F*ck Me, I’m Fat: A Hot Guide to Fat Sex

Ever read the sex tips in Cosmo and thought “seriously, I am not a yoga master, how the hell am I supposed to do that position” or thought “wow, are the only people who have experimental sex skinny?” I know I’ve certainly scoffed at sex position cards that suggested acrobatics that would qualify me for the Olympics!

 

It’s really sad when you look up “fat sex how to” or “bbw sex guide” it only takes about 5 entries before you get to either degrading porn or weight loss tips. Ugh. And then, of course, there’s all the body-negative bullshit to wade through. Way to remove sexual agency from fat people!

 

Well, fat people have sex too, I’m here to tell you, and it can be as varied and exciting as it is for everyone else. Here’s some tips and tricks to explore sex whether you’re chubby, thick, zaftig, plus-sized, or just plain fat.

 

One thing that challenges a lot of fat people when it comes to sex is feeling sexy. It can be hard to find sexy underwear and lingerie that fits fat people, and if you’re feeling uncomfortable with your body, your confidence will go way down. There are multiple ways I’ve found to help calm those nerves.

One is taking a shower with your lover- there’s something about the hot water and slippery soap that makes all that flesh really sexy! And, if you decide to get frisky, there are various props you can use in the shower to make that easier- the step and the handle are two I recommend, though maybe tying up your fat lover using suction cuffs and kissing all over their body might do the trick too. Along similar lines is erotic massage, which puts you in your body and feeling great about it- what better way to turn your lover on than with some scented massage lotion or some warm massage candles? Or you can blindfold your lover and use an ice vibrator or some chocolate body paint to explore their skin… it’s all about reassuring them that you find their round bellies and thick thighs sexy.

 

Another thing you can do is light candles or use pink or amber light in your room for mood lighting. Everyone looks sexy under soft sensual colours, and just changing the lighting can be enough to create an atmosphere where your nervous lover feels sexy. Or you can wear lingerie or sexy outfits that show off your body well- for femme-presenting people, babydolls are great if you have breasts you’re really fond of, a garter belt and thigh highs can highlight sexy legs, or hipster panties might be the trick if you’re bootilicious. You’re not stuck to corsets! For masculine-presenting people, sock garters and black underwear can sex you up… add a bow tie for some formality. Uniforms also come in different sizes- you can always add some roleplay into your repertoire.

 

Of course, how can I forget watching some body-positive pornography? There’s a lot out there now that has different body types in it without it being negative. Books and magazine wise try the diversity within these- Extreme Curves for female bodies, Salacious for queer bodies or Filamentmagazine for male bodies. For DVDs, consider April Flores in Bordello, Courtney Trouble in Layover, Kelly Shibari and Lady Monster in Dangerous Curves, and Liz in Queer Manor. If you like trans male bodies, check out Cubbyholes for some yummy cubs and bears. Got some hot video porn to suggest with hot fat men? Leave a comment!

 

I got to try out one of the Liberator wedges and I have to say they’re fantastic. Made of furniture grade foam, covered with soft microfiber and protected by a water resistant liner, these are sturdy and effective no matter what your size or mobility. I recommend them fully for all bodies, but they’re particularly useful if you want to do penetrative intercourse, as you can angle the cunt up or support propping an ass up at an angle to make penetration easier to manage. Not only are these great for penis or dildo penetration, though, they’re also awesome for comfortable oral sex as your neck doesn’t have to be at as extreme an angle.  Generally if you’re fat you should go for the Wedge, though you could also check out the Heart. I personally found the Jaz a bit small for my luscious 50″ hips, but if you’re smaller it