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Note to self: please stop issuing broad, sweeping edicts that you yourself cannot follow.
My husband is a very patient man, and he generally nods his head in agreement when I come out with one of my new “It has to be this ways”. The first one that I remember announcing came out of me before our daughter was born. As he and I sat in front of the TV, watching our favorite show and eating our dinner, I declared that there would be none of that once the baby was born. We would sit at the dining room table- a.k.a filing cabinet- and have a respectable meal, like the dignified family we were meant to be.
Now, we aren’t big t.v. watchers, but there are a few shows that we really enjoy. The problem is that almost every one of those shows comes on right smack dab in the middle of our dinner time. I realized, once our daughter was born, that following through with my rule was going to be a bit of a challenge, and it turns out that I don’t always have the resolve to do it. So, there we sit - eating our dinner in front of the TV, watching “Dancing with the Stars” with our daughter (By the way, she loves that show!)
Like I said, my husband is generally pretty tolerant of the bossy pants side to my personality. He can’t, however, resist taking digs at me whenever he catches me breaking my own rules. It’s become something of a little game for him. You see, the TV rule isn’t the only one I’ve broken. There’s the no computer in the bed rule, the never leave the kitchen a mess after dinner rule, the no cell phone use while driving rule (okay, that’s one I actually DO follow);The list goes on and on. I just give him an eye roll or pretend not to hear him when he yells out, “I’m bringing my computer to bed to do some work.” as I slink off to bed with my laptop in hand.
So why do I feel the need to keep laying down these laws, given that I clearly can’t follow them? I don’t know if the instinct comes from being an elementary school teacher for 8 years, or if I became a teacher because I had a deep-seeded need to be The Big Kahuna. It’s a bit of the chicken or the egg dilemma.
I realize that I must sound like a real joy to live with, but I really do have some good qualities that I hope cancel out my despotic side. Nevertheless, I have decided that from here on out I need to ease up on the rule-making. For the sake of my marriage, and because I find it hard to live with hypocrisy-especially my own, I am putting a stop to it!
Wait…I think that might be a new rule.
