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Reuters reports that 75% of young children in America live in a home where the television is turned on a majority of the time.  Not surprisingly, the study quoted found that the near-constant background noise is not developmentally helpful to a preschooler:

Researchers observed the children as they played to determine whether background TVdefined as adult-oriented television that is on and may be watched by older members of the family, but which very young children don't understand and to which they pay little attentionaffected the children's behavior during play.

Background TV was found to disrupt the toy play of the children at every age, even when they paid little attention to it. When the television was on, the children played for significantly shorter periods of time and the time they spent focused on their play was shorter, compared to when the TV was off.

I'm not especially suprised by this.  When there's too much noise (especially of the electronic variety) buzzing in my household, I find my focus, energy and patience are stretched too thin.  It's easy to see how much greater this impact would be in a young child. 

Angi of Lifelines has noticed this frustration in herself and her kids:

And I really don't know! I just know that I've become accustomed to not having it on during my long, wonderful summer full of Boys In The Creek. Truth be told, I suspect too that what I truly hear from the tv is noise and I can't stand any more head clutter. Things are so fast and furious in this house, now especially with my schooling two boys, entertaining a preschooler, and trying to prevent my infant from killing himself daily, not to mention the gobs of things spinning around in my head, ("Do this! Pay that! Call her!") I think the tv sound just puts me right over the brink and straight into Crazy.

What to do?  It's a plugged-in, turned-on, wired age we're living in, and teaching kids to navigate (and filter) is an important part of a parent's job.  Many families are finding the solution is to turn off the television entirely, or at least place strict limits on its use.

Alicek[i]nd and her husband have chosen the former, and it's a decision they made when in their earliest days of parenting:

We have had the no TV policy for many years. When Collin (our first child) was about 2 years old, we started letting him watch PBS... things like "Teletubbies" and "Barney." But that didn't last long because I soon noticed there were some other shows on PBS they we didn't approve of ("Arthur" for one) so we just decided to quit it completely.

There's More To the Story isn't convinced that this is the best step for her family, simply because she's seen some of the educational benefit of TV in her kids:

I’ve heard claims that too much television is bad for kids under a certain age, or any age. Honestly, for me, I don’t believe it. My daughter, Madison, has an amazing vocabulary, can count past 30, knows her ABC’s, colors, shapes, numbers (can point them out), and is now working on writing and spelling. A lot of this stuff? She picked up from TV.

I'm finding this tug in my own family.  In addition to the demands I notice TV places on our attention, it takes a good deal from our time, as well.  In these busy days of balancing homework and after-school activities, TV slows us down!  In our family, we've made the decision for the kids to turn the TV off during the week, except for occasional evening shows we watch as a family.  Then on the weekends, the kids can have a little more "screen flexibility".  So far, these baby steps are working well for us.

Shalee of Shalee's Diner, another TV-free family, advises her readers to try it out:

Try the no TV thing for a week. You don’t have to decide to quit forever, just decide to quit for a week and see what happens. You may find that you really like life without cable.

Shannon Lowe is a BlogHer contributing editor (Mommy/Family). She also blogs at Rocks In My Dryer and The Parenting Post.

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LizasEyeview 5 pts

I actually posted about this in one of my Works For Me Wednesday post in 2007 :).

http://www.lizas-eyeview.com/2007/09/works-for-me-...

We still are not connected to a network TV but now we have to watch ourselves not to spend too much time in the internet ... hmmmm :)

desertgirl 5 pts

We have gotten rid of the idiot box for two years now. We are not missing it, contrary to what I expected. Instead, we are happier without it! I am just glad we took the big leap.

I wrote about it last year: http://www.sandierpastures.com/family/turning-it-o...

Great post Shannon! Glad to know the baby steps are working well in your home. 

angelfehr 5 pts

We turned off the satellite dish a few years ago, and with only one channel, TV just kind of phased out of our lives.  I don't know how I ever had time to watch TV!  And I agree that the background noise of having the TV running all the time can't be healthy for kids.  My kids get about 45 minutes a day of TV most days so I can get showered and make breakfast.

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dave4lori 5 pts

I have a 5 and 2 year old. We moved recently and have not had a tv now for six months. It's been wonderful and I notice a huge difference with my 5 year old. His attention span is amazing.

I do let him watch occasional movies on my computer. Which works for me or I would never have time to clean!

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jaycee 5 pts

If I'm going to have background noise in our house it will be music. That also allows us to have impromptu dance sessions with each other (my son and I) in the house.

I find when there's a tv on it's a real distraction so we don't have it on unless we're watching something.

Ususally, my son doesn't watch tv during the week as there just isn't enough time with my work, his reading and dinner cooking etc and if I'm not blogging or otherwise occupied in front of the computer I'll watch tv after he's gone to bed.

On weekends, I'm a bit more liberal but I monitor what he's watching.

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mamanongrata 5 pts

I wrote about this a while back ... 

http://mamanongrata.blogspot.com/2008/06/square-ey...

We don't have a (working) TV because we know that the constant battles and negotiations would wear us down to nothing. If you don't have the option, it's much easier to say no.

Susan ...

superviva 5 pts

I live in a household with a 3rd grader and a 7th grader. They're allowed to watch 1/2 hour of tv a day, which is what I was allowed when I was little. What do they do in their spare time? Art, reading, homework, talking to their mom, learning musical instruments. 

They're confident, hilarious, smart, and happy. 

I have lots of opportunity to rove to my various friends' families. There's a clear difference in energy, attitude, and attention between kids who watch less tv and those where the tv is on most of the time. I'm not naming names but I definitely believe tv is a bad baby sitter.

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Michellesamom 5 pts

I really don't think that it's the medium that's the problem. I watched television growing up and my parents were always very practical about it. I could watch any educational program that I wanted, as long as I didn't overdo it. My philosophy with this issue, as with most is "everything in moderation". I know that the APA doesn't recommend it, but my daughter has learned a great deal from television. She doesn't watch regular programming, she watches old Sesame Street and programs like that that I have purchased on DVD. She watches about 1/2 hour in the morning over breakfast, while I have my tea and wake up (I'm not normally a morning person, but I'm working on it). She also watches about an hour from 5-6 while I make dinner.

I agree that commercial programming is best avoided for toddlers, but I don't see the problem with educational television. I would probably be concerned if my daughter was tuning out in front of the tube, but really, she's active and engaged while she's watching it. When Bob plays a version of "Simon Says" with the kids on the street, she's up and doing all the motions. When Big Bird sings the alphabet song, she sings right along with him and dances.

If it's all you have in your parenting toolkit, it's time to take a look around and get some help, but as one tool among many, television can be useful, educational and fun.

threeundertwo 5 pts

 Thank you for bringing this to our attention Shannon. We turned off the TV about 10 years ago and I think it was one of the smartest things we ever did.  My kids are at the top of their classes, read voraciously, are fit and athletic, and very creative and imaginative.  I give the lack of TV in our household a lot of credit.

We do watch DVDs on weekends together.  We relish that time together and it allows us to choose quality programming that we all enjoy.  So I guess you could count us among the "filterers."

 I think it's important to remember that the American Academy of Pediatrics has stated that children under the age of 2 should not watch any television at all, and in France, programming aimed at toddlers has been banned completely. 

For parents who want some help, I recommend The Center for Screen-Time Awareness ( http://tvturnoff.org/ ), the organization that hosts TV-Turnoff week every year. I've helped organize this at our elementary school with great results.  We offered prizes and kids and their families really rose to the occasion.

Laracolvin 5 pts

This is a great post. I've been thinking a lot about tv time with my four year old, and at her last check up, the doctor advised no more than 1 hour/day of "screen" time. This includes the computer. My little one likes sites like  Sprout and Noggin, and occasionally I'll let her play the coloring games and watch some abbreviated videos on it. She maybe plays 1x/week for about 20 minutes.

She is in full day preschool, so luckily she doesn't have TV during the day. She does watch the Noggin channel at night when we get home. I have tried to limit it, but I'm afraid I'm just not as consistent as I'd like to be. I'm single parenting it right now (bow down to all the full-time single mothers;I ADMIRE you so much!), and I am trying to pick my battles. Sometimes I give in to more tv just to give myself bit of peace in a day that otherwise wouldn't have it. I don't always feel good about it, but sometimes we are just doing the best we can and have to give ourselves permission to be less than perfect.

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Megan Smith 5 pts

Hi Shannon,

After reading your post, I was inspired to write up my own 10 Rules To Limit Family TV Viewing. ( http://www.megansminute.com/2008/10/megans-rules-a... )

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Rachelle Mee-Chapman 5 pts

We don't have this problem with TV...but we do with other forms of 'media' -- like the xbox and computer games. My husband thinks that all video games all weekend is fine. But I think it makes my kids grumpy. They bicker a lot once they are turned off, and they argue with me more. Anyone have thoughts on what's a reasonable amount of time for 8 and 10yo to spend gaming/surfing? And how do you dole out the time/ enforce the limits? Help! 

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rocksinmydryer 5 pts

Megan, I rarely make pronouncements about how I'll *never* do something as a parent (that has a way of coming back to bite us!), but I have most definitely made it clear that I'll *never* let my kids have a TV in their room.  Never.  Period.  Won't even discuss it!  We watch TV in our family, but we do it as a family event in a central location, where we can still interact.  If they had TVs in their room, I'm afraid we'd never see them again! 

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Kathy333 5 pts

I have two little ones, four and almost two, and we have a very limited TV policy. If we do watch a show during the day it is a half hour show like Super Why or Sid the Science Kid, something that teaches and is fun and is 'safe'. Too many times I've seen kids watching tons of tv shows filled with name calling and just, well, crap! I think some parents don't watch closely what is being shown on the tube and would be surprised by the content of some of these shows.

I prefer my kids to do other things to entertain themselves, like look at books, color, use play dough, etc . . . My four year old has the best imagination and I swear it is because we have limited tv. While I don't think a little tv hurts/harms a child, I do believe the constant noise is not a benefit, and I do think that children who spend a  lot fo time glued to the tube lose out on learning to use their imagination.

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Megan Smith 5 pts

Although I write about and work in TV, I'm a big believer in limiting TV.  I don't like TVs in the bedroom or the livingroom---that's assuming you have the space that I have, which I know many people don't---and there should be no TV in a kid's bedroom.

As you've said, it takes up too much time from when they could be reading or actually thinking.

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Therextras 5 pts

Thanks for the post, Shannon, and for sharing that the tv affects you, too.   Because tv viewing and as a background for life is so endemic in our culture, few adults question the effect on themselves. 

We gave the analogy of food to our children, when they questioned tv restrictions.  We likened objectionable programming to junk or trash.  "Why would you want to put that trash into your brain?" 

It's not the occasional edgy programming that is harmful, especially when accompanied by a discussion with a parent on the meaning.  But constant, and repeated messages of the same type become what the viewer perceives as 'life'.  Potentially very influential in how a person thinks.   

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Carrie Blankenship 5 pts

I am with you, too much noise and I need to escape - preferably NOT to the laundry room!  My husband?  He thrives with the buzz of noise, the radio, the tv, anything else . . . it is a sore spot between us, to say the least.

The one thing we do agree on, however, is limiting how much our kids watch.  We live in the Pacific Northwest, so on rainy weekend days, when we're sick of playing Sorry! we kind of let it go, but we really try to limit it the rest of the time and encourage the kids to do other things.  They are pretty good about it, and I grew up with a strict tv policy in my home, so I don't feel bad about "unplugging" them, they have it way better than I did!

I agree, it should be used responsibly and each family knows what limits they should set, individually.  Yes, it's more work (turning it off) as the kids aren't zoning out and may actually engage you in conversation, but it is very much worth it and beneficial to the entire family.  You won't be sorry!

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