Dear Dr. Romance: he can't forgive me because I did it first.

Dear Dr. Romance:

I'm in high school and going through a rough patch in my relationship I have been with my boyfriend
For 17 months, sort of on an off, but 5 months ago we broke up and I slept With another male an yesterday he told me he had sex with another female after I told him about my mistake, it took hiim 5 months to tell me, and I told him I would forgive him, but he says he can't forgive me because I made the mistake first. I don't know if I should stay and try with him or let go because it's very hard for me to let go. I love him An he makes me happy. Please help!

Dear Reader:

I'm sorry you're going through this. I know it's hard, but you need to understand you're just learning about relationships. Having sex at your age is a painful experience, because neither you nor your boyfriend have the emotional maturity to sustain a real relationship. Please go back to having friendships and leave sex alone until you're old enough to be able to handle the emotional ups and downs.  Offer to just be friends with this boy, and your relationship will calm down. Focus on building friendships and getting your schoolwork done.

"The Colors of You" will help you focus on your positive qualities.  "Make New Friends, Keep Good Friends" will help you get your friendships on track.  The 10 Smartest Decisions a Woman Can Make Before 40 gives you the tools you need to get your life working on many levels.  I wish you a lot of good luck and love and a life worth living.

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