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You are so right Laura... it

Luciee — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 15:11:06 -0500

You are so right Laura... it is time for fun, throw caution to the wind and start living for ourselves. We are footloose and fancy free... until the alarm goes off Monday morning. *sigh*

Midlife Musings, the Best Things in Life

rebellious thinker — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 19:32:30 -0500

Midlife musings, ah, the opportunity to finally not hold the mind back and worry, even inside, is truly one of the pleasures of being 47. I found patience when my older daughter was born, but it seems to have worn off somewhat in those intervenig 17 years when I needed to use it a lot. I, too, need to work on impatience, but speaking bluntly and openly is so much more fun. And isn't it time for girls to have fun?

Laura, www.RebelliousThoughtsofaWoman.com

Well said

JustKaren — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 17:35:59 -0500

I truly enjoyed your post and it is so true. I am very happily divorced but have two young children and will be in a parenting relationship with my ex for a long time to come. It is difficult at best.

I know he will not change so I must figure out how to parent with him as he is. He has bi-polar issues that make him very inconsistent. He is narcissistic and often burdens the children with his adult issues, grievances towards me and mostly, his adult pain. I am working on compassion for him. I am also formulating how to be honest with my children about when their father is inappropriate with what he shares with them, without putting him down.

It is a tight rope that takes time to natigate. I have fallen off many times, but keep climbing back up finding my balance and moving forward cautiously and with a lot of self love.

Thanks

Karen

I'm in the throes of

Wyliekat — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 12:02:08 -0500

I'm in the throes of co-parenting with my ex. Inside, I find him contemptible, asinine, selfish, immature and all around too self-absorbed for words.

Externally, I am friend-ly (not friends, you understand), cooperative, obliging, civil and patient.

I do this for my daughter. No other reason.

Reconciling these two views is going to be the work of a lifetime.

www.wyliekat.com

Thank you Birdie

ExpectingExecutive — Wed, 15 Aug 2007 14:20:48 -0500

I am very sorry for your recent loss. Caring for and grieving the loss of our parents is an incredibly stressful, sometimes cumbersome and certainly emotional event that most of us will face during the course of our lives.

Due to my concern for the growing elderly population and those caring for the them, I sent a note to the BlogHer08 committee that I thought Aging & Caregiving might be an appropriate topic to add to the conference. And, maybe they may consider showcasing a few senior women blogs?

Thank you for reading! It is very nice to know you.

Erin
www.expectingexecutive.com
In order to change your life, you must first change your life.

I was the caregiver for both my parents

Birdie Jaworski — Wed, 15 Aug 2007 00:27:38 -0500

My mom and dad both passed away over the past two years. It was a tough time. I can tell you first hand that caregiver burnout is real, is scary. I saw so many other elders in the hospital and doctor's office who didn't have a daughter or son to care for them. The loneliness was palpable.

My next door neighbor, Miss Sterling, died just two days ago. She was 95 years old, and lived alone up to her death. When she didn't answer the door, I called the police. I would check on her every day. She was a spinster and never had a family. I would bring her food, groceries, home-baked cookies. I know that others in the neighborhood did, too. If we don't care for each other, then we have lost something human and essential.

I worry about old people, too.

Birdie
Birdie's BlogHer Blog
La Pajaro

Father-in-law's death

GAMommy — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 11:56:04 -0500

My father-in-law passed away on June 11. My mother-in-law really loved him and she doesn't want to do any of the things that they used to do together like watch TV in the family room or spend time on the back porch listening to music.

She is now considering coming to live with us in about a year. I assume she needs this time to come to terms with that era of her life being over. If she comes to stay with us, I feel it is an opportunity for her to have new experiences. She limited herself to doing the things he wanted to do, which she was content with. But I wonder what amazing things she'll learn about life by finding the things that make HER happy.

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