I just came across your

DaisyMae — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 13:03:33 -0500

I just came across your posts today. I want to thank you for your honesty, and encourage you to continue to take care of yourself. I love the way you explained your priorities in responding to the demands on your time and attention (in a previous post). It makes so much sense. And no, that is not selfish. It reflects appropriate boundaries.

The load we are asked to carry is well within our capabilities. However, for various reasons, we often choose to take on more than our share. But you seem to have found a healthy balance. I applaud you, and I will pray for you. However the situation turns out, please be gentle on yourself. We often don't recognize, or choose not to recognize those red flags until the meaning of them has become painfully clear. And then it's too late. We have to deal with it.

xoxo

daisymae

You can't possibly believe

searchingwithin — Sat, 20 Dec 2008 08:33:48 -0600

You can't possibly believe that a mistress helped keep a marriage together, unless it was from the man's viewpoint. You can't possibly believe that the wives did not care, and more obsurdly because they were too tired to take care of their wifely duties, so they left it up to the mistresses.

The era that you are speaking about, left these women with no other choice, not only to earn a livelyhood from being a prositute or mistress, because their were no other opportunities for them, or to stay with a man who cheated, because they had no other form of support.

Women today don't put up with it, because the men are sloppier about it, but because they no longer have to live with, be supported by, and be degraded by a man.

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I just came across your

You can't possibly believe