Dr. Rutherford Gives The One Easy Technique That Can Save the Work-From-Home Parent!
By mollyskyar on July 08, 2014
I WORK FROM HOME AND HAVE A HARD TIME SEPARATING MY WORK-LIFE FROM MY HOME-LIFE.
DR. RUTHERFORD: I see this issue is becoming more and more prevalent as technology advances and more and more parents are able to work from home rather than going outside the home to work.
MOLLY: This question was submitted by Jill Smokler, the founder of the highly successful and popular parenting blog, Scary Mommy (I think it's a must-read for all of us to help keep our sanity and have some good laughs too). Jill is also a New York Times best selling author who brings humor and honesty into the reality of every day parenting with her books Confessions of a Scary Mommy and Motherhood Comes Naturally (and Other Vicious Lies). We are thrilled to welcome Jill to our blog.
I, too, work from home can relate to this question first-hand. Last year, I hired a babysitter for when my kids would get home from school in hopes that I could try to stay in my office and continue working after 3 pm.
That turned out to be a fantasy as my kids knew I was home and would come into my workspace to climb on me and then refuse to leave my desk. They would get really upset when I tried to send them downstairs with their sitter.
As a result, I often found myself running over to my computer to check emails or complete other tasks while trying to juggle the kids and their needs. Everyone was frazzled and no one felt satisfied.
DR. RUTHERFORD: I remember when that was happening. If I recall correctly, I suggested that when they got home from school you came to greet them and spend the next 10-15 minutes listening to them talk about their day.This would give them a chance to satisfy their need to have immediate contact with you and to connect by sharing their experiences.
I thought you could prepare them a snack, sit at the table together to eat, and give them 100 percent of your attention for about 15 minutes. After that, they’d be more ready to have some time for themselves and you could say that it’s time for mommy to go back to work now and escape back to your desk.
MOLLY: I did start doing that and, in fact, noticed immediately that it helped stop the struggles. For a while they stopped complaining that I was always working and were able to settle in more comfortably for the rest of the afternoon without my physical presence.
DR. RUTHERFORD: Look at that: by devoting just 15 minutes....
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