In a Down Economy, Can You Afford NOT to Get a Sitter?

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I groan when I hear the words "date night." It sounds so geeky, so corny, so ... domesticated. (In my head, my dears, I'm sophisticated. Shut up.) But, as parents quickly realize, all work and no play makes Mommy and Daddy (or, Mommy and Mommy or Daddy and Daddy -- we're equal opportunity here) 100% parents and 0% couple. Not feeding the romantic relationship can be devastating. Feeding it, particularly if you don't have family in town, can be expensive.

I know I'm not the only parent who has put date night on hold for months because of the expense and complication of finding and paying a sitter. I often feel like whatever we do has to be FABULOUS, because at $8-$15/hour, depending on who we get, no movie is going to feel justified. What I need to get through my thick skull is that I'm paying for alone time with the man I married, not the actual event we attend.

Michelle writes:


No matter what anybody else says, a date night is between you and your spouse. Going out with friends or another couple, is just going out; not a date night where you and your spouse can create intimate conversations and spend one on one together.

Ashley agrees. Sometimes we chicks just need to feel pretty.

There is just something necessary about getting away, getting out, and feeling young and womanly again. Not that I don't feel that way other times, but having a real reason to get dressed up for the hunny, doing my hair just right, and putting on my lipstick makes me feel great and just isn't the same as doing all that for a night watching TV on the couch.

When Diapers Champs Attack's HotMommy hits the nail on the head:

The best part of the night was talking to one another uninterrupted for a few hours. We definitely need to do this kind of thing more often.

I feel for babysitters. I understand why they need to be paid a fair wage. I also wish I knew some responsible teenagers, because all the sitters I get tend to be former nannies and grown adults, and grown adults want at least $10/hour to cool their heels in front of your TV instead of theirs.

But you know what? It's worth it. IT'S WORTH IT. Go be an adult with your partner. There's an immeasurable return on investment on having fun with your significant other. A lot of life is drudgery. Fun is worth its weight in gold.

If you need help finding a sitter in your area who has had a background check, you might try:

What's your favorite thing to do when you get some kid-free time?


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