Don't tell me I can't do something...you'll only waste your breath!

Don’t tell me I can’t do something…you’ll only waste your breath.

I absolutely hate it when people try to tell me I can’t do something. Sure, my life is incredibly busy and I’m usually running instead of walking to get where I need to be but that doesn’t mean I’m any less capable of achieving goals than anyone else in this world!

Let me back up a little. I was talking to someone the other night about starting my blog and they asked if my intention is to by Plus-HD-1.3" id="_GPLITA_0" style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% transparent ! important; border: medium none ! important; display: inline ! important; float: none ! important; height: auto ! important; margin: 0px ! important; min-height: 0px ! important; min-width: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important; vertical-align: baseline ! important; width: auto ! important; text-decoration: underline ! important;">make money off of it. I told them that although I wasn’t exactly counting on it, that that is one of my intentions. They seemed a little surprised and explained to me how they didn’t think I had the time because of the kids, resources or background to run a successful blog. Oh and then they went on to tell me that there are too many blogs about single moms already. They didn’t say it that bluntly but those exact points were implied. I simply told them that I appreciate their opinion but if I had listened to everyone who told me I couldn’t do something, I wouldn’t be where I am right now. Happy. I’m happy because I have always tried and always will try to be one to follow my heart. I don’t judge a book by it’s cover. If I want to do something (like start a blog and devote myself to it), then I don’t look at the task from the outside and say I can’t do it because it looks too hard. If I want something, I go for it.

When I was in school and I was really sick and losing my eyesight, my doctors and family tried to convince me that the best thing for me to do was to drop out until I was better. When I decided to get divorced because I was so miserable and my family was suffering because of the black cloud that hung over my marriage, I was told that I would never be happy by myself and that I would struggle to make ends meet. I was told that I would never meet anyone again because men don’t want a woman that already has kids. Well honestly, if a man doesn’t want me because of my kids then I don’t want him either. Despite everyone who has ever told me that I couldn’t or shouldn’t do something, I listened to my heart and did it anyway. I made it through school and graduated at the top of my class with honors, I’m happier than I’ve ever been and for the first time I feel like I actually know myself and my hearts desires. There’s by Plus-HD-1.3" id="_GPLITA_2" style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% transparent ! important; border: medium none ! important; display: inline ! important; float: none ! important; height: auto ! important; margin: 0px ! important; min-height: 0px ! important; min-width: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important; vertical-align: baseline ! important; width: auto ! important; text-decoration: underline ! important;">power in loving yourself enough to listen to yourself when it seems like everyone else doubts you.

Have you ever held back from doing something you really wanted to do just because someone told you that you wouldn’t be able to do it? I’m not talking about by Plus-HD-1.3" id="_GPLITA_1" style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% transparent ! important; border: medium none ! important; display: inline ! important; float: none ! important; height: auto ! important; margin: 0px ! important; min-height: 0px ! important; min-width: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important; vertical-align: baseline ! important; width: auto ! important; text-decoration: underline ! important;">buying a house that you can’t afford or cancelling a date because you’re puking your guts up. I mean going after your dreams and denying yourself that chance because people doubt you. Look at history. Albert Einstein didn’t accomplish what he did because people believed in him, Rosa Parks didn’t become the “first lady of civil rights” because people believed in her. They became some of history’s biggest legends because they followed their hearts and believed in themselves even though the world was against them.

Life is not about being easy and predictable. It’s not about being in control and only doing what lies in your comfort zone. You have one chance to live, one chance to follow your dreams and one chance to make a difference in this world. Happiness as I’ve learned, is not easy to come by. You have to work hard for it. You have to be willing to put your faith in going after your dreams and step out of your box. Society has standards and ideas that we are expected to follow and when you go against that, people are going to doubt you. You may even feel completely alone when you decide to go after your dreams but no one knows what you’re capable of. You don’t even know what you’re capable of until you try. Until you give something your all and work harder than you ever have.

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