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You're welcome

Candelaria Silva — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 13:29:45 -0600

Thank you for reading. I know what you mean about your "heart warming" when you see a dear friend after a long absence.

blog.candelariasilva.com

Good and plenty!

Where you been?

allison sciplin — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 12:07:42 -0600

I say that all the time. My heart warms when I see an dear friend after a long absence. My heart moves toward them when we hug, sometimes skips a beat or pauses when they leave. Whether a forever friend or for a time "family", the people in my life are the laughter, smiles and the smallest things that ask me to remember exactly who I am. Thank you for your words.

Allison

www.graceloveandpolitics.wordpress.com

Wouldn't it be great...

Candelaria Silva — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 19:28:42 -0600

If you could somehow gather the best of the bye-gone with the right-now and combine them. Something like having our cake and eating it,too!

blog.candelariasilva.com

Good and plenty!

Thanks for your comments

Candelaria Silva — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 19:26:47 -0600

We do have an investment in the people who form the landscape of our lives.

blog.candelariasilva.com

Good and plenty!

I know just what you mean.

Colormepink — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 17:41:41 -0600

I know just what you mean. There are so many times that I almost have to remind myself that I don't actually know the people whose lives I'm so invested in! On the other hand, I know almost nothing about the people I see in the stores every week while I run errands.

And White Castle? I would love a White Castle... I'm in Central Florida and Crystal Burgers are not the same, I don't care what anyone says!

Christine
It's My World. Welcome To It.
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Congrats

Wilma Ham — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 16:28:36 -0600

Congrats and of course I had to click through.

Nostalgy of things come and gone. I notice when you do things in life, things, people, taste change as you move on.

And mostly that is a good thing, you don't want to stagnate in life and yes, sometimes I indulge in nostalgia an mostly I have to admit about food and smells and little rituals with the kids.

Hmm.

Wilma Ham

www.wilmasblog.com

Since we are the same age...

Greeblemonkey — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 21:11:45 -0600

Me too me too!

http://www.greeblemonkey.com/2008/10/20-years-later.html

Good question

Denise — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 08:04:59 -0500

My initial instinct was to say no... because I don't like crowds and I don't think all of my FB Friends would be interested in interacting with each other.

But then I remembered ummm BlogHer Con? Ummm sure I'd get them all in a room together! It happens every year, in July! We'd like it to happen a few times a year because BlogHer Con is awesome.

So, my answer - after much consideration - YES, I would! We will! I can't wait! :-)

~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager

Flamingo House Happenings

I feel the same way...

Dating Trooper — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 16:06:39 -0500

Too funny. And sadly true...sometimes my relationship makes me want to get plastered and go for a high-speed cruise through the neighborhood. But then again, sometimes it doesn't.

Dating Trooper
http://www.datingiswarfare.com

thankyou

kazari — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 22:14:53 -0500

For your sincerely awesome post.

Point taken.

MommyNamedApril — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 18:28:24 -0500

:-)

April

www.AprilsLittleFamily.blogspot.com

Deb, good points

lauriewrites — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 16:45:42 -0500

I felt really honored when my friend put me on her kids' emergency list at school. It meant she trusted me and especially because I don't have children and do enjoy being close to my extended family and family of friends, I like being included in multigenerational life.

I think along with the knowledge that someone cares we're alive and get in the door safe at night is the thought of who would care and help us out if we were incapacitated at any age - or maybe that's just me and you. : )

Whether it's through legal documentation or a document YOU draw up that folks know how to find in that case, I think it would be nice to have some way to have that realized. It is a shift in thinking, for sure, but I do like the consideration of how we are ALL - married, single, kids, without - considered, treated and valued in times where we need it the most. The Teri Schiavo case caused me to state my wishes to my parents and my sister. There is no doubt there no. But if they all weren't there I have no idea who would be, so it pays to pay attention to what those options are.

Laurie

LaurieWrites

I was being a little facetious...but just a little.

lauriewrites — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 16:39:41 -0500

It's really not known if these things could be accomplished anyway, which is the argument of people who support far-reaching supports for single (including widowed/divorced) people without next of kin to support them. I'd be more interested in someone being able to be there for me and advocate for me across the board, and if that was assured as a result of a legal arrangement where I didn't think it would be otherwise, I might consider it.

I'm not sure it would cost that much more than other, less important things, is all I'm saying, beyond marriage-related things.

Laurie

LaurieWrites

Maybe, maybe not?

MommyNamedApril — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 12:08:33 -0500

Well, wherever government is involved, there is likely some (much?) wasteful spending. But I don't necessarily agree that marriage is a proper comparison - I think the amount of time and money spent on legal disputes with respect to property, children, etc. would grow exponentially if we were to abandon marriage laws. But, eh, I could be wrong ;-)

I wholeheartedly agree with your point on life management versus stepping in when death is imminent.

April

www.AprilsLittleFamily.blogspot.com

There is so much in this post

debra roby — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 09:37:25 -0500

As that "aging, childless" woman who spends small bits of time worrying - not about dying alone, but about living alone and vurnerable - there is LOT to read and get out of this post.

I have friends listed on an emergency contact sheet with my driver's license. I list them as family members. To me they are. It shouldn't matter to the legal/medical system how I define family. Yet I know it might.

Now I look at the list once or twice a year and make sure it's still what I want. Change it if I must. I tell a person when they are on the list, but not when they've been removed. (it's NOT that we're not friends anymore. One person might have had a dramatically busier life; another has died, etc.).

Making those adjustments on a legal document would be harder.

A group of friends sat last night (after the death of one's friend) and all verbalized: how I want to die, what choices I'd make. Just so we could all advocate to friends, family and whomever our wishes. Will it matter? I hope it takes decades to find out.

Debra
A Stitch In Time
Weight for Deb