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I know this blog is a couple years old....

JamiSings — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 10:53:57 -0500

But in answer to the grooming question - I think it's important that you're clean down there. After all, they're sticking their nose near a very smelly part of your body.

I remember one time my regular doctor had to do a pap smear on another woman. Apparently she was SO filthy and smelly that she had little balls of you know what clinging to the hairs. My GP ran out of the room and outside, sucking down great mouthfuls of air to try and avoid throwing up. We could hear the nurse ordering the woman to wash herself. (It's a small office.) When the woman came back she was still smelly and had little bits of paper stuck all over and we could hear her loudly proclaiming "That's good enough." She was ordered back to the bathroom to wash with soap.

So obviously some sort of grooming is important. That's why I always like my apointments first thing in the morning so I can be freshly bathed. I also increase my water intake a week or so prior as the more water you drink, the less your urine smells. So if I have to go right before the doctor sees me, I won't have that strong, nasty smell you get when you don't drink enough water.

I've never had a professional wax job and tend to shave along the panty line every day anyway.

~Jami JoAnne Russell~

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Mothers Act

blocker771 — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 09:05:48 -0500

Mother’s Act advocates get very shrill and angry at anyone who questions their advocacy and especially they get very shrill, angry and THREATENING towards anyone who presents the truth of what this bill is really all about, which they refuse to look at or discuss. The most repugnant aspect of this bill is how psychiatric interests work so hard to smoothly misrepresent the unnatural (drugging of pregnant mothers) as natural or okay when prior to psychotropic drugs, mothers were always counselled by traditional Western medical authorities not to take any drugs or as little as possible. How the authority of traditional doctors was usurped by nonmedical quasi medical(?) authorities would make an interesting investigation. Also, Mother’s Bill advocates are strangely silent about the birth defects that have been linked to these drugs and existing litigation against drug companies for compensation for the death, damage and disability to newborns linked to these drugs. The other point about the Mother’s Bill is that it is ironically named for a psychiatric victim and the legislation provides for millions of pregnant women to be able receive without their informed consent the damaging treatment that the woman named for this bill unfortunately was victimized by receiving without her informed consent.

That Vid

Therapy Doc — Mon, 11 May 2009 17:50:57 -0500

I can't believe I didn't know about this until I received the card from a patient! Next year, for sure.

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Thank you!

RavinPictureMaven — Mon, 11 May 2009 11:30:10 -0500

Thank you so much for supporting what we're doing at MOMocrats to support White Ribbon Alliance!

The other two groups are fantastic, too.

And online has offered me some of my favorite friends and best support as a person and a mother, so I say ENJOY!

Plus, the stories I've read today---oh we need that care for women.

Julie
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AmandaSteinberg — Fri, 08 May 2009 12:36:31 -0500

Is that sad? My own mother would say yes.

We understand. We support you! Don't be sad or ashamed.

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That video e-card

Nordette — Thu, 07 May 2009 18:08:06 -0500

I got such a kick out of the Mom's Rising Mother's Day video e-card that I found a way to put it in my Mother's Day books list for last minute shoppers. I also sent it to friends. I won't say my favorite part here because that would spoil it for someone else using the card. Mentioned Rita Arens also in that last minute shoppers book list. So many talented women online, you included, Morra. :-)

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It is amazing what getting

Kian Yamaguchi — Fri, 14 Nov 2008 18:03:14 -0600

It *is* amazing what getting a full night's sleep will do for you. My baby (the youngest of my 7) is 18 months. I stopped nursing him at 16 months. I got a full nights sleep shortly thereafter and lo-and-behold, I'm nearly human again.

I still can't get anything done with him and his 3 year old brother hanging on me, but at least I'm sleeping.

Good luck!

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So glad you're sharing your

katstone — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:40:02 -0500

So glad you're sharing your feelings -- your trials and tribulations. It's so important for women to feel safe telling the truth about new motherhood.

It is true that sleep management is a very important tool in dealing with PPD. Your doctor is EXACTLY right that no amount of meds or therapy will help you get better if you're being tortured by endless sleep deprivation.

Even those of us who can't afford night nurses -- which is almost ALL of us -- can get some sleep. My husband and I had a 2-nights on, 2-nights off deal. For two nights I got up with the baby the entire night, and for the next two nights I slept soundly throughout the entire night in a room without a monitor and knew that my husband was in charge. And yes, he had a job to go to in the morning. But that's life. In sickness and in health, right? He knew this was what he had to do for our entire family to get healthy.

And it helped immensely. The truth is studies show that unless you get 5 hours in a row of sleep, what you are getting is NOT helpful.

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Teresa B — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 15:52:49 -0500

I have had 3 children and have suffered with ppd with all three of them. The last one was by far the worst, because you of course have to still be mom to 3 children, right? My youngest is 3 and we are finally seeing a little light at the end of the sleep tunnel, but the fact that he is now sleeping in my bed could be something there (insert bad parenting note here).

Please know that it will get better, you will start to see old glimpses of yourself, and eventually get a night's sleep. You are lucky to have a hubby willing to take the nighttime responsibilities from you, be happy there.

Good Luck & Good Night!

Teresa

Therapy is Good

MiaHysteria — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 08:14:57 -0500

Therapy is good no matter who you are.

We all have issues that we can't resolve on our own or with friends and family. Go Angelina (whom I initially was 'against' with the whole Angelina/Brad/Jennifer drama) and Go Her Bad Mother!!!!!!

~Mia.

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From another sleep deprived mama

Cassandra — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 11:37:17 -0500

It's been over a year since I've had more than 4 hours of uninterrupted sleep. On good nights I will get a single stretch of 4. That happens maybe once a month. I feel your pain. I knew before I got pg that this would be the hardest part for me. It sucks to be right. My daughter was born 3 months premature, so I got to start the sleep deprivation cycle early. I am too sleep deprived to be the kind of mama I want to be, need to be, KNOW I can be, and yet, caring for her means I cannot get the sleep I need. It's a vicious cycle.

All I have to say is night nurses are all well and good, but they don't work for those of us who breastfeed unless they are WET nurses, too.

I've been in therapy for about a month and a half now, with a PhD, not an MD, so no meds for me, yet, but I'm sure that once she weans, I'm going to need help getting my body to figure out it is allowed to sleep the EIGHT HOURS IN A ROW I DESPERATELY require.

This is so important for other struggling moms

Vered — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 23:29:01 -0500

It's wonderful that you're sharing your struggle. On your blog and here.

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10 months pp with 1st

keito — Fri, 15 Aug 2008 13:02:42 -0500

I appreciated your post, and can definitely relate to the way you feel, especially about how feeling negative about your body feels anti-feminist. I've struggled with body image for a long time, but it's become especially troubling since I had my daughter. I'm still about 15-20 lbs away from my pp weight, but I'm trying not to obsess about losing the weight but on feeling healthy, positive and active. One thing that drives me CRAZY is when people talk about how breastfeeding "melts" the pounds off. I have absolutely not found this to be the case, and have found that at least 50% of my friends have had the same experience as me. I think it's genetics, plain and simple. I'm still nursing and plan to continue into the second year, so if I hold onto these pounds until then, so be it. I struggle every day-- alternating between feeling proud of my body and what it can do, and feeling disgusted by it. Although objectively, I know my body is not disgusting and I can see it as being beautiful, it doesn't feel beautiful most of the time. A person very close to me is struggling with an eating disorder right now, though, so I'm trying to keep it all in perspective. I look at her and she is so beautiful and it reminds me that other people could see me the same way, too. I totally agree, also, about media coverage of postpartum bodies affecting the way you feel about your own. You can't go anywhere without seeing how whoever dropped 40 lbs in two weeks. We live in a diseased society. Although I felt the same way at the time, you're only 7 weeks pp! Take care of yourself. I should mention, too, that I suffered quite severely from ppd, and it wasn't really apparent until about 8 wks pp, so I'm glad it's on your radar. As difficult as it is to do, because all of these things are related, you need to focus on your mental health and say F*** OFF to all of the societal pressure to be back to "normal." Take care.

I'm 10 weeks pp my 2nd

mamastoff — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 23:51:02 -0500

I'm 10 weeks pp my 2nd child and feeling the same way. I'm actually back to my pre-preg weight (was within 2 weeks thanks to the breastfeeding), BUT NOTHING is in it's right place! Not feeling as though there is any depression in a serious form, but I'm an emotional eater so when I feel down about my weight (or shape), I just eat more. And it really IS hard trying to not compare ourselves to the celebrities who can afford personal trainers and chefs and nutritionists, etc. I have to keep telling myself that if I had all of those people helping me along I'd be skinny in a matter of a couple of weeks too! I really do want to start working out but I just can't seem to muster up the energy with a 10 week old and a 2 year old. Does anyone have any advice for when and how they work out with little children??

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osoleomar48 — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 12:08:43 -0500

That the words cannot be able to tell..-

That the words cannot be able to tell, now tell as the image's power that's the pictures and the video's fragrances, you know. And if you would, please will u watching that , you're welcome now to me, because an artist that my way lives when her can will telling u on customizing the suit and quickly WEB's language too.
I could tell u, hours to hours, about the our BODY's intelligence, about the huge resources that his own, I should will u convincing about your will power if u doing the sincere alliance with your body , your mind and your heart, sameone, you will wishing by me another words more and more.
What u think about that?
Now , imaging u the INTERPETER, is your BODY, his ‘s very smart that his encode and decode always ,in the morning or in the night, when u sleeping or when u working, a lot of messages with as... it's all right that, but that's the ocean's of informations for him! Now , have a mind in that , please! YOU will helping him now! You will becoming an INTERPETER for him now that encode and decode a lot of messages with him.
Very simply you know! That ‘s all!

Granny "BELARDA"