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Empathy for our Elders - "Aging Sensitivity Training" and a return to the Multigenerational Household.

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Last month, in the entertaining blog, Linda's Backroads Musings, Blogger Linda, a "rural mail carrier" on the Kansas prairies, wrote an entry about an NPR story on aging:

Talk of the Nation on NPR had a show entitled, “Teaching the Young to Empathize with the Old.” The guests were Jason Wilson, editor of The Smart Set, an independent magazine published at Drexel University; author of the article "Old Like Me" and Peg Gordon, intergenerational coordinator at the Macklin Intergenerational Institute and teacher of the class "Xtreme Aging."

Jason Wilson told his experiences simulating being old. This involved corn in his shoes, Vaseline on his glasses, earplugs and bandages tied tightly around knees and elbows. He almost gleefully told of his difficulties going to the bathroom and other daily activities.

Wilson's description of the aging simulation exercise in his article from The Smart Set:

My feet hurt. My knees are so stiff that walking has become a chore. When I climb stairs, I’m out of breath by the time I reach the top. It takes a special effort just to tie my shoes. My vision is so poor that I require a caregiver to accompany me on my morning stroll. I can barely hear when she asks what I’d like for a snack. But it doesn’t matter anyway. Food just doesn’t taste the same as it once did.

After I’m told I’ve been eating an oatmeal cookie, I face an even worse indignity: shuffling and feeling my way, alone, into the men’s room — or at least I hope it is the men’s room. After fumbling with my zipper, I can barely make out the urinal. It is my sincere hope that my aim is true. As I exit, I’m nearly knocked backward by a couple of young guys barreling through the door. “Damn kids!” is what I want to shout.

This, apparently, is what they call aging. I’m told that my tribulations are common, and I’ll likely be labeled a complainer around the senior center. Aging is not for sissies, I’m told. But here’s the big difference. Twenty-five minutes ago I was a relatively fit 37-year-old. Not a triathlete, but certainly someone who didn’t need help opening a pill bottle. Now I am suddenly old and feeble. Allow me to be perfectly candid: It really sucks.

I’m undergoing an aging simulation administered by Monika Deppen Wood, a sociology professor at Rutgers University in Camden, New Jersey. Wood teaches an undergraduate course called the Sociology of Aging, in which she requires all of her students to undergo the same simulation. “Reading about aging is not the same as experiencing it,” Wood says.

Such classes offer a new twist on sensitivity training - "aging sensitivity training".

Again, from Jason Wilson:

Aging simulation exercises like the ones I underwent at Rutgers and several other locations around the country lie at the heart of so-called “aging sensitivity training” that’s been practiced now for at least two decades. Originally, these exercises were designed for nurses, physicians, therapists, social workers, and others who work with elderly patients.

For instance, at Valparaiso University’s College of Nursing — highly regarded nationwide for its emphasis on gerontology — every student must take a junior-level course called The Aging Process, regardless of what field of nursing they intend to enter. One of the first assignments in that course is an aging simulation.

“Even some of the nursing students, when they first get here, will tell you, ‘I hate old people. I’d never want to work with old people.’ They want to work with babies, or in the ICU,” says Kristen Mauk, a nursing professor at Valparaiso and one of the nation’s leading experts in gerontological nursing.

“We have to prepare our students, because there are going to be so many more older people in years to come,” Mauk says. “We’re preparing our students to be nurses in the future.

The Macklin Intergenerational Institute, founded by philanthropists Marilyn and Gordon Macklin, has been in the forefront of such formal training. This is reflected in the Institute's mission statement: "To continually improve lives of all ages through multi-age programming, care, community relationships, and creative communication."

One of the Macklin Institute's program is "The FamilyRoom Approach™":

Daily, children and senior adults come together in a home-like setting referred to as the FamilyRoom Approach™. In this relaxed environment that emulates the family home, interaction is emphasized and multi-age relationships are built. It is not all uncommon to find a grandpa feeding a baby, a grandma rocking a toddler, or several preschool children

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alyssaroyse 5 pts

Yup - exactly! IT was a bill of goods that was sold to those retuning G-I's. It was the American Dream splayed out before us, bought...... We bought it, and now it owns us.

Weird, huh!

Perhaps we can return some of it. Wonder what the return policy is. :)
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Crunchy Carpets 5 pts

Was it not all marketing for the new 'suburbs' that showed up after the war to house all the GI's and their new families.

It moved people out of their culture driven communities..your little italies and so on.

A family was redefined as mom, dad and two point 5 kids.

It also helped promote cars and the burgeoning airline industry.

All marketing.

Whereas in other countries the traditions remained relatively the same.

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alyssaroyse 5 pts

Isn't that interesting? The nuclear family is a very American post WWII invention. (Thus the name, it was the nuclear age.) There is no other country on earth that does it as much as we do, and no time in history when it would have been done..... Almost everywhere else, generations still live together, work together, help each other out..... I'd be itnerested to see - and if anyone has one, please post - a study n the conneciton between the nulcear family and environmental impact of it. Rally, traffic to grandmother's house, increased air travel, more housing, more goods consumed. I"m curious. Then psyhcilogical toll, money spent on babysitters or freetime sacrificed for alck of them? All that....

think about it. holidays are the busiest time of year for travel of all sorts..... what is the environmental impact of a family being spread all ove the place. i'm certianly not saying that we should live wherever we want, but i am curious.

i know that it has changed what our goals are as parents. We want to raise a child who can live anywhere int eh world, btut knows that she can also stay with us and start her family with us. At the very least, to be the kind of parents that enable her to want that....
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Crunchy Carpets 5 pts

our families.....we are driven to move out as soon as possible. We are driven to move as far away as possible......our interactions with any elderly become less and less.

We live close to our family...we have grandparents and great grandparents around us and our kids....though I don't want to live with them. Yet.

When my mom needs to....she is welcome though.

My kids though are comfortable with being around elderly folks as I was as a child.
I think that is what is important and what is missing in our society. The interaction and interest in other generations.

I wonder how things will get as the boomers age though.

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alyssaroyse 5 pts

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS! We live in a multigenerational home, out of pleasure. My husband and I, along with our 9 year-old daughter and my 75 year old father all live together in one big happy house. It started by accident - we up and moved back to Seattle and were staying with him until we bought a house..... and slowly realized how stupid it was to spend so much money just to find a house within walking distance of my father who could not possibly fill his house. Seemed wasteful. And slowly it has evolved into a really amazing situation that has changed the way we all look at what it means to "grow up" and "grow old" and love.

The obvious advantages are, well, obvious. We spend less money, pooling our resources (which must have an environmental impact as well.) My husband and I have more freedom than most of our friends because my dad really pitches in and helps care for our daughter - invaluable as a working mom with a startup, but also just for weekend date nights, we can put her to bed and then go out. I think it's great for him too, he knows he is cared for, he is invigorated, loved, appreciated.... It's really lovely.

The intangibles are even better. There's nothing like really KNOWING your parent as an adult to help you make sense of your childhood. And there's plenty of research to show that kids who have close relationships with extended family feel more secure - they know there are more layers of protection between them and the "big bad real world." His perspective on everything from eating the moldy food in the fridge (he grew up dirt poor in the depression, he can't help it) and the state of media (he's more liberal than i am) provide an incredible depth for our daughter. She now has 3 daily role models, all of whom are different, all of whom get along, all of whom she loves and trusts - and she witnesses passionate but compassionate discussions all the time about the tings we agree and disagree on.

All in all, our life is fantastically rich because of our close relationship with my father. Not just as a friend and a father, but as a conscious lifestyle choice to include 3 generations..... I am so glad we moved so impulsively. We meant to buy a house before we moved, I am so glad we didn't.

What we have found FAR exceeds anything one can purchase on the open market.

And I believe that, for our daughter, we are raising her to value all people and offering her the wisdom of generations that we didn't have access to.

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