Define Me

by Rhonda Chaney     Email:

 Ever notice how we’re constantly trying to define ourselves? 

 I sometimes marvel at the dozens of different FB applications that provide us with information on who we really are…in just ten short questions!  I must admit I’ve never taken one of those FB tests, but I’m amazed at how popular they are.  Quizzes like…If you were a flower you’d be a rose because you are fragile, fragrant, moody and hard to handle.  …If you were a color you’d be red because you’re vibrant, energetic, bold and extroverted.  …If you were a song…yadda, yadda, yadda. 

 And then there’s the “Daily Horoscopes”.  Realistically, how can only twelve horoscopes be enough to predict every man, woman and child’s daily experiences?  Can’t be correct.  And yet we read them – looking for direction.  There are hundreds of personality tests and books on finding the real you, knowing your personality, finding the perfect job – or spouse, peeling the layers.  What are we looking for?  Don’t we know who we are?  Don’t we know our own personality and traits? Do we think some magical answers reside in the results?  Do we really think we’re going to learn something new about ourselves?

 When I look at it objectively, I think it’s funny.  But, quite honestly, I do some of it too. I find it interesting that some objective tool can, often times, hit the nail on the head.  I like the game of seeing if it works – testing the test.  Maybe others do it for the same reasons.  Or, maybe we’re just tired of trying to make good decisions…and we’re looking for easy answers?  We question ourselves, wonder if we’ve walked down the wrong path, picked the wrong people to share our life with, chosen the wrong career.  Welcome to mid-life. Truth is, many of us are probably less certain of who we are today than we were in our twenties.  But I think it’s okay to re-define yourself, and mid-life just might be the time to do it.  I’m working on re-defining me.

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