An Explanation for Explanation

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When our child does something bad, our first instinct is to raise our voice and say "no, don't do that!". But we may not be sending our child the right message when we do this because it doesn't communicate to the child. All the child hears is "no!" and it creates a negative environment.  Instead, communicate the message positively. "You shouldn't jump off the bed, because you might get hurt. If you get hurt how are you going to play kickball?" Then move his focus to playing a fun game of kickball outside.

Even at two years old, my husband and I make it a priority to explain to Baby D why he should or shouldn't do something and what the consequences/outcomes may be if he does do it. Explanation is something we, as parents should practice even as our kids gets older. We are our kids first teachers in life, so it's our job to help them understand why things work they way they do. Baby D isn't quite at the "why" stage and I'm sure it will test my patience but I'm actually looking forward to it. I see it as an opportunity to fulfill and fuel his curiosity. Curiosity brings forth a need for explanation which turns into knowledge. Nothing is too complicated to explain. Both my husband and Baby D love cars. When my husband is in the garage fixing his car he brings Baby D with him and explains to him all the parts of a car and what each part does to make the car work. At times, I'll find Baby D flipping his toy cars all around to find the car parts daddy told him about. A child's brain is a sponge, they hear something once and they remembers what it means when he hears it again months later. 

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