men are sloppier about it, but because they no longer have to live with, be supported by, and be degraded by a man.