My Kid Gets His Potty Mouth from Me

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"Damn!", he says while looking out of the side of his eyes at me to see if there is a reaction.

And there is. But I can tell by the slight sag in his shoulders that the reaction isn't as big as he had hoped.

"Pardon me?", I say calmly. So calmly. I've learned, over the years, that my child, this child, is always on a mission to stir the pot. If he can make you cry, or yell, or emote in any way, he is a happy boy. He will laugh over your tears. It's an obnoxious trait, however that's not the point here.

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He's been testing out the potty mouth lately. Seeing how far he can go with it before I call him on it. And the truth is, he doesn't get very far. Some people, I know, find profanity funny coming from the mouth of a four-year-old. I find it appalling.

And therein lies the rub. Because he's learning his potty mouth from me. I swear. A lot. I find it very difficult not to swear, although my mouth is 1000 times cleaner than it used to be.

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When I was younger, before I met my husband, it was acceptable to curse in my parents house, provided that I used the correct words. God Damn, Jesus Christ, Christ, and Oh my God were the phrases of choice when I was a teenager. I used them A. Lot. and thought nothing of it... until I met my Christian husband. He took great offense to me blithely cursing his Lord, and really, now that I think about, I realize that I was being deeply insensitive when I used those terms.

Shortly after we started dating, my future husband told me that if I had to curse, he'd prefer that I really swear. And so swear I did.

For him.

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However, now I can't stop. Not completely. And now my kids are armed with those Very Bad Words and are itching to spring them on the world. According to a study done in 2010, kids are swearing earlier than they ever did before. This means my kids are simply keeping up with the Joneses.

Except...I don't like it. I don't want to be the mom with the potty mouthed kids.

I've had the talk (many times over) with the kids about how grown-ups have words that they can use, but kids can't. I've even admitted that I shouldn't always use those words. I don't fall into my son's trap of overreacting when he tries out the words that I shouldn't have taught him -- hopefully non-reaction will make the words less interesting. And I've been trying extra, extra, extra, hard to keep it clean.

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It's almost working. Almost.

"Damn!", he says, watching me.

"Pardon me?", I say, looking up at my four-year-old.

He smirks. "Dam! Dam, Mom. Like beaver dam. You know. DAM."

Yes. Yes, I do.

What do you do about swearing in your house? Does everybody keep it clean, or are you a potty mouth like me? How do you approach that subject with your kids?

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Marilyn is a work-at-home mom, with two kids, a blog (A Lot of Loves), and a large cup of coffee.

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