"Defriending" on Facebook

LOL!  There should be lists of 'family', 'going out with friends', 'work friends', and 'random HS people that I wouldn't know if I saw in a gas station'!!  The power of the Defriend! 

I recently cut down my list by a lot. It had nothing to do with being ignored but on the same note it had to do with what I would do if I saw them at the store. I decided to delete anyone who I wouldn't be happy to run into at the store. If I thought I might duck into another aisle I went ahead and unfriended them. It really took my list down :)

I like your drop down list idea. Quite clever, imo. :-)

Loved this !

almost Defriended my soon to be sis in law. The reason was she had a nasty comment about my brother's son from a previous relationship. The reason why I did not was because I needed to get the story straight before accusing her of anything. all I know was she was being a child about it towards a 15-yo. I have defriended some people who have cursed too much, and this year it is all about being way too negative, and plopped it in my FB status, LOL. After all, it is your FB.

I think this is a great post - fun and well said. Even more annoying to me is when people get married and change their last names and then I have absolutely no idea who they are... If I don't know them well enough to know that they got married, I get rid of them!

I can't believe you care that much about being snubbed that you actually took the time to defriend someone. Also, if you don't want people liking your old pictures . . . here's an idea . . . ERASE THEM! I had to post your blog post on my FB wall 'cause my jaw is still gaping open.

Seriously.. .there are so many people that I should unfriend but honestly don't have the energy or the time. I figure I'll eventually say something that will make them seethe and they'll just unfriend me and save me the time ;)

For the record, I took it as intended - tongue in cheek... I had a featured post a couple of weeks ago and took a "beating" for some of my remarks.. some folks just can't see the humor in a topic.

Is it defriending or unfriending? Some of my friends call it walking the plank.

Listen. You have every right to defriend people. (please don't defriend me),lol. I defreinded and blocked my step mother. I'm so a daddys little girl, and when I have financial trouble, I "run" to my dad. Not saying it's a good thing, but it's how I roll,lol. Recently, my dad has been questioning me about my spending habits, and come to find 0ut my step mom has been going to my dad telling him the things I say on facebook. I also defriend people who I think may not have the best of intentions. Shady people, who I probably should not have added at all, where I'm concerned they'll see a post like "going on vacation, be back i a week", and decide to rob me,lol. Bottom line, i't's YOUR facebook, and you don't HAVE to have anyone on there. Have who you want, and delete the ones that don't matter :)

Another way to "clear out " FB friends is simply to put them on resricted. They can see your likes and dislikes, photos....everything but your posts.

Let me just clarify first, this was just supposed to be kind of a humor post. I did truly defriend someone, which I never do, and only because she has snubbed me before. I understand that people walk around in a daze sometimes, and that we all go through our own "things" but If I was sitting on her lap, I couldn't have been any closer. A simple hello or a smile, not a long conversation about the family, would have been suffice..If you were my really good (maybe once considered a best friend) at one time, you would know this about me. Oh well, we win some we lose some.

As I tell my husband all the time... Before you act find out the facts. Did this person just get some bad news and go into the zone or are they truly snubbing you? Did you approach later and ask?

I'm asking you this because this happened to me ... Only I was the one didn't see, hear the person I had known for ages. My accidental 'snubbing' turned my old friend into a shrew as she told the world what a b*tch I was. Little did she know that I just found out a good friend died in a house fire. I didn't see or hear anyone for a couple days -- I just went on auto pilot.

If she truly just didn't want to "see" you and snubbed you, then you are correct in unfriending her. Just make sure before you tell the whole world about it.

haha love it! I defriended my sister in law because she sent an email on Christmas day asking that I not tag her in photos. She was in the other room! Honestly people, learn how to communicate in real life. Love your drop down ideas.

You seem a bit oversensitive, really. As another person wrote, you don't know what may be going on with that person. Always deal with others as kindly as you are able. You don't know when a kind act can make a person's day...Or when a negative petty act can add salt to an invisible festering wound.

I would never bother de-friending anyone. I don't say stuff on my news feed that I couldn't say to anybody. If it's personal, it's either a) a phone call b) better yet, in person. c) text or email or d) personal message on the 'book. Someday all that petty crap will just not matter anymore, if one has any kind of life at all! Lay chilly......could have been any number of reasons you got "snubbed".

I had to put my mother in hospice on Christmas. And then she died three days later. For two weeks, I was in a fog. I wouldn't have known a Facebook friend opening a door for me. Everyone is fighting their own inner battles. It's your prerogative to unfriendly whomever you choose, but maybe consider that other person might be going through something awful and is in their own world.

The ability to 'friend' and 'unfriend' just adds a whole new component to a relationship. And if that relationship is already tenuous or unhealthy, it seems to magnify those traits.

In the first rush of Facebook about two years ago, I managed to accumulate over 365 'friends'. Most of them were from high school and it has been nice to reconnect. But many were people I barely knew and/or thought I knew but found out they were weird/scary/annoying or all of the above. So I have been quietly unfriending people I really am not close to or do not want to be.

On a dysfunctionally comic note, my aunt unfriended myself and my siblings. No warning, no explanation, just unfriended us one day. It is apparently an adjunct to the family negative-communication-of-choice, The Silent Treatment. I have grown past this juvenile behavior and could care less if she is my FB friend (or if she never speaks to me again). But it is interesting to consider how some people view it as a weapon.