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I've been back into this dating thing for a while, now, I guess, but really only half-heartedly. I just haven't found any guy who has gotten my full attention. But I seem to get the full attention of lots of guys. And because I am often accused of being too picky, of not seeing opportunity, of closing off avenues before I've even tried them out, I go out with these guys. I exchange pleasantries and phone numbers. And then they text. And I respond because I'm polite. And because I don't want my friends to accuse me of being too picky.
But is it wrong for me to want to hold out for a guy whose texts I don't respond to just because I'm polite? Who I actually want to go on a second date with? Instead of feeling some sort of obligation, a sense that I'm dooming myself to singledom if I don't give guys chance after chance after chance to spark my interest. I don't remember it being this hard when you find a guy you really like.
Because when I do that, give them too many chances, then I wind up in that awkward phase of having to "break up" with guys I never really meant to date. Or do I have to? Say I've gone out with a guy 2 or 3 times (with no kissing) and texted some in between. Do I really have to tell him I'm not interested? Or can I just stop responding to his texts?
Most importantly of all, how did I wind up back in the dating pool, asking these ridiculous questions, this close to my 38th birthday? I was supposed to be done with all this nonsense.
