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Every couple has one. Its that argument that you keep going back to no matter how much time passes, or how much you mature. Its the fight that continues to pop up despite all the effort you put into moving beyond it. Our fight is what I like to call, “My husband is a big ass baby when he is sick and I won’t stand for it” fight.
Here is his process:
-Starts sniffling.
-Intentionally lowers his voice so he can sound sicker and says, “I don’t feel right.”
-Gets very quiet and introspective in order to demonstrate said sickness.
-Says, “I can’t hold the baby. I don’t want her to catch this awful thing.”
-Coughs like a dying donkey and expels phlegm everywhere.
-Takes to his bed and stays there all day and all night, only moving in order to reach the tv remote.
-Doesn’t want to trouble me but asks that I get make him soup, buy him gatorade, take his temperature, and keep a bedside vigil so that he may recover from this devastating illness.
Now, I’ve never been really sick myself, so maybe there is an intolerability on my part for sick people. I’m trying to understand. Really. But I start to feel taken advantage of after awhile. I essentially become a single parent for the whole time he is sick. I take the dogs out, feed the baby, bathe the baby and take care of every single household responsibility one can think of. All by myself.
One of our worst weeks together is when the baby was 7 weeks old. He flat out refused to pick her up for 7 days. I was so utterly exhausted and angry by the end of it, I seriously considered the big D word. I said to myself, “If he ever gets like this again, you are leaving his ass.” Of course that was my anger talking. But after it was all over, I realized that this is going to be a recurring problem in our relationship, so i’d better get used to the idea. And I’m getting better. I didn’t threaten divorce this time, so thats progress right?
Does your partner become a big ass baby when sick? How do you deal with it? If you don’t have this issue, what is your default fight?
