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Dear My Son's Daddy,
I'll never use the term "baby daddy," not sure why, I just can't get myself to do it.
I wish you saw what I did. I wish you could see our son for what he is. This amazing, adorable, sweet, smart, funny and kind hearted little boy. He is the best thing that could ever have happened to us, and even though he came in to our lives unexpected, I can't ever imagine that he wasn't meant to be here.
Sure, you have upheld your financial responsibilities to your son. You send a check every month. That doesn't make you a Daddy. It doesn't make you a man. A real man would be there for his son. When was the last time you saw him? 10 months ago? Can you tell me what his favorite animal is? Who his godfather is? What he likes to eat? He eats just like you by the way. He has inherited so much from you it makes me laugh. He is the most adventurous eater I have ever known just like you, he loves hockey just like you, he looks just like you. How did he get to be so much like you when he doesn't even know you? You send your check every month and you think that is fulfilling your fatherly duty.
I know, I know. I should thank my lucky stars that you at least do that, right? Most absent fathers have to be hounded and threatened to pay a dime of child support. Is that what makes you so self righteous?
I can't wrap my head around it. You text me and tell me that you care, but you don't even ask how he is doing. I can't keep trying to send you pictures, emails, texts and cards telling you what our little boy has been doing. I can't be the only one making effort any more. But I'm scared that if I stop I'll regret it later. People tell me that maybe if I stop talking to you then you'll get it. But I don't know if you will. Maybe in ten years you'll miss him. You'll regret not getting to know your first child. You'll regret that you never introduced him to your family. You'll regret not being there for such an amazing person. Everyone else in his life sees what he is. Why can't you?
Love,
You son's mother
