Dear Dr. Romance: On my death bed, I will not be in the mood to explain
By Tina B. Tessina on July 26, 2014
I received two emails, the second one, had a picture with the message ''see what you are missing''. This did hurt me, it was out of context, so I downloaded a picture with several children, and wrote ''one of these is your brother''. Correspondence stopped for ever. Parents keep hoping things will improve one fine day, but I am not so young any longer, and when I'm on my death bed, I will not be in the mood to talk and explain. I even made arrangements for no funeral, I donated my dead body. This way life will carry on as normal. Unknown and not known after death do come. shedding tears after is too late, we could have enjoyed a few phone calls togather, that is all i expected.
Perhaps I misunderstood, but the correspondence doesn't sound very loving by either you or your grown child. Your child may not have intended to hurt you, but to ask why you weren't around? Certainly, a hurt and angry response was not a good move on your part. Why don't you try again, with an apology, say you must have been mistaken, and can you try again? It would be a shame if you didn't repair things with your children. You can't just hope things will improve some day, you have to work to improve them. This means you need to be the forgiving and understanding one. I do hope you'll try again. I hope you'll read "The Nail in the Fence" . It can help you understand how to make a better effort. It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction will help you understand why families don't always know how to love, and how to fix it.
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