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Debunking Email Forwards

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They first appeared around 1997, when my email was xena@earthlink.net, and they've become more creatively outrageous every year. You get them too -- the carelessly forwarded email from your mom's friend, your arch-conservative brother-in-law or your late bloomer friend who checks her email bi-monthly: The Misinformed Email. These are the mindless forwards that beget Snopes and Hoax Slayer and I'm here to warn you, I absolutely live to debunk them.

Forward EmailThey primarily use real photos with fabricated stories to fit somebody's (Who? WHO???) personal political or religious beliefs. The mythical messages usually includes sentences like, "Why isn't the media covering this?", "Forward to your entire address book - if you dare!" and without fail, "GOD BLESS AMERICA!" The subject line is usually filled with glaring evidence: "FW: FW: Fw: Fw: Fw: FW: Must read!!" so it is clear the note has traveled the land far and wide with no one minding the Gate of Truth.

Well, I have taken up a volunteer position at said Gate, alongside many others. And much like the Minutemen along the Arizona border, our mission is resolute: Stop The Flow. My BlogHer editor, Julie, admitted to the same compulsive habit, saying, "My family calls me 'The Debunker.'" And I think it's safe to say that Andy Rooney is also a member.

My habit began years ago when my mother's neighbor, Herman, forwarded a heart-tugging email about the statue of a U.S. soldier made by a "grateful Iraqi." The photo showed a Middle Eastern man holding sculpting tools sitting before a bronze sculpture of a man in mourning. It went something like this:


"The statue was created by an Iraqi artist named Kalat, who for years was forced by Saddam Hussein to make the many hundreds of bronze busts of Saddam that dotted Baghdad. Kalat was so grateful for the Americans liberation of his country; he melted 3 of the heads of the fallen Saddam and made the statue as a memorial to the American soldiers and their fallen warriors. Kalat worked on this memorial night and day for several months.

Do you know why we don't hear about this in the news? Because it is heart warming and praise worthy. The media avoids it because it does not have the shock effect that a flashed breast or controversy of politics does. But we can do something about it. We can pass this along to as many people as we can in honor of all our brave military who is making a difference. Thank you!!

Send this to at least 1/2 of your address book!!!!!"

This reeked to me of Iraq war propaganda, which then caused me to froth at the mouth. So, I did the tiniest bit of digging and discovered that the artist, statue, and bronze sourcing were all quite real. However, the sculptor, Khalid Alussy, created the statues not because he was "grateful" but because he was paid $18,000. (He'd also been paid similarly by Saddam.) A Wall Street Journal article at the time noted that Mr. Alussy is not a huge fan of America and remains bitter about a relative killed in a US rocket attack. Nuggets of truth with a fabricated back story -- the standard recipe.

With truth in hand, a decision had to be made:

A) Ignore the ignorance and move on with my day.

B) Reply to Herman and let him know the truth.

C) Reply to everyone on the list, risk embarrassing Herman, and possibly be removed from his address book.

Right then and there I began a policy of always choosing "C" and facing the consequences. (A befuddled Herman sent back a polite response: "Thanks for the information.") Although it may seem rude on my part, I consider it equally impolite to stuff my inbox with fabrications. I've thought long and hard about this and always come to the same conclusion.

After a while, I may have developed a reputation of sorts as the emails dwindled. Some folks I never heard from again, which remains a glorious victory. Then, about a year ago, my sister-in-law, Mary Ann, included me in a group forward that renewed my habit. As per usual, I stopped whatever I was doing, plunged into research, hit "Reply All" and prayed that I hadn't destroyed our relationship.

Well, she got mad all right, but her anger was directed at the person who'd sent it to her. "How

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NCMominCR 22 pts

Love! I don't even read forwarded emails like this in general, but when I do, I respond like you do if they're bunk. My biggest problem is on Facebook, how people are constantly sharing things that are exaggerations, outright lies, or cherry-picked. These same tips are helpful in dealing with those, too, since the debunking principle remains the same. I'm a fellow Truth Party member! Vive la Revolution!

smiles4u2have 5 pts

You are my new hero.  Seriously.  I am joining the Truth Party! Woo! 

susankinidaho 36 pts

I don't open 'forwards'...LOL! I delete them. I lost a few friends along life's way, about 5-6 years ago when I stated my opinion about forwarded 'stuff' to everyone on my contact list. This came about after my inbox became cluttered with 'forwarded' jokes and stuff that had been rehashed over the internet for several years. I was receiving the same 'forwards' from several contacts. I informed everyone that I'd much rather get a e-mail from them telling me about their family and of how everyone is doing (since no one writes snail-mail letters anymore). Only one person retorted back to me with what she thought about my e-mail regarding the 'forwards'. She was so angry with me, we no longer communicate (I knew her in high school...1971-1974). I have often wondered if I should have just kept my mouth (fingers) shut and left it alone.

 

Great post!

undeterrable 11 pts

I'm glad the only forwards I recieve are cute animal pictures. Even if the photo was doctored and the animal isn't truly that cute in real life, I prefer to live in my fantasy world. However, I like the approach you take to this. I think it is very important. I think my husband should join your ranks. He LOVES to do this.

peroxidedesigns 5 pts

Hello, fellow debunker! Thankfully, my family has either realized not EVERYTHING they receive from my crazy aunt and uncle is true or they've become afraid of the email machine. Not sure. They're kind of technologically behind. Anyway, although the email forwards ceased, I see similar "re-post this!!!" status updates on Facebook (and, to a lesser extent, on Twitter). Since it wasn't sent directly to me, I hesitate to respond. And do I call them out in front of all of their friends? I try to weigh the impact of the inaccurate information (is it fueling hate or unhealthy behaviors?) and, if it is, I will post a response as politely as possible. So far, the reaction has been pretty positive and they've thanked me for looking this up.

Heather Clisby 24 pts

peroxidedesigns Yay! You are providing a much-needed service, my fellow debunker. Keep fighting the tide of untruths!

Heather Clisby 24 pts

Bless you, Mike! You handled that situation with your dad very well. Did he have a reaction? I especially love what you wrote:

"You see, the internet is a dangerous place because it allows us to judge and make decisions without thinking. We let the message it delivers us do the thinking and we are quick to react as though it is fact."

And you're right about Snopes doing most of the legwork for us, which means it really doesn't take much time at all to discover the truth.

Soooo glad you stopped by since you beat me to the punch on this. Well done!

~ClizBiz

BlogHer Contributing Editor, Animal & Wildlife Concerns, Proprietor, ClizBiz ( http://www.clizbiz.blogspot.com/ )

Heather Clisby 24 pts

Wow. Sounds like you have been fighting the good fight for a long while now. Why do so many come from our families? Wish I had the answer there.

There are so many Truth Sisters here....At the very least, we should start a band.

~ClizBiz

BlogHer Contributing Editor, Animal & Wildlife Concerns, Proprietor, ClizBiz ( http://www.clizbiz.blogspot.com/ )

Heather Clisby 24 pts

I've always found it odd that otherwise smart people would buy into the idea that the act of passing along a note would somehow influence the outcome of their day/week/life/whatever. Bizarre.

~ClizBiz

BlogHer Contributing Editor, Animal & Wildlife Concerns, Proprietor, ClizBiz ( http://www.clizbiz.blogspot.com/ )

Heather Clisby 24 pts

BlogHer has the smartest readers by far. Ya'll keep coming up with points I neglected to include. In this case, the act of using a forwarded email in place of an actual human gesture, like a phone call or even a personalized email.

Some people don't seem to realize that a half-ass forward does not necessarily serve a friendship and, in many cases, can even end it.

Thanks for the kind words.

~ClizBiz

BlogHer Contributing Editor, Animal & Wildlife Concerns, Proprietor, ClizBiz ( http://www.clizbiz.blogspot.com/ )

Heather Clisby 24 pts

Really? You are a stronger woman than I. My mother sends me the same cute animal photos over and over again and I never seem to tire of them. After all, that backyard photo of a moose and house cat kissing contains zero lies.

~ClizBiz

BlogHer Contributing Editor, Animal & Wildlife Concerns, Proprietor, ClizBiz ( http://www.clizbiz.blogspot.com/ )

Heather Clisby 24 pts

Karen,

Oh, I love this approach of reacting as if it were a joke! Well done. After all, it usually is a joke...a very sick one that is missing a punchline.

Great blog, btw! Sounds like you've been fighting the good fight for a while now.

~ClizBiz

BlogHer Contributing Editor, Animal & Wildlife Concerns, Proprietor, ClizBiz ( http://www.clizbiz.blogspot.com/ )

Heather Clisby 24 pts

Arlene,

You tapped into something I hadn't really covered which is how these falsehoods are designed to feed into fear. It ends up creating and perpetuating remote suspicions into full-blown paranoia.

Thanks for being a great Truth Soldier.

~ClizBiz

BlogHer Contributing Editor, Animal & Wildlife Concerns, Proprietor, ClizBiz ( http://www.clizbiz.blogspot.com/ )

mwilton13 5 pts

I feel you on this one. My dad is notorious for sending me stuff like this that he gets from other people. I did a post on it a few months back following some ridiculous email about Obama not saluting during the Fort Hood memorial service. I dug around, found my own proof and then compared the info to what I found on snopes and then sent an email back to my dad and everyone he CCed to let them know what I thought about spreading that sort of ignorance via email.

You can read all about it here, http://www.musingsforadarkenedroom.com/musings/the-internet-is-a-dangero... ( http://www.musingsforadarkenedroom.com/musings/the-internet-is-a-dangerous-place/ ), but ultimately the internet is making people a lot more ignorant to the truth and leading them to make decisions about people and events based off of misinformation. It's scary really and I wish more people did what you and I have done.

Miss Capri 5 pts

Heh, heh, heh! You know, anything that's supposed to be unbelievably adorable in chain letters is fun to smash.

Miss Capri 5 pts

Yes, there are left-wing chain letters. Animal activists don't call it chain letters but that's exactly what their "action alerts" and "outreach" virals are, and does anybody remember all the George Bush joke forwards?

Miss Capri 5 pts

Wow, exactly! Same frustration here for sure.

Miss Capri 5 pts

Oh, I can't just delete. I've tried that with some of them, but found this didn't put so much as a dent into the problem, and as I tried to be nice and quietly delete, the angrier I got with each subsequent piece of junk to land in my inbox. I'm pretty sore at people who've stopped writing me personal notes because they'd rather send chain forwards to others who won't say anything about them unless it's in praise. And OMG, the praise forwarders get on email distribution lists when they send those viral friendship chains or political chains - makes me want to hurl. And I think the reason forwarders leave all the headers in is probably part of why they love forwarding in the first place. It's a human condition known as laziness. When you think about it, these people believe they're practically saving the world and being everyone's best friend by spamming their inboxes. And, chain emails may have decreased somewhat, but not chain letters in general. Social networks, web forums and blogs are where people are posting this kruft now. You know those *cough cough* blog awards, and those survey memes? Blech. And man I'm so sick of republicans and Christians junking up web space with pseudo-religious and stupid political chains. I'm also frustrated to no end with Christians and republicans ignoring and not taking me seriously when I try to tell them they need to stop believing in and spreading chain letters.

Heather Clisby 24 pts

Donna,

Including the many email addresses, headings, 'Fw' and 'Re:' that came before it reveals something about the sender, doesn't it? Mostly, it reveals a thoughtlessness that is almost always contained in body content as well.

Deleting has its own deflector power too, Donna, so don't discount your contribution by stopping the chain.

And thanks for the kind words, much appreciated.

~ClizBiz

BlogHer Contributing Editor, Animal & Wildlife Concerns, Proprietor, ClizBiz ( http://www.clizbiz.blogspot.com/ )

Heather Clisby 24 pts

Sounds like you are much more polite than I. Unfortunately, I get so upset that I can be a bit ham-fisted about the whole thing, which always makes me want to ask the person who has forwarded, "Um, have we met?"

~Clizbiz

BlogHer Contributing Editor, Animal & Wildlife Concerns, Proprietor, ClizBiz ( http://www.clizbiz.blogspot.com/ )

Heather Clisby 24 pts

The Internet needs you, Mandy. I'm hoping that if enough of us take a stand, people might think twice about perpetuating this habit.

~ClizBiz

BlogHer Contributing Editor, Animal & Wildlife Concerns, Proprietor, ClizBiz ( http://www.clizbiz.blogspot.com/ )

Heather Clisby 24 pts

Welcome to the club, Virginia. Good news is, they trust you, right?

~ClizBiz

BlogHer Contributing Editor, Animal & Wildlife Concerns, Proprietor, ClizBiz ( http://www.clizbiz.blogspot.com/ )

Heather Clisby 24 pts

Miss Capri,

Oh, I hear ya loud and clear. The funny thing is, even before the Internet, I would take some joy in breaking those awful chain letters too. I remember thinking, "What is this sick voodoo shit in my mailbox?" Same thing, different form.

Since I posted this, I've heard countless tales of friendships being ruined by these forwards and it is quite sad. Your point about God-hypocrisy and avoidance of in-person contact hits home with many of us. Sign of the times, I guess but not very satisfying.

Let's continue to nip these suckers in the bud before they spread too far.

You're my hero.

~ClizBiz

BlogHer Contributing Editor, Animal & Wildlife Concerns, Proprietor, ClizBiz ( http://www.clizbiz.blogspot.com/ )

stampinbuzz 5 pts

I am also a debunker, I have never had hateful emails back, but i have been removed from address lists. Now I get them with the forward information removed and only family members left on the reply list. lol I did get one back from my step daughter that said, "wow! it was just a joke". Glad to say, she has changed her party affiliation in the last few years

Something I have wondered for a long time. Are there actually liberal/progressive versions of these things? Because I have never, ever gotten one that wasn't from the right or just non political misinformation.

mzscahlett 5 pts

Apparently we were separated at birth. Good to know I'm not alone. Over the Obama/McCain election period alone, I had to tell many Jewish relatives repeatedly that Obama was actually NOT born in Kenya. That "photo" of his birth certificate was a hoax. I had to explain to them that the English do not refuse to mention the Holocaust in school... you know the drill. Rock on sister soljah!

Heather Clisby 24 pts

Yay! I knew I couldn't possibly be the only one.

And I LOVE the term "Liberal Conservative" - I'm totally stealing it. Maybe we should have matching t-shirts made for BlogHer '11?

~ClizBiz

BlogHer Contributing Editor, Animal & Wildlife Concerns, Proprietor, ClizBiz ( http://www.clizbiz.blogspot.com/ )

Heather Clisby 24 pts

Violent, personal and relentless? Wow. That's awful. I wonder how it made the sender feel? Probably like they don't want to get involved in groups forwards anymore, for starters.

I admire your tackling awful rumors in real time, in the real world. That can take some grit and pre-research so kudos to you, Kathykate.

~ClizBiz

BlogHer Contributing Editor, Animal & Wildlife Concerns, Proprietor, ClizBiz ( http://www.clizbiz.blogspot.com/ )

sassymonkey 1023 pts moderator

I never really did get the political ones (thank goodness). I was more likely to get the "forward to five friends and x will happen" type. Or the things that people thought were funny.

Contributing Editor Karen Ballum also blogs at Sassymonkey ( http://sassymonkey.ca ) and Sassymonkey Reads ( http://sassymonkeyreads.ca ).

sassymonkey 1023 pts moderator

Since you don't like cute bunnies I guess I should send you cute kittens? ;-)

Contributing Editor Karen Ballum also blogs at Sassymonkey ( http://sassymonkey.ca ) and Sassymonkey Reads ( http://sassymonkeyreads.ca ).

pammeey 5 pts

I debunk, usually I just delete. Mostly I'm just driven crazy by someone who can take the time to forward me this junk but doesn't have the time to send an email to just say hi. I have ended "friendships" because of email forwards.

Great post, by the way.

JennaHatfield 268 pts

I don't even read forwards anymore. Immediately deleted. I can't handle it. I don't even want cute bunnies.

Contributing Editor Jenna Hatfield (@FireMom ( http://twitter.com/FireMom )) blogs at Stop, Drop and Blog ( http://stopdropandblog.com ) and The Chronicles of Munchkin Land ( http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com ). She is a freelance writer and photographer.

Karen5Lund 5 pts

It's nice to know I'm not alone. From early on I was a debunker of whatever weird, scandalous or just plain wrong mass e-mails my friends forwarded to me.

To be nice I never replied to any but the immediate sender--no point embarrassing people. I'd include a suitable link to a reliable source. Snopes.com got a lot of traction.

Once in a while I'd respond as if the sender *knew* it was a joke (even though I was pretty sure she didn't), as with the warning that the Web was going to be closed for "spring cleaning"--on April 1, of course--so I should back up all my e-mail.

Along the way I educated a few people, lost one friend and ditched a couple more. (An acquaintance wrote back to rant that I was part of the conspiracy to hide the truth.) One briefly took to forwarding those mass e-mails to only me, asking me to look it up on Snopes for her. Sigh! After a couple of times I pointed out that she could look it up herself.

Your tips are excellent, an expansion on what I have done. Thanks for sharing.

Karen E. Lund

Circle of Ignorance ( http://circleofignorance.wordpress.com )

My LinkedIn Profile ( http://www.linkedin.com/in/karen5lund )

botched@botchedoptimist.com 5 pts

Great for you. I am the Facebook debunker, since my friends and family know not to send me chain emails. Ever.
I get so tired of the crap on my Facebook wall, for instance, the cancellation of National Prayer day you mentioned. I too, debunked that in the flash of an eye. Probably losing friends, but I don't care. I'm so tired of the lies, and so tired of people I once thought were intelligent human beings, believing absolutely everything fed to them. Everyone needs to question lies masqueraded as "fact." Most of those lies even originate on our own "news" stations. We need to stop enabling these people whose only intent is to shock, scare or anger you into hating someone or something. I wish everyone would grow up, and consider the sources for these tidbits, whether they be by email or on Facebook.

mylife-in-stories.blogspot.com 5 pts

I wish I could in all honesty say I'm a debunker but truthfully I am more of a deleter. Something just rages in me when I get an email with more than one Re: in it. I try not to forward anything except when I am positive the recipient may be interested and then, only with a quick explanation as to why I sent it. Most of the time I take the Re: out of it and replace it with my own heading.

Another question I have is why don't these forwarders take everyone else's email address off before they forward. That's a pet peeve.
Wonderful article!

Donna @ http://mylife-in-stories.blogspot.com

kdc521 8 pts

That is great how you handle it. I usually just email the person who sent it out with the correct info including an "in case you want to let everyone whom you emailed know". (Sometimes they do. Sometimes they don't.)

Fortunately, those mass (false!) emails have dwindled over the years!

fouragainsttwo 30 pts

Great posts! I debunked during the election, but now I usually just email the person and ask them not to send me forwards of gossip/untruths. It seems to work and I have more time!

Maybe I need to start again....
Mandy W.

FourAgainstTwo.com

unknwndreamer 5 pts

I'm the family debunker, unfortunately this means I get a whole lot of emails just because someone wants me to debunk them.

Virginia

http://destructionofvirginia.blogspot.com

Miss Capri 5 pts

I'm also a debunker, and not merely a chain-breaker, but an all out chain-smasher. I'm also sick of so many people ruining friendships with forwards. You know the kind of thing I mean, where you start out writing notes, the conversation is fun until WHAM! The friend starts sending chain forwards! Once they get into that, it's pretty much goodbye communication. I'm sick of Christians and republicans letting themselves get taken in by all this junk, sick of them refusing to take me seriously, sick of always seeing complaints about chain letter activity on the net always being from the left and non-Christians over the republican Christians. I'm not left-wing by any stretch, but neither am I part of the far-right contingent, I am a Christian and I smash chain letters and feel good about it. Even before I became so painfully aware of the mockery Christians bring on themselves with chain-addiction, I simply got sick of all the sad stories and unbelievably gushy friendship forwards people were always sending around. And then there are the dying kid hoaxes - don't get me started! But what really galls me about the friendship/love chain emails in particular is the fact that they preach on and on about being a good friend, not taking friends for granted and all that, but the only time I ever hear from some friends is whenever they've been cyber emotionally manhandled by this type of chain into spreading it far and wide. Otherwise, could they be bothered to send me a note, ask me to go out for coffee with them, go shopping, or anything? No! And then when chain letters toss God's name around, that really makes me mad. And yes, people have whinged at me for doing the reply-all when debunking a chain, but frustrating as that is, their idiocy isn't my fault... If they'd stop with the forwards, things would be so much better.

aligee 5 pts

We are sisters!! I am a huge debunker! I am a Liberal Conservative (no, really!) and I get so sick of all the crap people send all over the place!! Yay! I'm not alone!!

 You can find Ali online @ ksmb.com ( http://ksmb.com/article.asp?id=525987 )  or if you are in  Acadiana tune  in to94.5 KSMB FM on your radio dial Monday thru Saturday 6am-10am & some Saturdays 2-6p

Kathykate 10 pts

Can't do it. Tried the "reply all" approach, and the attack was violent, personal and relentless. I was only friends with the sender, not his friends.
But face-to-face? I counter every racist/sexist/violent rumor and provide facts. Shuts them up. But on the internet? The anonymity is too empowering and quite frankly, scary.
great post! good luck!

Kathykate (p/t copywriter, f/t mom)

Diary of a Return-to-Work Mom ( http://www.returntoworkmom.com/ )