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The missing 32%?

InnovativeEdu — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 07:40:42 -0600

"Women are holding more management and supervisory positions than men, by a margin of 37 percent to 31 percent..." Can somebody please educate me on who (or what) constitutes the remaining 32%?

Lisa Nielsen, The Innovative Educator

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Sounds like you know each other

Jill Miller Zimon — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 09:47:32 -0500

And are in sync. Enviable indeed, and to have that from the get-go? Even more so. Many happy years ahead for you both, I hope. :)

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It's my personal belief that

LMAshton — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 09:38:25 -0500

It's my personal belief that my job as a wife is to take care of him. He similarly takes care of me, although he's never verbalized that as a personal belief - he just does it. As far as I'm concerned, if we're both focused on taking care of each other, then we both have our needs met. As well, neither of us keeps score. Well, except when it comes to chocolate consumption... ;) Neither of us brings up past stuff, what little of it there is - that, to me, is too divisive and serves no useful purpose, but it also helps that I have a lousy memory. :D

Yes, I try to support him. I try to take care of him. It's my job, and it's one I love doing. :) But then, it also helps that I've got a terrific husband. :)

Laurie in Sri Lanka

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Sounds like support to me!

Jill Miller Zimon — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 13:08:15 -0500

And no doubt he derives support from you in one way or another. I think for me it just took a while to be clear about what we mean by support, but for sure, when people are on the same page about it, what a great thing. Thanks for commenting and reading.

Jill Writes Like She Talks

I'm not employed while my

LMAshton — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 23:08:12 -0500

I'm not employed while my husband earns the living. I'm responsible for the cooking and the cleaning and he's responsible for making sure we've got enough income to pay all the bills and save money, too. But I'm also chronically ill and unable to do a lot of things, like sweep or mop the floors due to my bad back. And on some of my bad days, my cooking is less than great. On even worse days, we order out and get food that's not as good as my cooking.

The husband? He never complains. Never. Not once in six years of marriage has he complained about anything - not when the floors are a mess or the food isn't what he prefers or the laundry still isn't folded and put away or... He might remind me of things I need to do - I have a horrible memory and we both know it. But he doesn't complain.

To me, that is an absolute blessing. And it makes him the perfect husband. :)

Laurie in Sri Lanka

Chilli & Chocolate | A Canadian in King Parakramabahu's Court | LMAshton on Twitter

More Personal

SweetWICK — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 21:51:40 -0500

I agree that we could know a little more about them. Who are they, what do they have that makes them so special. Great post!

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Thanks Todd for taking time to comment

paulag01 — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 18:41:03 -0500

Hi Todd,

Thanks for taking time to read, comment, and tweet about this article. I appreciate it! That's the beauty of curiosity - you can learn, disagree where you wish, and delve as shallow or deep into this (or any subject) as you are called... I really appreciate the scientific validation of what feels so right from the gut & personal experience.

Warmly
Paula

Paula Gregorowicz
The Paula G Company

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gratitude

kashdan — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 18:24:12 -0500

Paula,

Thank you for the kind words about my book and blog posts. My goal is to continue getting the best practices for how to be a better manager, better parent, better friend, better romantic partner, and live in a way where our actions best match our values and passions. Everybody is peddling suggestions about how to survive and thrive in these difficult economic times. What I continue to share is the latest scientific evidence.

Thanks for pointing out that the book is not a quick read. Its not meant to be. Also, I would be worried if any reader agreed with everything I wrote about. That being said, its all based on research conducted by scientists around the world.

Look forward to hearing the answers to the questions you posed.....always ready to be infused with new wisdom.

gratefully,

Todd

www.toddkashdan.com

NB: Pastor gives sermon, "Why I Hate Barack Obama"

Jill Miller Zimon — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 09:15:07 -0500

Read this article that reinforces what my friend meant about being hated.

Jill Writes Like She Talks

Good read, not always a quick read

paulag01 — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 08:46:48 -0500

Hi Maria,

Overall it is a great read... parts of it get a little cerebral or too much for me...but I don't let that stop me. I just read and take from it what I'm meant to. So keep that in mind..... He does throw in some interesting bits of off humor here and there.

But hey, I must be like the powerful Oz, I have you more curious about curiosity already ...LOL!

Paula Gregorowicz
The Paula G Company

http://www.thepaulagcompany.com

Learn 5 Steps to Move from Fear to Freedom (free)

Love it

Jill Miller Zimon — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 21:09:07 -0500

That shows what a great sense of self you really do have, don't you think!? Thanks for sharing that. I was at a conference recently and almost did some karaoke with a friend and then said I better not because what might come of it - all the cellphone cameras around etc and who knew how unflattering something might be and get posted. But I kind of felt badly about thinking that because I wanted to have fun. I did still have fun, but with being a public figure or engaging in discourse in the public the way we do as bloggers, there are some compromises and choices we make.

I guess it's probably wrong to ever think that any one person can be liked by absolutely everyone - and yet...it does kinda seem like some people have that.

Just not too many politicians or elected officials! ;)

Thanks for commenting and good luck with the blog.

Jill Writes Like She Talks

Oh definitely could be me~

Jill Miller Zimon — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 21:04:41 -0500

And being a first-time candidate and the need to build a thicker skin, no question about that. But I still think the questions you raise are all good.

When a criticism of any type comes from a constituent, how can we not listen, at some level? So I think it starts there. But then, to know how much credence, time and attention to give any one criticism, that is probably something that comes with experience - both with the individual and with dealing with people. I was an ombuds at a mental health agency for three years and was basically the chief listener to complaints of all kinds. And I gave everyone the benefit of the doubt while I gathered info from as many angles as I could and then worked to craft solutions that made sense. I believe working in a small city's council is somewhat similar. But I think you have to take everyone's words seriously, and then evaluate.

When they are personal, I guess the question comes down to self-confidence and being grounded. I confess - in some ways, I'm testing myself, pressing myself, to find that groundedness. But as we can see just in the health care debate or in the 2008 Dem primary or in the general election, the fierceness and nastiness - wow.

Let's say this: a year from now, I'll be interested to see how I feel about this topic!

Thanks for reading and writing and wishing me well!

Jill Writes Like She Talks

I liked the idea that some

Lora B — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 18:05:03 -0500

I liked the idea that some people will just hate you - is not your fault. New at blogging and realized that some high school friends will e-mail a time or two until I mention that I have a very blessed life. Click. I joke with my husband, I'm take the worst photo of my self, expand it to make me look fatter, tell them I'm unemployeed, and dropped out of college etc. ;-) Thank you for making me feel better ;-)

Choice, who do you listen to

Wilma Ham — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 18:00:31 -0500

Hm, Jill, I can relate and yet I wonder; why do the negative comments have such an impact. Why can we not just let them go? Is it that we feel we have to do something because they are feedback that could teach us something?
Do we feel we have to accept every stab because it is not good to ignore them in case they come back and bite us even harder?

Why can we not ignore them as poison that is not good for us and allow us to feast on good supportive comments that are just as valuable when given by people who really want to add value to you?

Best wishes and I hope you can see poison when you meet it and then allow yourself to ignore it.

Wilma Ham

www.wilmasblog.com

So even if over the top...

Jill Miller Zimon — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 16:47:19 -0500

I will take your adoration, lol. Thanks so much, Suzanne. Every time I say a particular day was a tough day, there's another one that's tougher and then I know that ha, they are not even really "tough" - but thank you for your comment all the same. I've got a file of these to look at on my so-called "tough" days. :)

I can feel the tide shifting already...:)

Jill Writes Like She Talks