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Helping Our Kids (and Ourselves) Avoid the Disease of Stuff This Holiday Season

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You've met them and at times, you have been them. Because really, in our culture, that seems to be the battle.

It's the Wanna-be-War which rages against us in a world full of stuff. And with Christmas, in all it's "finery," beginning to parade around in stores, I'm reminded of how stuff pulls me in.

I was in Costco with all it's neat and tidy aisles, lined with sparkling goodies, and the suck begins.

Rundle Mall StoresI immediately whipped out the paper from my purse and reminded myself: list, list, list. But as good parents, we allowed our kids to go up and down the toy and gadgets aisles, and nod "Yes, that's neat." "Oh yes, I like that." "Why yes, that'd be a great project." Followed by the, "No, we aren't getting it, and it, and it."

I began to get irritated, not by my kids, as much as by stuff.

But it's a battle.

Because I love stuff too. I'm just like my kids. I survey the warehouse and I begin to want, too.

Stuff kills. I know this.

It quenches heaven and starves the spirit, until we're spiritually anorexic. Stuff makes us feel fat and never feel good about ourselves.

And Wanna-be-Wars begin as we think about, so-and-so who has stuff, or so-and-so magazine girl looking like that, or so-and-so friend did this, or so-and-so does that thing better, and we're off.

The race has begun.

Before my family knows it, I'm at the cell phone booth to switch out my service. Already, the glossy new phones seem too "smart" to not sign up for the new do-dad, gizmo, or data package, it has to offer.

Family after family comes to the booth, ooh-ing and aww-ing over this phone or that. Teenagers with parents trying to convince them, "This is the one I need."

All I can think about is the rapture on their faces, eying stuff. And I think how that's me, merrily going along with my man-made worship, mesmerized by things carved by hands.

I'm grieved, Holy Spirit, by our happiness-search.

Instead of eagerly coming to Your booth to get Your latest upgrades, we go to the world. Instead of searching out Your social media, we click away. Instead of handling the invisible spiritual matters with ooh's and aww's, we fix our eyes on the visible -- stuff.

In our western culture, we are in a minefield of trappings. We carefully step among materialistic cursings that brightly allure us. We have to deny, deny, deny in a humanistic culture that says, "good ahead if it feels good" or "if you can have it, get it."

We must choose, the foot of the mountain or the climb. Lingering too long at the bottom, is where we build golden-calves.

So, up we must go.

In my western world stream there at Costco, I tried to swim up a ripple.

At the cell phone booth, I did what I came for. I downgraded. It's small, I know. Minor, really.

No phone email, no phone internet, no more Google searches, no phone with Facebook or Pandora. Just a phone.

My husband and I left.

And in the car, we wondered out loud, the disease of stuff.

“ Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven." Matthew 5:3

 

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xcape2beach 5 pts

The idea of having "stuff" is forgein to many. I work with families in poverty and those at risk for homelessness. I appreciate your words and realizing that having "stuff" isn't that satisfying. While my organization made very attempt possible to ensure that children had a Christmas morning, we were unable to provide them with an abundance of "stuff". We live in a nation where the people have to much "stuff". In fact, you can drive around and see garages so full of items not being used, that there's no room to park the family car. We even have so much "stuff" that we have to rent storage units to store the "stuff" that can't fit in our garage!! All the while, so many are struggling just to put food on the dinner table. Thank you for bringing the awareness our way!! Happy "Stuffing"!!!

NayLahKnee 10 pts

I am not usually pulled in by the lure of stuff. Granted I did go out on Black friday to shop but I'm cheap. I only bought what we needed for our new apartment. Everything else, I left sitting in Walmart for the crazies to fight over. The want of "stuff" is something my husband has bad......it drives me crazy.

Bibliomama 7 pts

I'm not religious (not sure why I feel the need to say that up front - I'm a former Catholic and I still have issues around the whole thing) but my goodness, the rest of it is like you're inside my head. I hate going shopping simply because I find that normally if I don't see things I don't want them. But I have kids, and the temptation to go overboard with stuff for them is great, although my daughter is having a hard time thinking of things to put on her list this year - unsure if that just means she has too much or if maybe she's getting the message too. I've donated boxes and boxes of clothes and toys and stuff in the last couple of months but I still feel buried under stuff. However, I do still have my cracked-display flip phone that's five years old and I feel NO desire to upgrade that.

if meadows speak 5 pts

Yep, that stuff suck doesn't discriminate (religious or not). This time of year, I will sometimes stop in an aisle (at my own peril) and people watch. It gives me perspective and allows time for the cheer to resonate. Otherwise, it's bumper carts with grumpy-shelf-snatching-get-outa-my-way scrooges and I succumb to the mayhem.

Sally G 16 pts

Thanks, especially for your gracious reply to my “atheist” comment, which could have been seen as a bit rude. It was an afterthought when I realized that this blog post was in a “religion” category; the only tip-off was the Bible quotation.

As I typed this (the first time; I lost it when I had to reset my password), Mom was reading an article about this year’s Black Friday mania. I am so proud of my hometown residents, who last year stopped the town council from a quick-and-unpublicized approval of stores’ request to open before their already-early 7:00 A.M. opening—this despite our being one of the top retail ZIP codes in the nation, at one time second only to 90210. We don’t need to bring that level of insanity to Paramus, N.J.

if meadows speak 5 pts

I applaud you, that you don't fall under the spell of stuff. And as to the 3rd generation of atheist having anything to do with it, maybe yes. Then again,maybe no. I have personal convictions related to my faith, while others have convictions or standards un-related to faith. These can look the same, be the same, do the same things, but it's the motivation behind it that's different. Hope you have a wonderful Advent season.

Sally G 16 pts

I do not relate to this at all; the lure of STUFF is not there for me. Yes, I enjoy the New York City stores’ Christmas windows; great tourist day, maybe even pick up a gift or two at Sephora—and mourn the loss of the wonderful bookstore of yore; how the mighty have fallen!—but no need to acquire for myself, no feeling of loss if I do not contribute inordinately to the materialistic mayhem.

Mom asked for a Christmas list the other day, and I simply can’t think of anything. Credit for rental cars—I drive but do not own, so when publilc transporation and friends don’t work, that is my means of transportation (as long as I limit it to 2 days or so per month, the cost is about equal to owning/maintaining a car).

Thanks, Mom and Dad for teaching us that homemade Hallowe’en costumes were way cooler than the off-the-rack corporate comic icons, that hot chocolate is made with real milk, cocoa powder, and sugar (and a pinch of salt!), that independent shops are way more fun than chain stores, and that a book for Christmas provides hours of pleasure after the gifts are open.Do you think it is because I am a 3rd-generation atheist?