BlogHer - loving yourself - Comments

This is great.

lauriewrites — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 13:13:02 -0500

I'll be forwarding this link along to a few people who I know will appreciate it too. :)

Laurie

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This should have come with a warning

sassymonkey — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 13:01:26 -0500

Because I almost blew Coke all over my computer from laughing too much.

Sassymonkey and Sassymonkey Reads.

Thanks Carol...

Tre - — Sun, 24 May 2009 23:28:03 -0500

I am continuallly humbled by how much I want to pour effort into deepening online relationships beyond the tweets and retweets or the comments on the blog. And yet, I'm knowing full well this stems from what I've seen and felt tangibly happens when you refuse to settle for surface with people in your life/day to day in person walk.

Opportunities to be genuine abound when self interest and ego take a major backseat if even get an opp. to drive in the car at all :)

Grateful to know 'of you' now and your blog...Here's to growing that bond.

Thanks again so much.

Tre~

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Fabulous Post

carolross — Sun, 24 May 2009 21:48:08 -0500

Thanks for this wonderful post that combines story, vulnerability and life lessons. I especially appreciate your reflections on how the relationships in your life, whether with strangers or family or friends, make a difference--for you and for others. Bravo!

Carol Ross

Wisdom Entrepreneur

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Oh, wow. I'd love to see high school band!!!

Tre - — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 17:11:35 -0600

Thanks Denise...

It's a topic I don't think we can think/talk up enough....There's this constant huggabaloo about using social media to build relationships.and yeah, very important..but at the end of the day if the ONLY agenda is sell my product we've missed a lot of learning/building in the process.

i'm predicting a wave of use of social media just for personal self interest...and then that will fade...and tis why communities like BlogHer to me matter sooo much..yeah, there's advertising...but not for the sell that product emphasis....

Or am I missing something? Was I supposed to become a Barbie fan through and through to keep blogging here? :) HA!

There's so much more I could (and hope to ) write about to say how much YOU do to keep the authenticity of 'relating' going on between BlogHers.

Have fun tonight....(err...take ear plugs and a book too?) :)

Tre~

http://thoughtbythought.net

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Wow great post

Denise — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 16:52:05 -0600

Now I'm going to be thinking this all night when I should be listening to high schoolers playing instruments. (Yes, high school band concert tonight...)

~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager

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that's beautiful

kazari — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 05:45:48 -0500

I think I have a recipe for that...

Mommy clothes

rebellious thinker — Sun, 10 Aug 2008 12:14:26 -0500

My daughters joke about my mommy jeans. But as a woman in need of a make-over, I can say that sometimes I dress better than I feel, and a new mood does seem to simmer into me. While I am not suggesting that we need to dress for the set of Sex in the City, maybe we should present ourselves to our kids and the world with more than a downtrodden pair of sweats. My main goal, I guess, with clothes is that I want to give an indication of who I am to the world at large, and not just those who I have a chance to meet.

My suggestion: go shop. I think that the first post-mommy thing I bought was a colorful shirt; it made me feel different, in a good way.

Laura, www.RebelliousThoughtsofaWoman.com

Husband says I need to take care of myself!

jenns1125 — Sat, 09 Aug 2008 10:06:42 -0500

My husband told me last night that he was going to personally buy me a new wardrobe because he can't stand the way I dress. He says I need to get dressed in the morning. I need to take care of myself. I deserve it.

That's really cool that the thinks that. It is just so hard for me to do. I have spent the better half of the last decade as a mom. I spend my days talking about the complexity of boogers. There's no need to get dolled up to be used as a human tissue.

He can see I'm losing my identity. That means others can see it to. I need to take more time for me. How? and When? I get excited when I can pee by myself. What would I do with an afternoon to myself?

My single mom girlfriends take time to themselves. They say they *have* to. They get their nails done or go out with friends. Then they tell me I should do that. At that point I roll my eyes and change the subject.

Maybe I should blog about this. What would I do with a few hours to myself? Would dressing better, heck just getting dressed, make me feel better? Why do I feel I need to be the end all be all for my children and husband? Hmmm....

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GlindaofOz — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 14:33:06 -0500

Mara

Thank you for your supportive words.

Just get out there and try. There is something out there for every body that is just going to make yours look amazing. Don't give up on yourself, you are worth far too much!

Self-discovery through fashion!

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What wise words.....

mara — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 13:00:58 -0500

What a powerful post. I have such a HUGE problem with my body image. As you described I am the person that thinks nothing looks good on me and not until I reach my goal will I ever be worthy. Thanks for letting us know that no matter what size you are you are beautiful.

Mara http://24stepstogo.blogspot.com/

OMG-This is what my entire blog is about!

ThankGodForMommy — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 19:06:05 -0500

After five children, (and now they are three teens and two toddlers), I had to MASTER this! Or is was going to run away to the hills of Spain. I am 35 years old and if I did not creativily, lovingly and artfully know how to balance husband and kids, and career (yes, i also am a filmmaker) I would not have made it.

I have dedicated a blog to this topic and sadly (but I have hope!) I am in the minority. Most topics are sites about commradery, and complaining through jokes, and all the hardships-but no one talking about how to be a powerful woman and mother in the world. Making a difference with our kids...ahhh! don't get me started. Anyhoo...

love this site, and if anyone wants to dare come visit-you'll find me here:

ThankGodForMommy Blog

Bobbi

www.ThankGodForMommy.com

1 mother+1 mother+1 mother=Many Mothers

rebellious thinker — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 18:33:24 -0500

The moral of the story or stories seems to be that we each have to go through this torment on our own. We each have to deal with balancing life as a woman, wife (?), and parent. But, in reality, it's not us individually--it's our society. We are all reflections of how our society is not dealing well with women--with the whole "I am woman hear me strong" idea. If it were, would we be agonizing over every minute we do or don't spend with our children; and would we need to feel that we are "stealing" time away, some mommy time?

If we still need to re-enact Kramer v. Kramer because there's just too much on our plates and not enough respect/help/breathing space, then there is a big picture problem here. And if marriages are split asunder because women still have the weight of the world on their shoulders, then there's more than a problem of time for napping and kayaking and martial arts.

Laura, www.RebelliousThoughtsofaWoman.com

Great Post

Kathy333 — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 12:03:57 -0500

My girlfriends and I were talking the other day about how before kids we had things that made us "us". You know, mine was kayaking, my friend's was photography, and etc . . . You have children and work and family and home and then you have you . . . last. It's so important to take that time, and to let go of that guilt! I wrote about this at allbusiness, too, about how oftentimes our ideas of me time changes when we have kids. Suddenly those things we loved to do, like kayaking, involve not going alone but taking the kid(s).

It is a tough balancing act!! Great post!

Kathy

Mama Marathoner

Allbusiness:Working Mothers

Thanks

JustKaren — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 11:33:49 -0500

Thanks for the feedback. I find that the more regularly I meditate, the quieter my mind becomes and I can get to that peaceful place more quickly. It is definitely a work in progress.

Best,

Karen