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feeling your pain

babyhavinbabies — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 15:59:58 -0600

kudos to you for wanting to have sex after twins! i just had my second and the thought of sex kinda made me want to throw up- just cause i had been touched so much by my kids all the live-long day, the last thing i wanted was to be touched again when i thought i would get to go to sleep! i have little to no advice, cause the issue sounds more like it's with your hubs than with you. but keep at it! things will only get better (cause can they possibly get worse? i hope not!) you are an amazing wife, mom, woman. keep on keepin on.

YVW

cliopatra — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 15:29:45 -0600

You could always bring up a website that has toys and ask him what he thinks. Or buy one and ask him if he wants to watch/help? Usually having his input is best, so he doesn't get intimidated. There are also things that you can both enjoy - like a vibrating cock ring, that sort of thing. The important thing is to focus on the pleasure it will bring, and not the "replacement" of him or his lack of ability to please use. Here is a good article: http://www.mypleasure.com/education/sexed/introducing.asp

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Thank You

itsmekeisha — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 15:26:32 -0600

Thank you for your input, does anyone have sugestions on how to communicate incorporating toys to the bedroom without bashing his ego???

Keisha D.

I understand

cliopatra — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 14:10:45 -0600

Kind of been through something similar. Maybe try toys? We've had success that way, toys for my O and then he gets his. It's made things a lot better.

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hmmm

rsg2003 — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 08:32:42 -0600

doesn't sound like there is much to do (you already did it). besides, there to too few details (i.e. no details) for anyone to be able to offer you any helpful advice.

Roger S. Gil, M.A.
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Hi, Roger!

wild boomba — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 11:15:58 -0500

Thanks for commenting on my post. You pose an interesting question. I should have remembered what Jeff was wearing, but apparently I cared more about what Jessica was wearing compared to my costume. It was a very humiliating experience, but I can look back and laugh at it now. At the time I didn't realize I was being put into a position of being "mocked", but again, you bring up a great point. I'll have to give that some more thought. Do you have any ideas?

Thanks for your insight!

Leslie

hmmmm

rsg2003 — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 08:39:30 -0500

it sounds like you think Jeff was almost "mocking" you with the costume. interesting that you remember EXACTLY what Jessica wore but can't remember what Jeff had on... ever ask yourself why?

Roger S. Gil, M.A.
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www.luvbuzd.com

I've been there

christinajeanne — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 00:17:33 -0500

I've had days like this as well. I work in sales at a retail store and have to deal with rude people all day long. I put on my work face but today I almost broke down and started crying but didn't thank goodness. Then I work for my aunt who is not a very nice person but I do the best I can. Then I've had a realationship situation as well. I wonderd myself why? when he acts and looks at me like he loves me. We are still together that was during our second break up. I hope there will not be a third but I've been there.