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mom2brody — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 23:05:36 -0500

your blog made me cry.. it was beautiful... she is a lucky little girl to have 2 moms who love her..

i am an adoptive mom and every night i tell my baby boy how much I love him and how much his dad loves him.. then i also tell him about his birth mom and how much he means to her and how she loves him... i never want there to be a doubt in this mind that she loves him...

God bless you and your angel too!

Locating a sperm donor

sdbeth — Fri, 19 Dec 2008 01:20:36 -0600

If you want the name of the sperm donor I used, send me an e-mail at sdbeth@yahoo.com. He has blond hair and blue eyes. You would have a cute baby.

Beth

Excerpt from The One Heart Series by Patricia E. Adams

patriciaeadams — Sat, 22 Nov 2008 14:10:53 -0600

Foundation Scripture:

“And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. Faithful is he that calleth you, who also will do it.”

(I Thessalonians 5:23)

Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy. To the only wise God our Saviour, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and ever. Amen.

“What is man that though art mindful of him; the Bible records. Man is a tripartite being created in the image of God as an expression of God. The divine plan of God for his created man was that he would love Him with all of himself. This created being would have an absolute desire to fellowship with his creator; from an undivided heart.

Man was created to fulfill the purpose of God in the earth; that is to commune and glory in the benefits of God. The Word of God was the creative force that formed the heavens and the earth, and he alone holds the patent on his creation and the keys to the kingdom.

Amen

jrgalluzzo — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 12:56:30 -0500

I am one of those evangelical Christians of whom you speak in this entry. However, I spotted the hypocrisy about the Palin scandal as soon as the news broke last week. I have maintained, somewhat to my online detriment, my position that Gov. Palin should not be the VP nominee. Not only does she lack experience (esp. on foreign policy), but she needs to step down and take care of her family. If she did, Miss Bristol might not have gotten pregnant in the first place.

FTR, I'm registered Independent, and am leaning Libertarian this fall. I have become increasingly frustrated with the GOP over the past 4 years and this latest uproar/attempt at cover-up is one of the nails in the coffin.

great post

keyster94 — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 22:18:25 -0500

You hit so many great points. It's not that white people have it easy when their teens get knocked up, it depends on where they are from. If they are Southern teens, then they get the banjo music and questions about incest. I do agree that in general, "minorities" are treated more like trash though. You mentioned the push for Norplant and whatnot, but don't forget that there was a time when there was an attempt at sterilization of black women in the US. Through the water. It's not a conspiracy theory, it's a flat out conspiracy that took place.

~Kelly

http://www.30somethingandsearching.today.com/

If Bristol was Obama's daughter

danniep29 — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 19:31:27 -0500

If Bristol was Obama's daughter I don't think that everyone would be so set on making sure that her pregnancy stayed a "private matter". Although Obama has taken the high road and made it clear that families are not fair game during the election, I can't help but think that if one of Obama's daughters were old enough to be sexually active and were in Bristol's shoes, people would not be so easy on them. They would become one of the stereotypical "welfare queens" that you speak about in your post. Maybe it's just me...or maybe other people feel that way too.

And btw Laina, good idea to reach out to your niece. She'll need people in her corner who love her and support her now more than ever.

~Dannie P

"When you're walking in your purpose the universe will conspire for your success."

Check out my blog "Clearly Danielle" at http://clearlydanielle.blogspot.com/

Ouch!

Yvette Perry — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 12:00:33 -0500

Yes, kazari, that is a clever headline. But incorrect (though unintentionally), I think. Hopefully it is the owners of the ovens who are teenagers, not the buns in them. (Imagine that delivery! LOL)

Six Impossible Things Before Breakfast

The missing link

Yvette Perry — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 11:59:04 -0500

I agree that there has been a lot of hypocrisy surrounding this pregnancy issue. However, I think a missing piece of the conversation involves economics.

Some conservatives will say that it is not (minority) unwed childbearing that is objectionable, but the "taxpaying public" having to pick up the tab for these poor choices. Now there are all sorts of problems with that stance as well, but it at least illustrates the way in which economics have always been tied to the public stance on childbearing by women of color--particularly African American women. Of course, in different times, these same healthy, young (and yes--unwed, since they were not allowed to wed) Black women would have been encouraged to bear children. In fact, their continued productivity was necessary to the productivity of the young nation. (Similarly, at other times there have been calls for more White childbearing, for example out of fears of non-Whites becoming too populous, with reproduction by the White and genetically fit being tied to "patriotic duty"...)

Many have written on this far more eloquently than I could ever express. It is jsut important for us to remember in our conversations about race, class, familial status and reproduction that money is tied up in all this very tightly.

Six Impossible Things Before Breakfast

Bravo!

Debra Collins — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 10:02:36 -0500

I enjoyed the issues you raised and the discussion surrounding your post. I have no brillant insights, but as someone who has worked at numerous health agencies in urban environments, (including a 0-3 clinic) there are definate double standards applied to young women/teens of color having babies. This includes the medical community as well. It is unfortunate and unfair, but your observation is accurate.

I also share your thoughts on teen marriage. Teens have unprotected sex and do other high risk behaviors because they can have difficulty making appropriate decisions for themselves. More and more developmental research is determining that there is a wider gap than previously believed and this complicates all sorts of issues; when can someone really stand trial as an adult? What should be the legal age for drinking, voting, or being allowed to sign up for the military? So, can a teen really be expected to make a good marital partnership decision?

Because I take a systems psychological approach, I do believe that families live out patterns. This is mostly done subconsciously and sometimes it is not, but I think if we as a country want to reduce teen or unplanned pregnancies we need to do way more education about the "why'"; not just safe sex practices.

Excellent!

Nordette — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 22:52:20 -0500

Laina, I enjoyed the personal side of this story/article and your cogency on the Palin pregnacy issue. I believe you'll appreciate Jon Stewart's clips on the hypocrisy going around. :-) The Rove and Bill O'Reilly parts really got me.

Nordette is a Contributing Editor with BlogHer.com whose personal blog is hosted on another site at this link.

Best Palin headline yet!!!!!

kazari — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 22:17:40 -0500

I'm not gonna vote, I'm not even American, and I'm apologising in advance for interrupting this very serious thread, but I felt the need to share the following headline:

Palin pregnancy helps turn up heat on teenage buns in ovens

That is a FOR REAL headline on a FOR REAL newspaper website.

Please continue with your regularly scheduled political discussion.

I think I have a recipe for that...

More thanks

Suzanne Reisman — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 22:12:52 -0500

I've been fuming about all the points you both made, especially that "Baby Mama" bullshit. The lack of respect accorded to a grown, accomplished woman is disgusting on its own, yet contrasted with how extra respectful everyone has been of this situation, it just illustrates the true lows of our culture and its abuse of race when it suits the powers that be.

Suzanne Reisman, Contributing Editor - Feminism & Gender
Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Other Rants

Thanks For Sharing Your Very Personal Story

Megan Smith — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 20:25:46 -0500

Thank you, thank you for pointing out every bit of hypocriscy about the whole Bristol Palin pregnancy. I've been thinking about this for days and spewing about it to anyone who would listen, because it's just so obvious.

If Barack Obama's 17 year old daughter was unmarried and five months pregnant, does any honest person really think that she would be treated with the same warm and fuzzy kid gloves the Republican Party is using for Bristol Palin? Even if it was announced that Obama's 17 year old was marrying the father of her baby?

No, she would be vilified.

For proof, just look at how Michelle Obama's been treated. Remember Michelle as Barack's "Baby Mama?" And she's Obama's wife, not his 17 year old pregnant and unmarried daughter.

It's times like these that the Republican party, their right wing religious fanatics, and their "fair and balanced" shills, can make me quite ill.

Megan Smith
BlogHer Contributing Editor, TV/YouTube
Megan's Minute: Quirky Commentary Around The Clock

L16, Thanks. That is very

miteegirl — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 19:46:36 -0500

L16,

Thanks. That is very kind. I've enjoyed posts from many people on here, on both sides of the issues.

I think I'm struggling with the fact that I was sure that they meant it when they said that this would be a more civil campaign this time around.

But what would all of those pundits do if they weren't paid to be indignant and outraged? It's their only skillset.

We would have all of those outraged pundits out of work, shuffling around cloaked in their righteous indignation, the outraged pundit industry in chaos since manufactured outrage is propping up the value of overall outrage right now. It would be an outrage recession and that would be...,um, bad?

Okay, I'll stop now. I need to step away from the computer for awhile (half the board sighs in relief). Wake me up when McCain comes on.

Oh wait, McCain is already working the pre-speech circuit. Here's the headline that I just pulled from the feed:

McCain vows to end partisan rancor in Washington

Someone might want to tell Palin, Thompson and Guiliani. I don't think they got that memo.

Miteegirl, I keep reading

L16 — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 18:57:32 -0500

Miteegirl,

I keep reading posts where I nod and nod and go ummhmm and then I get to the bottom and your name is on it! You are a good read for when I need to get my blood pressure under control from all my reading, and youtubing and CNNing etcetera.

What I am getting out of the past couple weeks is that tolerance is such an incredible character trait that I need to work on. You know who is a cool cucumber though? For shiz it is Barack Obama. I think he may be the only one in America who doesn't have hate spewing out of him at this point. I am waiting to see if he snaps. I mean seriously everyone is losing their minds! Absolutely everyone. I feel like America needs a really good cry and a hug.