BlogHer - resolutions - Comments

they are all good choices.

Miss2Missus — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 13:39:41 -0500

they are all good choices. im gonna pick e though

alternatives to resolutions

hopealso — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 00:48:50 -0600

I also don't make resolutions, but this year when I wrote my list of Top 3 Needs I realized that they were a great alternative to making "resolutions."

I agree that it's the "shoulds," the inflexibility and the guilt that has always made resolutions seem like the wrong path for me. But I do think that the passing of cycles makes such a great opportunity to re-evaluate and bring meaning.

So after reading various blogs and posts about resolutions this year I decided to write out some ideas for alternatives to resolutions. For 2009, my biggest goal is to make sure I keep my Top 3 Needs present in my life, the three things I need to keep my fuel tank filled to matter how busy I am, despite my highs and lows. So I guess that's my version of a resolution. Here are a few others:

Five Alternatives to New Year's Resolutions

Best to all in 2009!

(Mama) Hope

a la hippie dippie bébé, A Natural Parenting Blog

Very good ideas...I will

iamsucceeding — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 08:26:02 -0600

Very good ideas...I will work on this this week.

My journey...

Iamsucceeding.com

Great Post

Coach Jenn — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 19:21:18 -0600

Ah, SMART goals. I remember those so well from my corporate life. Still a good approach, of course. Consider making sub-goals to help you achieve a larger over-arching goal for the year. This helps each step to feel less overwhelming.

Coach Jenn

My Goal is to Help YOU Reach YOURS!

http://personalfitcoach.blogspot.com

Still a Wish List

Cynthia Clampitt — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 11:41:37 -0600

Being self-employed means never making travel resolutions, I'm afraid -- other than "I'll go somewhere." Last year I had a big writing contract with Colonial Williamsburg, so I could afford trips to New Orleans, Egypt, Jordan, and Japan. This year starts with no contract, so all I can do is have a wish list -- Eastern Europe and Russia, if my book sells well or I get a good contract. Grand Canyon if I do slightly less well. A few local museums and the Botanic Garden if work remains scarce. So we'll see.

Cynthia

http://waltzingaustralia.wordpress.com

Charleston?

Denise — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 09:42:35 -0600

When are you going to Charleston? Tell me it's the weekend of March 21 and that you want to attend my daughter's wedding! hah.

~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager

Flamingo House Happenings

Horoscope / Forecast / Resolution & Travel Revolution for 2009

adrienne is — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 08:14:12 -0600

Hi Pam,

Good luck on getting back to Hawaii. Which island again? I'm trying to decide whether I want to attend my 10 yr HS reunion next year in Hawaii. I graduated in Oahu and if I go I'll just use it as an excuse to see one of the other islands as well. Smile.

Ethiopia is highly recommended! I think you saw my photos from this year.

And if you took the public transportation in Tampa - wow! We don't have the best publich transport here as you probably found out.

Before the New Year I was feeling pretty firm in my decision to travel LESS in 2009. LESS in wanderlust that is and more for business. Travel as a hobby is expensive. I need to refocus in on collecting some FF points and hotel stays by working on the road. Will it happen?

On the first day of the year I went to read my January 09' horoscope found on Astrology Zone. Like always the Gemini's day planner seems to have TRAVEL penned in big, red, bold letters. If my new year is going to be based off my horoscope then I am going to be traveling like never before.

But I truly believe I might need a time out. I want to focus on language and not just the phrasebooks to get me by on weekends. I told myself the next time I travel I want to be able to connect with people by speaking with them in broken / half fluent language of their own. Right now I am focusing on Farsi and French. Farsi because I think it is a beautiful langauge and French because a lot of African countries and Caribbean islands I want to visit speak the language. Otherwise I'd avoid French.

In short, my travel resolution is deeper connections and interactions.

I do have a places I know i'll be heading this year and they are:

ATL & D.C. & Charleston, S.C.

Tornoto

Madagascar (I will be leading a Global Village build if anyone is interested in joining Sept 19-Oct 2)

I'm hoping that will be it, but it won't.

www.adrienne-is.com

tryin to shed a few myself!

skinnyselina067 — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 15:52:52 -0600

Just started the 2009 National Body Challenge that Discovery Health kicked off forthe new year. Some great tips and insight how to start your new year on theright track! There will also be a week long event beginning tomorrow where 6 challengers will compete to replace old habits with healthy ones! health.discovery.com/national-body-challenge/national-body-challenge

2009

Midwest Guest — Sat, 03 Jan 2009 22:51:58 -0600

The economy has sort of thrown a monkey wrench into what our plans were for this year as far as our big summer trip goes, and our available money for travel...so it's been back to the drawing board in recent weeks.

I'm resolving to as many shorter trips as we can manage this year. They'll have to be spur of the moment until Tim's work situation stabilizes, but that's not all bad as far as I'm concerned.

I'm resolving to hit more of the museums around town in the early part of this year. We are members of a lot of museums/parks around town and spend a lot of weekends we're home hitting them, but with Tim off work, we should be able to squeeze in a few more weekday visits at least in the coming months. Since he's been off work, we've been to the Motown Museum in Detroit and down to the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame/Museum in Cleveland. We need to get to the Charles Wright museum in Detroit for the Tut exhibit before it leaves...and to the zoo to take more photos if it ever snows here :)

I'm resolving to work some of the social networking tools to build my blog traffic and visibility this year. That probably means I'll have to start using my Stumble Upon account more effectively and finally drag myself kicking and screaming onto Twitter!

Last year, I concentrated on establishing the blog, schedule and a library of content. The blog was the first step in an effort to revamp my writing career, moving from the local business-oriented print stories (moribund markets around here right now) to becoming the travel writer I always wanted to be.

This year, I'd like to see my traffic increase to the point that I can start to realistically start to monetize it or spin off of it for other writing possiblilities.

I already send my registration in for an Ohio writers' conference this spring...and I'm seriously considering this year's Blogher conference.

And I bought a new laptop near the end of last year so I can spend more time taking it out and writing "on-site"...whether it's at the local coffee house or further afield.

That's all I can think of at the moment :)

www.midwestguest.com

The timing is perfect

Ze — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 23:34:38 -0600

The timing of me finding this post is just perfect. I haven't read much the last year or so. One of the goals I set for myself was to read more in 2009. I got a couple good ideas from you though as far as the library challenge. That's something I can get my kids into. Also, the reading for reviewing. I can read and incorporate a review..I can also ask my readers if there's something they want reviewed to get some suggested readings. Lots of food for thought here! Great post!

email: Ze@mominator.com

Web: http://www.Mominator.com

Give Empathy, Not Solutions

sondon — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 15:27:10 -0600

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When I talk to my adult daughter, the mother of my 2 precious granddaughters, I have to constantly remind myself that when she tells me her problems, she wants empathy, not solutions. Being the problem solver that I am requires great restraint, but amazingly when I say: Oh, that must be so hard for you, I can hear the gratitude in my daughter's voice.

It may not seem like much to repeat back what a person has told you, but the results can be incredibly powerful because she feels heard and understood.

Thank you for reminding us to listen with heart,

Donne

So Right

MrsWsKitchen — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 08:52:02 -0600

For years I muddled thru holidays & birthdays with horror. Family gatherings always brought The Terrible Question: so, when are y'all going to have kids? Once in my 30s there came The Terrible Comment: y'all better hurry up if you're gonna have kids! Of course there was that one birthday card from my mother, which read, "Don't worry. There's still time for children."

Now I just try to have the holiday. Or the birthday. Or whatever. This year we signed up for high-option quality health insurance for my area that covers IUI and IVI (but not IVF, the bastards) and we're going to give it the old college try. One year to try. Because we can't afford paying $100/week for health insurance forever. I suppose there should be added pressure to that, but I just don't feel it right now--instead, I feel happy that we're making the sacrifice to really go for it with a qualified RE who has a good success rate.

I used to think that I could finally be happy when... finally feel successful when... finally be personally fulfilled when... and I missed out on a lot of happy times, preoccupied with The Goal. I do my best nowadays to take pleasure in everything, push my fertility to the back of my mind, enjoy other peoples kids (which I couldn't do before) and do fun things for myself. It's easy to say, not so easy to do--but must be done, otherwise I become this ghost of a person just waiting.

I try not to mention my fertility issues on my food blog--it's my world away from that particular issue.

Amanda
Mrs.W's Kitchen

Thanks!

FutureMama — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 17:45:40 -0600

I hope I can do the same and ask how I can be a better wife. I think I know a few answers myself but he'll probably tell me a few things I didn't even think of!

Happy New Year! And cheers to a year full of happieness and building relationships!

Jennifer

http://www.babymakingmachine.blogspot.com

Travel Resolutions for 2009

Nancy Brown WhataTrip — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 15:48:20 -0600

I'd like to travel to Switzerland and Norway in 2009

Attend the BlogHer conference in Chicago, July 24-25; preferably on the Travel Bloggers panel.

Build my subscriber base on the What a Trip travel blog

Expand my freelance travel writing network

Thank you for providing a place for me to write my 2009 Travel Resolutions.

I enjoy reading your articles. Keep up the good work and may all your resolutions come true.

Nancy D. Brown

http://www.nancydbrown.com/

http://twitter.com/Nancydbrown

Read, read, read

sassymonkey — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 08:40:21 -0600

I'm really tempted to do just that...but I have so many books that I own that get bunted to the side for library books. I need some sort of resolution/goal/challenge/thingy to get some of those read.

Sassymonkey and Sassymonkey Reads.