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Oh, I think daily health

jhonsmith — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 06:31:38 -0500

Oh, I think daily health hindrance drag the U.S. has got to symbolize on of the prime four issues since the voter manifesto. It's seemly eerie what happens to people.

A organization of rabble believe suggested healthcare over our poles apart universal activism clock in to. So, my inquire into is: how fulfill we make active a difference in health care worldwide? I actually think it could be a great issue, because there are so many components to it, and it seems like there would be lots of ways to take action. Hospitals in Mexico

Breaking the Silence on Childhood Sexual Assault

Keith Smith — Thu, 28 May 2009 13:18:32 -0500

I was abducted, beaten and raped by a stranger. It wasn’t a neighbor, a coach, a relative, a family friend or teacher. It was a recidivist pedophile predator who spent time in prison for previous sex crimes; an animal hunting for victims in the quiet, bucolic, suburban neighborhoods of Lincoln, Rhode Island.

I was able to identify the guy and the car he was driving. Although he was arrested that night and indicted a few months later, he never went to trial. His trial never took place because he was brutally beaten to death in Providence before his court date. 34 years later, no one has ever been charged with the crime.

In the time between the night of my assault and the night he was murdered, I lived in fear. I was afraid he was still around town. Afraid he was looking for me. Afraid he would track me down and kill me. The fear didn’t go away when he was murdered. Although he was no longer a threat, the simple life and innocence of a 14-year-old boy was gone forever. Carefree childhood thoughts replaced with the unrelenting realization that my world wasn’t a safe place. My peace shattered by a horrific criminal act of sexual violence.

Over the past 34 years, I’ve been haunted by horrible, recurring memories of what he did to me. He visits me in my sleep. There have been dreams–nightmares actually–dozens of them, sweat inducing, yelling-in-my-sleep nightmares filled with images and emotions as real as they were when it actually happened. It doesn’t get easier over time. Long dead, he still visits me, silently sneaking up from out of nowhere when I least expect it. From the grave, he sits by my side on the couch every time the evening news reports a child abduction or sex crime. I don’t watch America’s Most Wanted or Law and Order SVU, because the stories are a catalyst, triggering long suppressed emotions, feelings, memories, fear and horror. Real life horror stories rip painful suppressed memories out from where they hide, from that recessed place in my brain that stores dark, dangerous, horrible memories. It happened when William Bonin confessed to abducting, raping and murdering 14 boys in California; when Jesse Timmendequas raped and murdered Megan Kanka in New Jersey; when Ben Ownby, missing for four days, and Shawn Hornbeck, missing for four years, were recovered in Missouri.

Despite what happened that night and the constant reminders that continue to haunt me years later, I wouldn’t change what happened. The animal that attacked me was a serial predator, a violent pedophile trolling my neighborhood in Lincoln, Rhode Island looking for young boys. He beat me, raped me, and I stayed alive. I lived to see him arrested, indicted and murdered. It might not have turned out this way if he had grabbed one of my friends or another kid from my neighborhood. Perhaps he’d still be alive. Perhaps there would be dozens of more victims and perhaps he would have progressed to the point of silencing his victims by murdering them.

Out of fear, shame and guilt, I’ve been silent for over three decades, not sharing with anyone the story of what happened to me. No more. The silence has to end. The fear, the shame, the guilt have to go. It’s time to stop keeping this secret from the people closest to me, people I care about, people I love, my long-time friends and my family. It’s time to speak out to raise public awareness of male sexual assault, to let other victims know that they’re not alone and to help victims of rape and violent crime understand that the emotion, fear and memories that may still haunt them are not uncommon to those of us who have shared a similar experience.

For those who suffer in silence, I hope my story brings some strength, comfort, peace and hope.

My novel, Men in My Town, is based on these actual events.

Men in My Town is available now at Amazon.com

Maybe What I mean to say is...

CanCan — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 13:05:08 -0500

I feel myself having the urge to "help" others by giving them "stuff";
it is just ingrained in our culture I guess as Americans. I try to
resist though and use my head to try to get to the root of their
problems, and see if there is something really life changing I can do.
It isn't easy, and it isn't fast, but you can change someone's life
forever.

I don't have the answers, and some times I get discouraged by all of the need.

I wasn't knocking giving cheap notebooks to poor people; it is hard
for me to explain but I was trying to make a point that the notebook
didn't really meet their needs. In fact you can buy soap, notebooks,
cheap plastic toys in just about any country and it would save the
cost of shipping them from the US if people could just donate $5 to be
spent in the local economy in the area the impoverished community is
in. I also have had a lot of people mail me Jello from the US in order
to give to people. I don't really know what to make of that, and why
is Jello such an important thing to donate? Why do they need Jello?
How about vitamins? How about donate the $3 to some one who can buy
them 6lbs of rice with it? The inefficiency of charity bothers me. Too
much waste.

CanCan

Mom Most Traveled

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The affordability of child

francisjames — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 18:20:30 -0500

The affordability of child care has become an issue for greater numbers of low-income families as millions have left the welfare rolls for employment since the mid-1990s. Child care subsidies are not an entitlement, and not all low-income families receive help. For instance, the primary source of federal funding for subsidized child care—the Child Care and Development Fund—serves only 10 percent to 15 percent of the children who are eligible for those subsidies (U.S. Department of Health and Human Services 1999). Most families that have left the welfare system and are working are not receiving child care subsidies (Schumacher and Greenberg 1999).

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The vaginal birth is the one

bobloblaw — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 15:49:45 -0500

If given birth normally, the kid might present complications with the cord around his neck.

what?! you must be a man. women have been giving birth vaginally for literally, thousands of years. NO woman would chose a c - section over a vaginal birth.

My best friend had her first 2 children in a hospital, drugged up, and was miserable. she felt like both the doctors, nurses and staff didnt really care about her or her baby. She felt disconnected qto her children b/c they were taken away.

Her third child (and last to date) was born at home with a midwife, and she LOVED the experience. even said it made giving birth fun.

I was born myself in a boothing center via midwife, but, alas - i do not remember much of it. lol.

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The vaginal birth is the one

maryadavis — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 19:11:59 -0500

The vaginal birth is the one that seems more violent for the child. Imagine his trauma trying to squeeze out. A C-section is less painful for both the mother and the baby. There aren't any big risks to this procedure. If given birth normally, the kid might present complications with the cord around his neck.
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Homebirth

Anyshe — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 14:41:46 -0500

Given my family history of very very short labor, homebirth looked like a good option to me. After working with an OB that got upset and harassed me for refusing an amnio, I called a local homebirth CPM/ By this time the OB was talking about a planned c-section because the baby was going to be 'too big'. I thought that was stupid as my mother birthed a 9 pounder who was breech - she is 4 foot 10 in , so I wasn't worried. My mom worked with the original doctors in the 60s that advocated natural birth (names witheld to proctect privacy).

My 8# 10oz son was born in under 90 min, from first contraction to placenta - first child. Since there were no regular contractions, there is no way I would have made it to the hospital - a full 45 min drive.

I fully believe that childbirth should be attended. For me and my family, homebirth is the safest option to ensure that our babies are not born unattended. We haven't had a labor over 2 hours back three generations.

Thanks for the links - Added them to my personal blog

Amy Gates — Fri, 16 May 2008 12:55:40 -0500

Thank you all for posting the links to your Bloggers Unite posts. I added them to a post on my personal blog yesterday.

I finally got my own Bloggers Unite post up late last night: Women, children resort to eating dirt cookies in Haiti: Global Food Crisis

Amy
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mine's up

laurie — Thu, 15 May 2008 22:06:34 -0500

Nothing like the last minute.

It's kind of fuzzy on the details but it's more about a commitment to actually do something.

And examples.

With links, of course.

Here it is.

Laurie

www.notjustaboutcancer.blogspot.com

No problem...It's a great cause.

Catherine Morgan — Thu, 15 May 2008 13:44:22 -0500

I turn on the news first thing when I wake up every morning, and today this was the first thing I saw. And ever since I learned how to make my own video clips, I've been going video clip crazy. :-)

Contributing Editor Catherine Morgan at catherine-morgan.com, The Political Voices of Women, Care2 Election Blog

Thanks for posting the

Amy Gates — Thu, 15 May 2008 12:57:03 -0500

Thanks for posting the video, Catherine.

Amy
Crunchy Domestic Goddess
BlogHers Act contributing editor

Nice coverage

Denise — Thu, 15 May 2008 12:07:28 -0500

Great link, Catherine.

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CNN coving this story -- (see video clip)

Catherine Morgan — Thu, 15 May 2008 10:25:35 -0500

Contributing Editor Catherine Morgan at catherine-morgan.com, The Political Voices of Women, Care2 Election Blog

Ours is here

alyssaroyse — Thu, 15 May 2008 08:57:36 -0500

The brilliant Anne-Marie McReynolds wrote hers on JUST CAUSE IT.

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