The Decision to Cancel the Wedding
By jennywellnessjourney on January 23, 2014
It truly made me reflect upon what’s important to our family. OF COURSE we love each other! OF COURSE we want to be married! The importance doesn’t lie in the date, OR the event. The importance lies in US. Being together. Loving each other—as we do so deeply.
I looked at where the stress was coming from (aside from me turning 35 in March and us wanting to add to our family—THAT’S a post for another day!) the stress was coming from trying to accomplish all we were trying to do by a certain date—May 18th—so that we could hold this elaborate dog and pony show, at our expense, for people to attend, who up to this point had nothing positive to say.
Don’t get me wrong, we don’t feel that way about EVERYONE obviously, but there were more than we cared to count unfortunately.
Eliminate the date, and you eliminate the stress. And so it was done.
Suddenly, the fact that we set out to accomplish getting our laundry room completed in one day and it ended up taking this ENTIRE weekend didn’t seem so DIRE, as it may have had we been feeling pressured to complete things by a certain day.
Maybe it will still happen on May 18th. Maybe it will be the 19th. Or maybe it will be July or August instead of May. That we don’t know. But we’ll be headed to the Caribbean as a family to do it (most likely one of the Sandals resorts). That much we DO know. And the most important people in our lives will already be in attendance. The rest that care to, but perhaps can’t make the trip, can watch the video.