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"Fat" Ballerinas & The Black Swan Diet: Don't Let The Times Set the Tone

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When Alastair Macaulay wrote his review of the New York City Ballet's production of The Nutcracker, he did what mainstream media critics have always done: He made up the rules. In this case, he commented on what ballet dancers and ballerinas are supposed to look like:

This didn’t feel, however, like an opening night. Jenifer Ringer, as the Sugar Plum Fairy, looked as if she’d eaten one sugar plum too many; and Jared Angle, as the Cavalier, seems to have been sampling half the Sweet realm. They’re among the few City Ballet principals who dance like adults, but without adult depth or complexity.

Critics make up the rules! Right? RIGHT??

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I'm not so sure the critic gets to decide.

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Even worse, angry fans wrote on chat boards, Ringer has been public about struggles with eating disorders earlier in her career, over which she triumphed to become one of NYCB's most popular dancers. How cruel, then, to criticize her body now.

I've written about my struggles with anorexia here at BlogHer, and my own daughter just performed in a local production of The Nutcracker. According to Macaulay, I should probably yank her out immediately for fear that my genetic code and the art of ballet will inevitably drive her to destruction.

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There is evidence that I should. Natalie Portman, who is thin normally, lost 20 pounds to play a prima ballerina (albeit an obsessive-compulsive, losing-her-mind one, from the trailer and what I've read) in The Black Swan. In order to be convincing, she dieted on top of dancing 5-8 hours a day.

Natalie, however, has said that director Darren Aronofsky -- known for putting his actors and actresses through extreme measures -- encouraged her to lose the weight. She said, "Darren claims he never said this, but he definitely was like, 'How thin do you think you can get without being sick?'"

Natalie comments on her diet and the "fat ballerinas" jab in The New York Times in this ABC News interview:


In the wake of all this unwashed non-critic opinion, Macaulay defended his position by basically saying, "hate the game, not the playa."

Some correspondents have argued that the body in ballet is “irrelevant.” Sorry, but the opposite is true. If you want to make your appearance irrelevant to criticism, do not choose ballet as a career. The body in ballet becomes a subject of the keenest observation and the most intense discussion. I am severe — but ballet, as dancers know, is more so.

He seems to think his hands are tied, it's just the way ballet is, it's not his fault Ringer doesn't look the way he wants her to. Okay, Macaulay. You're right. Ballerinas should be skeletal or their art is not worth watching. And basketball players have to be eight feet tall and writers should be old white men and musicians should never, ever be deaf. Poor Macaulay, you see, he's just doing his job.

We, the audience, have the power to change this concept of the perfect ballerina.

Yes, Macaulay is the ballet critic of The New York Times. So what? Is he buying all the tickets? Is he paying Ringer's salary to ensure she still dances? Is he raising your little ballerinas?

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Kissing Up 7 pts

Great article.  My ballet teachers often swatted my tummy and told me I was fat.  Humiliating.

Rita Arens 128 pts

You're completely right. Our bodies are all different, and nobody should be barred from an art form because they don't "look right." If they can perform the movements properly, there is no excuse for keeping them away.

Rita Arens authors Surrender Dorothy ( http://bit.ly/Qp0sS ) and is the editor of Sleep is for the Weak ( http://tinyurl.com/9pg62e ). She is BlogHer's assignment and syndication editor.

Rita Arens 128 pts

The way to change people's minds is to respectfully and intelligently keep challenging faulty assumptions. Over and over and over. They can't be ignored or brushed off.

Rita Arens authors Surrender Dorothy ( http://bit.ly/Qp0sS ) and is the editor of Sleep is for the Weak ( http://tinyurl.com/9pg62e ). She is BlogHer's assignment and syndication editor.

Rita Arens 128 pts

And clearly, if her ballet company felt she was the right choice for the lead role in a huge ballet, he's wrong. He's just wrong.

Rita Arens authors Surrender Dorothy ( http://bit.ly/Qp0sS ) and is the editor of Sleep is for the Weak ( http://tinyurl.com/9pg62e ). She is BlogHer's assignment and syndication editor.

Rita Arens 128 pts

If you're the right size for your body, your body will work very hard to hold onto the weight it needs. I know that for a fact.

Rita Arens authors Surrender Dorothy ( http://bit.ly/Qp0sS ) and is the editor of Sleep is for the Weak ( http://tinyurl.com/9pg62e ). She is BlogHer's assignment and syndication editor.

Rita Arens 128 pts

I actually don't watch that show, but I believe what you say about it. However, though I don't think we can ignore our crazy culture's emphasis on weight and youth, we *can* and should challenge it -- which I will continue to do as long as I have a platform for my voice. ;)

Rita Arens authors Surrender Dorothy ( http://bit.ly/Qp0sS ) and is the editor of Sleep is for the Weak ( http://tinyurl.com/9pg62e ). She is BlogHer's assignment and syndication editor.

Rita Arens 128 pts

You are strong and amazing and beautiful.

Rita Arens authors Surrender Dorothy ( http://bit.ly/Qp0sS ) and is the editor of Sleep is for the Weak ( http://tinyurl.com/9pg62e ). She is BlogHer's assignment and syndication editor.

Rita Arens 128 pts

... is that it broadens our horizons. There is no one true opinion, and the Internet helps us see that so clearly.

Rita Arens authors Surrender Dorothy ( http://bit.ly/Qp0sS ) and is the editor of Sleep is for the Weak ( http://tinyurl.com/9pg62e ). She is BlogHer's assignment and syndication editor.

Rita Arens 128 pts

I took a belly dancing class last year, and the teacher was one of the most graceful people I've ever seen, and she was definitely not thin.

Rita Arens authors Surrender Dorothy ( http://bit.ly/Qp0sS ) and is the editor of Sleep is for the Weak ( http://tinyurl.com/9pg62e ). She is BlogHer's assignment and syndication editor.

Teresabg 5 pts

I am currently a ballet student but I've decided that I want to become professional. I wear a B-cup and weight about 120. I'm 13 and my biggest dream is dancing professionally. I know that it's hard but I'm trying my best knowing that my body is not the ideal ballerina body. This post just made me real happy because I know now that I can make it. Thank you Rita!

Rita Arens 128 pts

I finally saw Black Swan last week. It was as I suspected -- the extreme skinniness of Natalie Portman's character underscored her obessiveness. But they also showed the older choreographer's back muscles, how skinny she was even with gray hair still.

It's an odd world. I don't accept that it's just the way it has to be.

Rita Arens authors Surrender Dorothy ( http://bit.ly/Qp0sS ) and is the editor of Sleep is for the Weak ( http://tinyurl.com/9pg62e ). She is BlogHer's assignment and syndication editor.

Jana Llewellyn 5 pts

Thank you, Rita, for such a wonderful post. I am currently immersed in Portia de Rossi's memoir, Unbearable Lightness, and I am so taken aback by the pressure of popular media to force women into sticks. Instead of focusing on talent--whether it's ballet, acting, singing--we are encouraged to look at their bodies. The implication seems to be that women should take up less space. It's really pissing me off. I am so excited by this venture of BlogHer to create one's own beauty, and I am grateful for your timely post.

Jana Llewellyn tries to make the best of modern motherhood on her blog, An Attitude Adjustment. ( http://anattitudeadjustment.com ) She also teaches English part-time at her local community college.

westsalem 5 pts

Loved this post. We can change perceptions and constructions of the female body. The same arguments are/were made against African Americans in ballet. Not only are these standards sexist, they are also racist in their preference against certain bodies. We have a long way to go, but the momentum is on our side.

Rita Arens 128 pts

I'm fascinated by belly dancing. I took a belly dance aerobics class and bought my girl a jingle-coin wrap or whatever it's called, as well. We belly dance together sometimes. There's a whole category for it on my blog: http://surrenderdorothy.typepad.com/surrender_dorothy/adventures-in-bell... ( http://surrenderdorothy.typepad.com/surrender_dorothy/adventures-in-belly-dancing-aerobics/ )

You're right -- it does make a lot more sense for a woman. But I think you can enjoy the beauty of movement in ballet without focusing on size. I believe that.

Rita Arens authors Surrender Dorothy ( http://bit.ly/Qp0sS ) and is the editor of Sleep is for the Weak ( http://tinyurl.com/9pg62e ). She is BlogHer's assignment and syndication editor.

lex6819 5 pts

Western dance forms like ballet and jazz are physically punishing to the female body. You can't live in a bubble or pursue western dance forms and avoid these cultural attitudes. Best thing to do is to at least expose yourself or your daughter(s) to eastern dance forms that are more aligned with the natural female form. I took up bellydance years ago, and it really is eye opening. It's like learning a foreign language at times, since as westerners we don't engage our muscles in the same ways, but it was also very enlightening and helped me to develop a healthier body image.

badmamamoments 5 pts

This guy sounds just like a racist defending segregation before the civil rights movement, "That's just the way things are." That may be the way things are, buddy - but that doesn't mean it's right. Somethings deserve to be changed.

Melissa

http://badmamamoments.blogspot.com/

ampoland 5 pts

How seriously appalling on the part of Macaulay. Maybe it's because I don't know anything about ballet, but I cannot begin to image how that woman is considered overweight. She looks amazing! I can't even see where he'd /see/ an extra weight on her.

I'm sorry she's had to endure this, with past eating disorders to contend with. She seems very measured about the whole thing.

Elizabeth@Table for Five 5 pts

I just read an interview with Mila Kunis in Entertainment Weekly where she said she danced 5 hours a day, 7 days a week for 3 months, because there was no way to fake the physicality needed for the role. She also said it took her 5 months to lose 20 pounds on 1200 calories a day. Of course it did! Her body was probably shedding what little fat it stores around the reproductive organs and in the breasts.

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tia.peterson 5 pts

I don't know if you've seen So You Think You Can Dance the past few years, but there is certainly still a bias toward thinner bodies (both men and women) when it comes to literally all forms of dance, not just ballet. And it's not just coming from critics; it comes from the dance instructors and judges themselves.

One of the most prominent judges on the show is Mia Michaels who specifically admitted on national television (though very, very sadly) that size matters. She's a bigger dancer, and because of her size, choreography was really her only chance of making it big time.

But one thing you'd never see them do on that show is equate beauty with size. I don't believe that beauty has anything to do with size when it comes to dancing. I also strongly believe that the more beautiful a person believes herself to be, the more beautiful she becomes.

So I'm not quite sure what to think here. On the one hand you are absolutely right in admonishing the reviewer for his remark. "Fat" is a term that we will never be comfortable with as a society - it's demeaning and degrading, not to mention incredibly relative (where I would certainly be considered fat if I were a ballet dancer, at a size 6!).

On the other hand, when it comes to dance and acting also, there's a reality about size bias that cannot be ignored. It is there.

Bonnie Crowder 5 pts

...is seeing the variety of body shapes. Grace is not in size, it is in how you move and feel. And THAT is the beautiful part.

heatheralainemeyer 5 pts

Rita!
YES! Thank you so much for writing this important piece! Isn't interesting that sometimes the things we hesitate to write on are usually what we most need to express?
Thanks for sharing this!

Heather Meyer blogs about fitness, loving your body, and finding inspiration in life at Work It Out! ( http://heathersworkitout.wordpress.com/ )

amberpagewrites 5 pts

Although it's a shame that so many still think like that critic, it's heartening to know that so many were ready to leap to that ballerina's defense.

The internet, I think, is helping to broaden our horizons and help the world think differently, but it will take time.

I tell my daughter she is beautiful every day (though she is not even 2 yet). I plan to continue that every day of her life.

Rita Arens 128 pts

Her expression in that video is so kind. I think she got the part because a) she can dance and b) don't you want someone with that half-smile welcoming you to the Kingdom of Sweets? She nailed the face.

Rita Arens authors Surrender Dorothy ( http://bit.ly/Qp0sS ) and is the editor of Sleep is for the Weak ( http://tinyurl.com/9pg62e ). She is BlogHer's assignment and syndication editor.

Rita Arens 128 pts

You just made me really glad I wrote the post. I waffled on it.

Rita Arens authors Surrender Dorothy ( http://bit.ly/Qp0sS ) and is the editor of Sleep is for the Weak ( http://tinyurl.com/9pg62e ). She is BlogHer's assignment and syndication editor.

Nordette Adams 11 pts

When I was in my 20s, I had a friend who was a ballet dancer and suffered from anorexia and bulimia. She regularly vomited up food she'd just eaten and also practiced self-mutilation, constantly feeling she was inadequate. So, I didn't want to read this story, but I did.

The critic is wrong and he must have been terribly focused on weight to decide that this woman should lose weight to perform. I think she looks beautiful.

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SarahDenley 5 pts

...my comment didn't offend. I totally agree with you. As a teenager, I did competitive cheerleading and gymnastics. There were ugly "pretty" things about that world, but my parents let me decide to pursue something I enjoyed. At the same time, (even before I started these activities) they were constantly engaging me in conversations about what was really important in life, what true beauty was, and where real self worth was found. Which is what I'm sure you'll be doing, from what I've read here and on Surrender Dorothy.

Rita Arens 128 pts

I know I write a lot about body image and eating disorders and I hate to be a broken record, but really, the excuse "that's the way it's always been" about a standard that's not necessary is just mind-numbing. Thanks for your comment, Elaine. :)

Rita Arens authors Surrender Dorothy ( http://bit.ly/Qp0sS ) and is the editor of Sleep is for the Weak ( http://tinyurl.com/9pg62e ). She is BlogHer's assignment and syndication editor.

Elaine W. 7 pts

...for writing this wonderful post! I've been waiting for someone on our team to write this and it was more than I'd hoped for, especially with your personal perspective. As mothers of young daughters, I'm so glad you were able to express your unique point of view against such an ignorant and arrogant man's POV. His comments made me so angry and outraged. I hope my child never has to encounter such ridiculous rhetoric from a man who knows nothing about dignity and self-respect.

Rita Arens 128 pts

The way the body moves. As Mila so rightly pointed out, it's not just the way it looks.

Rita Arens authors Surrender Dorothy ( http://bit.ly/Qp0sS ) and is the editor of Sleep is for the Weak ( http://tinyurl.com/9pg62e ). She is BlogHer's assignment and syndication editor.

Rita Arens 128 pts

There is nothing grotesque about a woman's body, and there is nothing wrong with Jenifer Ringer's. That turnout! Those leaps!

Rita Arens authors Surrender Dorothy ( http://bit.ly/Qp0sS ) and is the editor of Sleep is for the Weak ( http://tinyurl.com/9pg62e ). She is BlogHer's assignment and syndication editor.

Kathryn W. 5 pts

I have no speakers on the computer I am using right now, but I will definitely have to revisit this post to hear what Natalie Portman has to say in her interview.

Have you heard what Mila Kunis had to say? She basically said that while she looked great on film, she would look in the mirror and be disgusted by how thin she was.

Sometimes I just want to scream at the top of my lungs, "Enough is enough. Thinner isn't always healthier! The goal should be to be healthy!" Of course, that probably means a lot less coming from a hypocrite like me, who needs to be thinner and lose weight to get healthier.

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TheBlackTortoise 16 pts

I read somewhere that long ago the tutu was invented because women's bodies were so grotesquely out of balance, it was distracting to the dance.

I doubt anyone thinks like that anymore. The days of Macaulay's attitude will come to an end, too.

The sooner the better.

Adela

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Rita Arens 128 pts

I know there is a strong relationship between dance and body image issues. I am watching my daughter very closely. At the same time, I can't stop her from performing if she wants to do so -- all I can do is support her and help her process any messages she receives. If she wanted to act or be a newscaster or an athlete, she would face similar issues. I don't think I can keep her in a bubble, unfortunately. I'm better off giving her the tools than keeping her away. But thanks for your comment.

Rita Arens authors Surrender Dorothy ( http://bit.ly/Qp0sS ) and is the editor of Sleep is for the Weak ( http://tinyurl.com/9pg62e ). She is BlogHer's assignment and syndication editor.

SarahDenley 5 pts

I have to admit all this week when I was seeing your Nutcracker tweets, I kept thinking of Black Swan and the link between ballet and eating disorders. I really wanted to ask you where you stood, knowing your history, but I didn't want to seem judgmental or insensitive. I'm so glad you did this post and I hope your daughter is one of the people who brings about change as you help her learn how to "own her beauty", which is one of my greatest desires for my own eighteen month old little girl.