so i've been thinking about the responses to the post about quarter lifers and i've decided that our expectations of ourselves and of each other really mess us up. i think it's great the women that commented can seem so different from myself but still wrestle with similar thoughts. we can be in 'crisis' or rather identity flux at any time in life (i for one relish this although it drives me mad too). but i guess its the expectations that can screw you up.

society thinks that women should act/dress/behave a certain way for certain stages of women's lives and we're supposed to stay in those boxes. like you know mommies can't chill with the single ladies, because what do they have in common?? what could they talk about?

and i guess when i want to 'resist yuppiedom' i'm acting out against the expectations of my generation. supposedly i should be putting down roots right now. i don't know when i turned into a tree, but apparently roots are what i need. roots are the key to my grown up life it seems. there's all these milestones in life we're supposed to achieve in a certain order and at certain times and when we don't play the actual game of LIfe the way we're expected to, you can feel odd. odd.