http://www.blogher.com/free-tagging/friend-0 Comments for "friend" en http://www.blogher.com/lost-and-found#comment-61991 <p>I love that you got to see each other again. Fantastic!</p> <p>~Denise<br /> BlogHer Community Manager<br /> <br /> <a href="http://www.flamingohouse.net/">Flamingo House Happenings</a></p> Tue, 30 Sep 2008 15:35:43 -0500 Denise comment 61991 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/lost-and-found#comment-61939 <p><strong>I have had one or two friends like that in my lifetime. Really brings back memories. Nice post! </strong></p> <p><strong>Stacie Haight Connerty, </strong><strong>Atlanta Mother of 3 </strong></p> <p><strong>Knack Parenting Entertainment, Style and Family Writer</strong></p> <p><strong>National Family Travel Examiner</strong></p> <p><strong>&amp; Many other hats</strong></p> Tue, 30 Sep 2008 10:28:56 -0500 StacieinAtlanta comment 61939 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/what-do-you-say-friend-cancer#comment-50411 <p>It wasn't me, it was my 2 year old.  She was diagnosed with cancer in July 06.  There were so many people who said &quot;I don't know what to say&quot; and I didn't care what they said, I just needed something to do, someone to talk to, someone to tell me about the mundane non-cancer things going on in their lives.  </p> <p>It is so hard because when cancer envelopes your life, you DO lose friends.  Those friends who are afraid to talk to you because it makes their own mortality real and touchable. Those friends who are afraid of making you cry, or saying the wrong thing when they don't understand that not saying anything makes you feel as if they don't care.  There are those people who need to keep their mouths shut, but usually just the fact that you care enough to call lifts the spirit.  </p> <p>I don't know what to say.  I have a deep faith and for some, that makes it harder because I get angry with God...with all rights to be...that THIS is my new normal.  But remind her over and over.....not that her miracle is coming, don't make statements that have no bearing because they're not yours to give....but that giving the anger, the fear and anxiety to God is what is important.  That you love and support and encourage her, that you're there for her, that's its ok if all she wants to do is call you and cry and vent.  </p> <p>Be honest with her, let her comfort you occassionally...you'd be surprised how much she needs that too....to know that you're afraid and that you love her enough to fear for her. </p> <p>Anissa Mayhew</p> <p><a href="http://www.hope4peyton.org" target="_blank">www.hope4peyton.org</a> </p> <p><a href="http://www.onevoiceproject.ning.com" title="www.onevoiceproject.ning.com">www.onevoiceproject.ning.com</a> </p> Sun, 20 Jul 2008 16:46:23 -0500 AnissaMayhew comment 50411 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/new-moon-girl-medias-youtube-channel#comment-48939 Fri, 11 Jul 2008 15:28:31 -0500 NewMoonGirlMedia comment 48939 at http://www.blogher.com