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wow

Marguerita99 — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 14:35:55 -0500

you know what? At least you found out now. This could have happened in 12 years when your child *remembered* it. At least your son will be spared that.

Good news

AmberS — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 23:35:31 -0500

I think it's great that they were able to reach an amicable decision. With all parties willing to work together in the childrens' best interests, you know that the kids will be OK. If only every family were willing to be so adult and put the kids first.

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Good on them for reaching a

mrsalexhad — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 22:59:13 -0500

Good on them for reaching a decision so quickly and without all the hoop la.

Maybe Debbie just didn't want to be around Michael and now she has the opportunity to get to know those kids. People and their priorities change.

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I just feel so terrible

mishahogan — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 15:57:05 -0500

I just feel so terrible about this - it breaks my heart.

So infuriating!

Giyen — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 21:55:15 -0500

They take kids from where they shouldn't and leave kids where they should be taken away. I can never understand the actions of DHS and can only pray for some consistency and thoughtfulness in their actions - on behalf of the kids!

Sheesh!

Giyen

It's sad....

futureblackmail — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 08:26:00 -0500

...this happens all too often. It's one of the things my family has been fighting for quite some time. We have my stepson with us and we are the ones that have to prove our every move to make sure we can keep him EVEN though his mother commited a sexual crime against a child and has repeatedly been hauled in for abusing him.

It's so sad to think there are situations out there that warrant the system to "take another look" and they don't. Although it's a job to these people - they are messing with our children's lives and their futures.

Thanks for the post.

Wrong In So Many Ways

maggiemae13 — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 22:57:17 -0500

Is there not one government agency, on any level, that does not need a complete overhaul? If they were reuniting these kids with their parents for the right reasons, they would not have been taken away like they were felons on the run. There should have been meetings with everyone present and plans and a timetable. The kids and their sister (guardian) would have been able to be proactive about the change if and when it happened. I can't speak for Virginia, but I know for a fact DHS and CPS (child protective services) in the state I live in are overworked. The right hands have no idea what the lefts are doing. Their policies and methods are not consistent with their goals and code of ethics. Based on the story, it sounds like the state of Virginia is suffering the same problems. The very sad and especially scary thing is it ends up being the children that go through the most heartache and suffering.

Good thoughts coming your way

Denise — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 17:28:19 -0500

Really good thoughts.

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avflox — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 07:23:40 -0600

I really like Alice's reflections at NOT2WO about donated body parts, but I don't think it's about ego. It's about hurt and shame. Whether it's true that his wife cheated on him or not, the fact that he believes it means he stands shamed on top of being hurt.

This, the heroic act of giving a physical part of himself to save his wife, is the one thing he has over her. Much as someone would moan, "oh, I gave him the best years of my life," or, "I helped her get to where she is in her career," or whatever other miserable reflection when wounded, he is now crying over his lost kidney.

It doesn't make it right, of course. I'm in accord that this does not bode well for him in terms of custody of his children, their relationship with him, or his career as a doctor, but it does paint him as human and in a lot of pain. And that pain, as well as that completely insane, irrational, even villainous rage is something I can understand. Not justify, but understand.

Having said that, he should fire his attorney immediately.

When the story first broke, I asked my husband if he would ask for an organ back if we got a divorce after he donated it. He said no, but he would ask for his boobs back.

We laughed, but I don't think he was joking.

Glad I don't have implants. Weirdo.

Grow Up

Tracy Evans — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 13:15:51 -0600

This guy needs to grow up and get over it for the sake of his kids. And no creep you can't have the kidney back. But what you really want of course is a big court settlement.

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Amazing. The depths to

Michelle McKinley — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 11:33:23 -0600

Amazing. The depths to which people will sink never ceases to amaze me.

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ethically challenged

codybacon — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 11:23:00 -0600

no surgeon ethically can remove Ms. Batista's kidney (did her MD husband take the hypocritical oath upon med school graduation?). and aside from the (illegal) commodification of a body part via the $1.5 million price tag, this valuation seems a tad high for an 8 year old transplant which is likely well past the half-way point of its life span.

if I was one of Dr. Batista's patients, I'd be searching for a new physician stat. I shudder to think of his ethics and values.

totally tacky

Rita Arens — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 10:50:29 -0600

Dude. Just ... dude.

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Wow!

JRobert484 — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 01:45:25 -0600

It was clearly a gift. He can take her to court but the law is pretty clear about gifts given durinng a marriage.

That story was almost as funny as this one!

http://www.broowaha.com/article.php?id=4468

Oh no...

RenaissanceTrophyWife — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 18:35:01 -0600

That is awful. While a kidney is not an inconsequential thing, it's also not something you can get back! Plus, it's not as if surgeons are the most pleasant people to live with, either...

How sad for the kids. They're always the ones that suffer most in divorce.

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