Drinkin' the Calm Koolaid
Rage. Flying off the handle. Losing it. Buggin'.
The terms may vary but they all describe the fight or flight response initiated in the limbic system of the brain. The primitive brain. A self protective natural reaction to a situation perceived as potentially harmful to us.
Contrast this with the process of considered action which occurs in the highly developed part of the brain where conscious thought and working memory reside; the neocortex.
Move from your fight/flight response in a non-dangerous situation to a more balanced response by delaying your emotional reaction to what is happening. Make a mental shift. Center yourself. . . Breathe. . . visualize your touchstone. . .Walk away. . . Pause. Give your logic and reasoning time to adjust and function. Stay present as you move from reacting (maybe over-reacting) to responding rationally to the event.
Increase your effectiveness in highly charged situations by purposefully allowing yourself time to think. Add this skill to your coping strategies, then move on.
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