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Dolphins: The Truth About Our Friends From the Sea

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Growing up, in film, TV, and books, I learned that dolphins often help out humans in scary situations such as shark attacks. They will bump the shark away from the human. Other times, humans have been towed nearer to shore by a dolphin or two. Flipper. He was fantastic. Right?

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A few Christmases ago, my bro & sis-in-law bought me a very meaningful gift: a "Fearlessness" necklace (by Me&Ro) from Mariska Hargitay's Joyful Heart Foundation, whose mission was (and is) " . . . to heal, educate and empower survivors of sexual assault, domestic violence and child abuse and to shed light into the darkness that surrounds these issues." The necklace I received cost $100, most of which went to fund the foundation. As a survivor of sexual assault, I LOVED (and still do) the gift because it represented my role of Survivor as well as helped other survivors in their healing process.

The Joyful Heart Foundation, founded by Hartigay, began in 2004 as a way to help sexual assault victims in New York heal. Survivors participate in week-long healing expeditions in Kona (Hawaii) and Bimini (Bahamas). At the time of its inception, the main attraction during these excursions was swimming in the ocean with dolphins.

Current Retreat Locations:

  1. Bimini (Bahamas) - Encounter Bottlenose & Spotted Dolphins
  2. Kona (Hawaii) - Encounter Bottlenose, Spinner (Hawaii's hybrid dolphin), Rough-toothed & Spotted Dolphins

In 2004, I read on their website about the healing properties of swimming with dolphins and immediately wished I could be a part of that healing process.

Reading testimonials like this one made me want to swim with dolphins even more:

"The next day we went out to swim with the dolphins again and what happened then is a little hard to describe. They were circling us and I felt this light go through my body and warmth and ease and peace. They swam next to us and I was started laughing and crying underwater in my snorkel mask. I felt what it was like to play again- to embrace gentleness and tenderness and love, not because they were safer than fear or guardedness, but because it felt better, and because I could choose it. Dolphins have scars and have every reason you would assume to fear humans but they swim right up to you and seem with all my heart to be smiling and playful. It gave me an idea- to love myself and protectively embrace all the parts of myself that are afraid and angry and doubtful, and to take the leap when it feels good, to love and to play and to live, despite everything." ~Anastasia Webb

What I gathered from all I read was that gentle, calm, loving dolphins are very helpful to sexual assault survivors in teaching them to trust again and to accept comfort and love without fear. Fast forward to 2008 and a fateful trip to Walt Disney World.

My mom and I were waiting to watch an indoor dolphin show at one of the parks. Before it started, we were talking to the show's announcer. He said that he was worried that the dolphins weren't going to follow directions and cooperate for the planned show. He explained that they were in mating season (Disney had the males & females separated, so we'd only be viewing the males) and that the males sometimes had a mind of their own during that time. He reminded me that dolphins are mammals just like us and that male dolphins (particularly Bottlenose) are known to rape and gang rape their female counterparts. YES. The SAME dolphins that are spreading healing power to women on these sexual assault retreats are also capable of gang rape within their own species!

Are you with me now?

Bottlenose dolphins are also known to participate in porpoise massacres, prostitute their women to other male dolphins and to commit infanticide amongst other activities.

From Wikipedia:

"Controversial interpretations and implications aside (see Sociobiological theories of rape), sex in a forceful or apparently coercive context has also been documented in a variety of species. A notable example is bottlenose dolphins, where at times, a herd of bachelor males will 'corner' a female.[49]Furthermore, in a zoo where it is common practice to put newly captured dolphins in with dolphins who are established in their enclosures, other species of dolphin are never put in together
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ScarlettLetter17 5 pts

This is ridiculous. Your argument is based on emotional appeal and you aren't thinking logically.

"I also agree with Pookielocks, that it might be inappropriate to have dolphins 'heal' survivors of rape when the species itself commits rape."

This is an absolutely ludicrous notion. The human species are certainly (and obviously) capable of rape and other such heinous crimes, yet they often offer comfort and healing to us in times of need, and we often go to them seeking this aid. It's the same concept.

You can't blame an ENTIRE SPECIES based on what a percentage of them do (for reasons we know NOTHING of). You have no way of knowing if your therapist has committed acts of sexual aggression on another and likewise, you have no way of knowing whether or not the dolphins you're swimming with have done so, either. You cannot generalize in this situation. If we go along with your line of thought, then the entire human race should be damned and labeled "pure evil" as you put it.

Don't be foolish and generalize an entire species. That's completely ignorant. Even if their behavior is suspicious, we still have no way of knowing what all is going on in their biological, communicative, and mental processes.

Mashadutoit, I agree on every point of yours.

APChekhov 5 pts

Mashadutoit, I understand your point that dolphins are not humans, so it might be inaccurate to apply human values to animals.

However, I also agree with Pookielocks, that it might be inappropriate to have dolphins 'heal' survivors of rape when the species itself commits rape.

To me, the situation boils down to a public relations nightmare.  Once people, most particularly rape survivors who interact with these bottlenose dolphins for 'healing' due to the trauma they have just experienced, are made aware that these very same dolphins perpetuate rape in their own species, would the rape survivors care to distinguish that human morality doesn't apply to the bottlenose dolphins?  Or would a sense of outrage simply emerge out of them from the very understandable perception that the animal which was supposed to hellp them ironically is guilty of practicing rape, or if not rape, then at least a very brutal sexual practice.

Say what you will about humans' limited understanding of animal sexuality:  it is very rare, from my layreading thus far, to observe a gang of male species ravage ONE female partner at the same time.  Aside from the bottlenose dolphin, I have not read about it anywhere else.  Based on this observation, I am inclined to think that gangrape in animals is not normative behavior.  I do find it curious, however, to think that an animal with increased intelligence practices such a behavior.

To wrap up, though I believe that you have a point that human morality should not be superimposed on animal sexuality of the bottlenose dolphin, I do argue that people will make no such distinction and will in fact readily apply human morality to bottlenose dolphin behavior.  Thus, the issue becomes a public relations nightmare for the people who are in charge of this foundation.

Pookielocks, I enjoyed reading your article quite a lot.  I had been looking at animal sexuailty for the better part of this morning out of idle curiousity.  I thought bottlenose dolphins were man's best friend, next to a dog-- their animal sexuality behavior gave me a rude awakening!

sarahday 5 pts

Dolphins are also one of the only other mammals to have sex for pleasure and not soully for mating.  I can't help but think there is a connection there. 

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pookielocks 5 pts

i see what you're saying.

i just hate thinking that they as many as 14 males will keep 1 female captive for 2-3 months and take turns having sex with her. ( http://www.msmodern.com/ )

mashadutoit 5 pts

I did understand that.  But what I was trying to say is that the term "rape" is only meaningfully applicable to humans.  There is no way we can know how dolphins see sex, or how they understand consent.  At best we can see what the power relations between them appear to be.

Another example- its very common for male mammals such as lions and bears to kills young of their species so the females will become sexually receptive again.  To us that seems wrong and twisted.  If a human did that it would be the worst kind of murder.  But that feeling is just a symptom of how far removed we have become from nature - we try to apply our human value systems on creatures who are wholly different from us. 

It would be a pity if the positive experience of rape survivors who interact with dolphins were discounted because of a mistake in thinking.

To put it another way - rape is not sex, its an expression of power and domination.  Dolphins are mating - they are having sex for reproduction.  Calling it rape is just a human mind game that does not help us get any nearer to the truth of what is happening, and might prevent us from seeing another kind of truth - the benefit that people feel from interacting with dolphins.

pookielocks 5 pts

true. i don't hate dolphins, but it is interesting to note that we're both mammals and we both have societies in which rape and murder go on.

My main point was should a species that gang rapes be used as a healing tool for rape survivors?

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mashadutoit 5 pts

To me, both views of dolphins are equally unbalanced.

Dolphins are not human beings, and should not be judged as though they were - so:

Fact - people feel better (often profoundly so) when interacting with them.  We dont entirely know why this is.

Fact - dolphins (like many other mammals) kill other animals, sometimes of their own species. 

But to speak of rape, murder and prostitution is absurd because it pre-supposes human judgements which just do not make sense when we are speaking about another species. It makes assumptions about assent, choice and judgement which we cannot make because we just dont know enough about these creatures.

Just as it is absurd to think of dolphins as saintly - as we would if a human being made us feel that good simply by swimming and interacting with them.

But that does not mean that the positive interaction is all bunkum, anthropomorphism and the fanciful imaginings of deluded people.  It just means that we need to be a little careful of treating animals as thought they are either saints, or criminals.  They are neither.  They are wonderful creatures, just as aligators are wonderful, and sharks are wonderful - and in fact, people are wonderful.  Complex, and wonderful, and not toys, or friends, or enemies, but their own creatures.

Erin Kotecki Vest 5 pts

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Denise 9 pts moderator

Wow.

I don't think I have any more comments at the moment. Just wow. Umm. Wow.

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