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Faking a Pregnancy Does NOT Help Breast Cancer

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Post your bra color = raise awareness for breast cancer?

Post a sexually suggestive status about where you leave your purse = raise awareness for breast cancer??


Post another sexually suggestive status about your shoe size = raise more awareness for breast cancer?

Fake a pregnancy = raise even more awareness for breast cancer? 
 

 


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Alright, ladies, enough. These shenanigans have gone too far. At this point, my original argument that these posts do nothing to help raise any awareness, is now being solidified ten fold. Posting some random, sexual status, purposely excluding men (who also can and do get breast cancer) does not, and will never raise awareness for breast cancer. Wanna raise awareness for cancer? Go find a site that supports breast cancer research, and post the link. Or run in a marathon. Or write a blog about how breast cancer has impacted your life. My point is this: Actually go and raise awareness by doing something other then pretending to raise awareness with a silly, silly game on Facebook.
 
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InspiredRD 5 pts

I was so confused when I saw these FB statuses...did nothing to help awareness of breast cancer in my opinion!

StephanieCraig 6 pts

BTW, September is Childhood Cancer Awareness Month. The poor children suffering from cancer get ignored because everyone skips ahead a month and goes pink in September instead of gold for the kids. I'm grateful for the job those who raise money and awareness have done for breast cancer. I have breast cancer survivors whom I love and am grateful for. But let's not forget the kids. They need a cure too.

cinnabubbles 6 pts

I CAN'T STAND those ridiculous 'awareness' Facebook statuses. All it did was confuse the crap out of me until I stumbled upon a blogger who posted about it saying it was ridiculous. So not only is it excluding men who also can get breast cancer, it's confusing fellow women who apparently are supposed to knoe what the status means!

GreenCntryGirl 6 pts

:::applauds wildly::: I recommend people do some research about "breast cancer awareness." Many of these companies with pink ribbons on the box are donating pennies and people think they are helping. Breast cancer awareness has now become a joke and the disease is no joking matter.

Mama One to Three 9 pts

someone had to explain to me this latest pg one had anything to do with breast cancer awareness. I totally don't get it. In general I think putting one's money and time toward organizations, hospitals, and researchers fighting diseases is a much better use of one's time. I really don't get the status things...

ButterflyLady 6 pts

Actually, I am a survivor and am also guilty of posting these games via facebook. It's amazing how we only see what we want to see - in this case.... the words 'breast cancer awareness' and don't use our intelligence with the rest!

Felicia H. 6 pts

Hear, hear! This survivor thanks you for keeping it real...

somethingbeautiful 6 pts

I couldn't agree more. These FB status things are RIDICULOUS and need to cease immediately.

jillicious 8 pts

Awareness as opposed to education.....people have to have an interest and the "I don't want to talk or think about depressing stuff, you must be manic depressive" attitude is about people who have personal problems. Sometimes it is just a lack of maturity,

As a breast cancer survivor, I also find it offensive.

DanielleBarnsley 10 pts

jillicious Thank you!

However, awareness is easier then education. Education means reading, and spending time getting to know statistics, and finding the right organization (if you choose) to support. It means WORK. Posting a random, nonsensical status is hardly awareness, but it does nothing to further any education in regard to breast cancer.

pastpaige 7 pts

Thank you. As a breast cancer survivor, I find the whole thing kind of offensive.

marineswife2207 7 pts

I was wondering why all of facebbok was claiming to be so many weeks and craving something or other. Wow that is a really dumb game. Not only that but i have a few friends that cannot concive and have gotten upset seeing so many people with these status'. def not a good idea.

kimdeg33 7 pts

Do I think the posts are obscure, ridiculous even? Absolutely. However, I do feel as though whether a direct fundraising attempt is made or not is irrelevent. Rather, these posts on Facebook and the like allow people, even teenagers, to think twice about breast cancer, to atleast, if nothing else, have some awareness of this, and perhaps go further in becoming aware. Myself, I had to inquire about these posts, as I had no clue as to what they were about. In finding they were about breast cancer, it made me think; it made me think of loved ones I know who have both survived, and passed from breast cancer, as well as other cancers, and how I should put more of my own efforts into supporting causes. Isn't that the point? To put this in the thoughts of others? I think it is working.

DanielleBarnsley 10 pts

kimdeg33 But how does it do that, when the actual meme indicates that you should not tell anyone what you are doing? Why are we excluding men? Why can't we send a meme out that says something about breast cancer? Why doesn't have to be some random status, that has nothing to do with any kind of cancer, and in this case is mildly offensive?

Fleagirl 5 pts

DanielleBarnsley I never found these offensive but there certainly are people who are rightly sensitive to many things. I do think that these "nudge nudge, wink wink" reminders are a great way for women to remind their friends--do your self exams, get your mammograms. I *did* explain the post to my husband who promptly asked me, "When's the last time *you* did a self-exam?"

What's your take on the "I 'heart' boobies" awareness bracelets that all the teenagers in my town seem to be wearing?

Jane Devin 5 pts

Well, a tweet to #StopChildAbuse doesn't do anything to actually stop child abuse. Twibbons don't change a thing in the world. Signing a petition doesn't free Americans from Iranian prisons. Putting a yellow ribbon on your car doesn't do much for the troops. Friendship or care isn't really determined by who C&P's a Facebook status. Showing your boobs on twitter doesn't do a thing for breast cancer. Why do we come up with all these odd and ultimately meaningless ways to show our support for something? Likely because in some way we feel powerless to truly effect change.

DanielleBarnsley 10 pts

Jane Devin It's true. I also think, to a degree, that most people want to appear as though they are caring toward this cause or that. It takes effort to actually be an activist for any cause or change. I think this sort of stuff allows people to say, "I bought a ribbon, I helped", when in reality it does very little for the actual education of the cause.

Judy Schwartz Haley 14 pts

in some cases, these go beyond silly and unhelpful, and becomes downright hurtful - particularly the pregnancy one. my breast cancer was found soon after my baby was born, but many of my friends lost their fertility to their cancer treatment. They would be wonderful mothers and long for a baby. Also, adoption becomes particularly difficult if you've already had cancer. Please don't mock them.

DanielleBarnsley 10 pts

Judy Schwartz Haley It does feel like mockery, doesn't it? I've never participated in any of the meme's and never could quite figure out why. Thanks for the comment!

Sneetch 5 pts

I have always found these things annoying and haven't participated, but it hadn't occurred to me that they might be offensive until I felt offended by this most recent (pregnancy) one. My husband and I have one living child and another who passed away shortly after birth a few months ago. We also suffer from infertility and have spent most of our 10 years of marriage trying to conceive. So when this new meme started circulating, it did bother me. It bothered me for myself because I felt like it makes light of something that is not a light subject for me. But only after reading this did it occur to me that all these "awareness" posts could actually be offensive to those who have been affected by breast cancer. Why should we make light of that?! If there was a silly meme going around "raising awareness" of infertility or child loss, I don't imagine I would find that very helpful! I would probably feel like people don't understand the heartbreak and the seriousness of it all. I don't think I am usually very easy to offend, and I try to brush things off most of the time, but this is very bothersome to me. Judy Schwartz Haley

Mama One to Three 9 pts

Sneetch i am so sorry for your loss. I think you make a great point here.

Judy Schwartz Haley 14 pts

Sneetch yeah, this is not just about breast cancer. these silly status updates do not actually provide any education on any of these issues, and in many cases, they actually trivialize the issue. I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for speaking up.

EFFBlogAmanda 7 pts

Agreed! I've been seeing all sorts of talk about this the past few days. It's ridiculous.

DanielleBarnsley 10 pts

JennaHatfield No, no, thank you :)

teresasreading 6 pts

I'm so out of the loop. I never knew what those wacky status updates were supposed to mean!

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fourkidslater
fourkidslater

Crissy agree 100%

MommaBeThyName
MommaBeThyName

blogher I haven't read this post yet, but I totally agree. I got caught in the crossfire of 2 nasty email feuds about it last night.

BlogHer
BlogHer

MommaBeThyName Oh, no. Stuck in the middle of a feud is not a fun place to be! -Momo

traceyhkitts
traceyhkitts

blogher I couldn't agree more. I refused to put it on my status.

shilohwalker
shilohwalker

blogher geez...that's ridiculous. faking a pregnancy just makes you look... well... FAKE.

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Pamela Kemp
Pamela Kemp

Thank you

Susan Niebur
Susan Niebur

Thank you so, so much, for so many reasons.

Danielle Barnsley-Cervo
Danielle Barnsley-Cervo

Allison Currie, you clearly missed the point of the post. Clearly. Fake Pregnancy does not add up to breast cancer awareness. It's insensitive to those that struggle with fertility and pregnancy loss. And if you want to post RELEVANT information about breast cancer or whatever cause, and do so on facebook, then do it. But a silly meme does not raise any awareness. It's silly, and the only reason it's being talked about here is because I had the guts to say how ridiculous it is.

Nichole Stacey Smith
Nichole Stacey Smith

Personally, I think Fake pregnancy jokes are very tasteless and incredibly insensitive to those who struggle with any type of fertility issue. Especially cancer survivors who are often left infertile because of their treatments...

Xenia Galaviz
Xenia Galaviz

one of my cousins was playing real stupid about it - like it was a game and really just soured the real message so thank you!

Allison Currie
Allison Currie

the time she spent writing this blog post to slam someone else's efforts could have been used to write a 'real' awareness message as you say.

Allison Currie
Allison Currie

you don't know that they aren't participating in real fundraising and awareness efforts. at the end of the day everyone does their own thing so whether you post about it on fb, work with the breast cancer society, wear a braclet that say 'boobies' and feel good that you paid the breast cancer society a dollar for it or do a combination of the above who cares...at least its on your mind and you are doing something, giving it a thought and participating. negativity against any effort to do something doesn't help anyone whether you agree with all the ways people go about it or not. if you don't agree with the way in which they go about it then start a different way yourself. its about a common goal and there are many ways to get there.

Mae Webb Winter
Mae Webb Winter

dorothy, the argument that not being able to afford to donate to a cause (not sure where I recommeded someone do that, maybe you can point it out) is some kind of "good reason" to participate in a meme that not only can be offensive to some but also by its very design DOES NOT RAISE AWARENESS is a poor one. If you want to raise awareness without spending money, I'm sure no one here would say that's a bad idea. But there are other ways to do that, using facebook if you prefer, including posting actually relevant information about the disease or even just clear and helpful reminders for self exams and mammograms, and those posts would also cost zero money. I'm sorry but the "I'm broke so this Facebook meme is all I can do" argument holds no water with me.

Laurie Brosius
Laurie Brosius

If makes me sad that more of my Facebook friends care about this than actually participating in my breast cancer fundraising efforts and TRUE awareness posts.

Polish Mama on the Prairie
Polish Mama on the Prairie

What bothers me with it is that many of us DON'T want to share something so personal as our birthdates. Esp with identity theft so rampant. But this does just that. And nothing for the benefit of breast cancer. Bravo to the author of this piece.

Lara McClintock
Lara McClintock

Why not post this instead? Much more direct, nobody gets left out, useful for more than breast cancer, and no extra goal of confusing people. http://www.blogher.com/15-ways-help-friend-or-love...

Danielle Barnsley-Cervo
Danielle Barnsley-Cervo

Dorothy, raise awareness like this, if you choose, but the fact is breast cancer and faking a pregnancy do not and SHOULD not go together in raising any sort of awareness. It's ignorant, and actually hurtful.

Dorothy Tomczak
Dorothy Tomczak

@ Mae....what's the big deal? There are a lot of people who can't afford to donate money, or who dont have blogs, or who aren't able to run marathons etc. Maybe participating in this they give it a thought, maybe send out a prayer and plant a small seed into someone else to do that too. Everyone who knocks it, i have this weird feeling like you only think that giving MONEY to the cause makes you special and allowed to knock down every other effort. Here's my question, if someone cannot afford to give money, to even volunteer because they're working 2 jobs to make ends meet, what would you have them do? And again, why is this such a big deal, let them post what they want and you do what YOU feel is right.

Lara McClintock
Lara McClintock

Right on, Jimmy. How many men have been the ones to notice something didn't (sorry, trying to be delicate but can't) "feel right" that their wives may have missed? I've heard of a few.

Jimmy Christodoulou
Jimmy Christodoulou

Lara - Also add to that that campaigns to raise awareness about self-checks are designed to purposefully include the men in women's lives as helpers in some way, and it becomes specifically counter-productive.