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Coming Out...as a Christian

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I am a Christian, a “born again” Christian. And although I do not have a “religion,” because I refuse to be labeled by one, I do follow the teachings of Jesus Christ, from my reading of the Holy Bible, and His words I have come to believe with all my heart. But I do not preach. I leave the ministering of His Word to the preachers, the evangelists, the pastors, those at the pulpit, educated in the Word. I will, however, share my convictions with anyone who asks and wants to know about my personal relationship with Jesus Christ. I’ve just never advertised my status.


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In the many years I have walked as a Christian I have often felt like I just don’t fit in; not with the “non-believers” or even with the “believers.” For many Christians today, and I am not alone in this, there is great fear in admitting that we are followers of His Word. We are afraid of being ostracized, considered partners with the radicals—thus becoming lonely outcasts. There is even fear in admitting to other Christians who we are. For many within the church, drinking wine, reading romance novels, going to the movies, wearing makeup, pants and jewelry, labels us as “worldly.”

Living “worldly” while being 'Christian' means compromising God’s standards. But I have tried to live my life honestly, and though mostly silently yet openly, and to the best of my ability. But I have never thought myself better than anyone else. We are all His children. He cares for us all. The only difference is that I believe in Jesus and the salvation He offers. In the end, God will be our Judge and Jury.

There, I said it; I am now out in the open. And I am not looking to put down anyone for not believing, but neither am I looking to be challenged or ridiculed. I do not seek an argument. I just want to openly share who I am. A child of the King who still struggles with every day situations just like anyone else out there; we hunger, we thirst, we cry, we want and need.

Even with my own children, though I may not like their lifestyle, I will not judge them. My not liking their chosen lifestyles or what they do is only based on my “personal belief.” It is their life and their choices, after all. I am their mother, trying to teach them in the best way I know how; to love, to respect life and others. My heart’s hope and great desire is that one day they may find a happy personal relationship with God, such as I have found. As a mother I only want the best for my children, and my greatest weapons are prayer and being an example! So I try to practice what I preach. But I am not perfect; I am far from perfect. I am only human, after all.

“For I am not ashamed of the gospel of [Jesus] Christ…” Romans 1:15 (KJV)

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GaelMc 33 pts

Virginia bravo on "coming out", it seems in some quarters there is tolerance for all except those who follow Christ. It is my observation that the restraints imposed by the church in former years are lifting. It is hard to say this without sounding "worldly" but I do think the church as a whole has been far more judgmental against things that really don't matter like lipstick and less attentive to the things that do matter like changing the culture with love. I commend you for doing that, one day at a time, and in the most difficult mission field of all, your family.

HomeRearedChef 1901 pts

 GaelMc You've hit the nail right on the head: "in the most difficult mission field of all, your family." My children have not strayed from the Lord, but I believe they have been at cross-roads. But I have tried to impress on them that at some point in their lives they WILL need to choose. God, after all, tells us that we cannot serve two Masters.

 

Thank you, Gael, for taking the time to visit an old post, and one I am so deeply proud of.   :)

 

Big virtual hugs, and God bless,

~Virginia

bstrangely 7 pts

is this not preaching? i'm not trying to be nasty, but it just seems so to me. and that's fine if it is... i think it's very sad that we've gotten so much baggage into the language. please preach on and don't be embarrassed :)

HomeRearedChef 1901 pts

 bstrangely Well, I thought I was just talking, but if it is preaching, then I guess I am. I am fine with it. So I hear you loud and clear. Thank you for your words and for the visit!   :)

LetThemEatGreat 104 pts

Good post, and thanks for your bravery! I am in the same place as you--I consider myself Christian, but my hope is to grow every day and exemplify Christ more and more. To focus on my actions, to focus on loving others, rather than judging people or beating people over the head with fear or aggression. I like to call myself a servant in training. I'm certainly not perfect, but my life has changed for the better in many ways.

HomeRearedChef 1901 pts

It is wonderful and uplifting to meet a sister in the faith, so thank you for coming by to give spiritual support. (Smiling!)

LetThemEatGreat I wonder, will you be blogging her on BlogHer, or will you just be linking from your site? I am just wondering, is all. In any case, it will be great to support each others postings.

Thank you for taking the time to stop by to read my post and commenting.

~Virginia

LetThemEatGreat 104 pts

HomeRearedChef Right now, I'm just blogging from my site and providing links here, but I know it would probably be easier, for sharing's sake, to post here, too. I don't want to give up my site altogether, but I don't really want to add another layer of upkeep by double-posting. I'm not sure! : (

HomeRearedChef 1901 pts

Well, if you keep posting your links on BlogHer, I will visit your posts. I have no problems doing so. (Smiling!)

~Virginia

LetThemEatGreat

LetThemEatGreat 104 pts

HomeRearedChef Sounds like a plan! : )

Lady Jennie 12 pts

Yup. You sound exactly like me. I could endorse every single thing you wrote! :-)

HomeRearedChef 1901 pts

I guess here's when I say thank you for reading my blog, and I appreciate knowing I am not alone in how how I feel. But I also I feel like I need to say I'm sorry that we've had to feel all these disappointments. Alas, all these differences is what makes up the world, such as it is.

Lady Jennie

isthisthemiddle 1168 pts

Virginia, I've been back to read the comments on your post several times. I'm amazed at the diversity of the responses. People have taken the time to reveal their core beliefs-- that was the power of your post! It's wonderful to see such open discussion.

HomeRearedChef 1901 pts

isthisthemiddle Thank you, Melanie! I, too, am so happy with the lovely responses I've received. I love that here, on BlogHer, we can share our thoughts, express our feelings, and openly discuss without shame or fear. And thank you for reading my posts. I so admire your writings and expressions. I am a big fan of your work. (Smile!)

Reda 116 pts

isthisthemiddle

I come back here alot, also. It's interesting and makes me smile.

HomeRearedChef 1901 pts

Thank you, Reda. You are most encouraging, and I appreciate that you can smile. Now I am smiling too! Reda isthisthemiddle

HomeRearedChef 1901 pts

Thank you, Reda, I am very pleased with everyone's input. They've all been so nice! Reda isthisthemiddle

writingbyemily 12 pts

judithLHomeRearedChef As a former Christian, the title of your post caught my attention. I live in the South surrounded by proselytizing neighbors and a family of Southern Baptist preachers and foreign missionaries. I've never come across anyone who felt even the SLIGHTEST hesitation in sharing their spiritual beliefs, especially when they've realized I'm an expatriate. With that said, I'm fully aware that my ''neck of the woods'' is an extreme example. :)

I commend your non-judgmental viewpoint and especially the way you're raising your children. As someone who relates to JudithL -- spiritual without religion -- I don't quite fit in, naturally, with most people here in my small town. But I do have a small circle of Christian & non-Christian friends with whom I have loving and non-judmental relationships. They accept me and I accept them. Although I don't believe, I'm always impressed with anyone in today's society -- people like my friends and like you -- that reserve their judgment.

HomeRearedChef 1901 pts

writingbyemilyjudithL I loved your comment. Thank you! With sadness I will admit that we have not attended church in many years, and I miss it very much (song and worship filled me). There was too much time spent on preaching their own practices and not enough of what the Bible really teaches. So we fled. My hubby and I didn't want to stay and judge them, but we didn't want to be judged by them either.

My sincere wish/prayer is that my children may someday find a relationship with God as I have found (all on my own and with no pressures). I do not want my children to "serve" God because they've been forced into believing. It is a personal choice they would need to make because it would then be sincerely heartfelt.

Like you, Writingbyemily, I have Christian friends and non-Christian friends, and we accept each other for who we are, and they even respect my giving thanks for our meals in my home, and often I am asked to give thanks when I am at their home. (Smile!)

Your visit and post has been very uplifting and greatly appreciated.

~Virginia

KarenLynnn 1128 pts

I am proud of you for coming out and saying what you feel about your relationship with Jesus. :)

HomeRearedChef 1901 pts

KarenLynnn Thank you! See, if I am always very proud to introduce my husband to people I meet, then I thought it was about time to introduce the One whose footsteps and lifestyle I follow, the One responsible for me being the person that I am today. (Smile!)

Reda 116 pts

HomeRearedChefKarenLynnn

I pray in my car....aloud....and really don't care who sees me. I've spent too much time in my life worrying about other people's opinions and when we do that it will paralyze us. Your life stops, because you are no longer living your life, but others. You stop...and wonder what the next move is. I wonder if that's the same as trying to share what the Lord has given us....we try and then hear their thoughts, such as the preaching of one minister I know who told his congregation that he has been to the mall and has seen the way "his" women from "his" church dress and he wasn't happy. We live for GOD....not ministers or people that don't see our relationship with Him. Try to explain , if asked. If they don't see it, walk away and continue your journey.

I love this post!

HomeRearedChef 1901 pts

Reda Thank you, Reda, because I needed to hear those words today. It's as if God gave them to you to speak them to me. I realize that I try top hard to live as others would want me to be, and so I am not happy. I need to think about walking and talking to please Him, and Him first. So even at my age I am still taking baby step as I continue my walk with Him.

Thank you for stopping by again, it is very much appreciated, my friend in Christ. (Smiling!)

KarenLynnn

GF1 5 pts

My head is spinning so fast from the ironies of this catchy post and subsequent comments to date that I don't know where to begin. Never mind.

In Rome, a relatively famous piece of graffiti was evidently scratched into limestone or other rock by a school boy a couple thousand years ago. The naked backside of a crucified man takes center stage; the human figure sports the head of an ass. Off to the side stands the crude depiction of a wide-eyed boy with arm upraised. The caption beneath more or less reads, "Alexamenos worships his god."

Josephus, the first century A.D. Jewish historian and apologist notes that a not-unknown Roman slur of the day was to claim Jews worshiped an ass in the Temple Holy of Holies in Jerusalem.

Crucifixion was of course a common form of Roman execution. Like the medieval European gibbet, it was intended to shame the victim publicly as well as cruelly to execute. It was the death of slaves, traitors, and by itself constituted evidence of guilt, or such was popular opinion typically.

So in the New Testament, Jesus is derided when dying on the cross. And Paul claims with good reason that the message of the cross is foolishness to non-Christian Greeks (we get the word "moron" from the word here translated "foolishness"), though he is "not ashamed of the gospel of Christ, for it is the power of God unto salvation to everyone that believes."

When schoolboy Alexamenos "comes out" as a Christian (the ending -os is masculine), my understanding is that he faces social stigma that is removed in meaning from the stigma that Christians commonly face in the west today for their faith, yet arguably there are times when the significance merges.

Note last here that the New Testament makes clear that crucifixion was God's choice for the death of His Son.

HomeRearedChef 1901 pts

GF1 Wow! You had a lot to say. Now my head is spinning! (Smile!) I would like to thank you for having taken the time to read my post, it is appreciated. And I thank you, too, for taking the time to leave a comment.

ropcorn 67 pts

Very interesting to read your thoughts on religion and your beliefs. I think that one of the major problems in the world is all the subconcious judgement that goes in our minds every day. Imagine how amazing everything would be if no one judged anyone or anything. Ahhh! :-)

I am glad I finally found your blog. :-)

HomeRearedChef 1901 pts

ropcorn As I get older, I am learning to see others in a different light. Though I am a Christian to the core (I live my life believing in what makes me happy and brings me comfort), I refuse to give out criticism just because they are not like me. I do not want, even of my children, to have them fit into a mold I've created. So I will create NO molds.

By the way, welcome, and I, too, am so glad you found me, here on BlogHer, and thank you for the follow on Twitter. I look forward to reading your tweets, and blogs as well. (Smile!)

~Virginia

frugalandfree 8 pts

Dear Sister in Christ--- I so related to your article. It sounded just like me! That's never happened before- to feel such a connection about my faith.. So grateful I got to read it. Bless you!

HomeRearedChef 1901 pts

frugalandfree I am deeply touched by your visit, and I very much welcome your greeting "Sister in Christ." Thank you!

I am very pleasantly surprised by the amount of good support I have received from my blog. I praise the Lord, and its all for His glory!

~Virginia

Reda 116 pts

HomeRearedCheffrugalandfree

Evidently you put out a much needed post.

Reda 116 pts

HomeRearedCheffrugalandfree

And by the way....music is my worship, also.

Virginia...if you touched one, and you touched me....Our God is in the middle of this.

HomeRearedChef 1901 pts

Reda Amen! Thank you, Reda, you are most encouraging!! frugalandfree

ajwilson412 8 pts

That is fantastic that you're willing to be bold about your relationship and belief in Jesus Christ. The Bible encourages us to be bold and not be afraid to admit our love for Him. Jesus mentions that if we acknowledge Him, then He will acknowledge us at the judgement so it's good to do so. However, I totally understand. It can be very difficult to admit your Christianity for fear of ridicule. So I am glad you're opening up and sharing with the world your own beliefs. I appreciate this post!

HomeRearedChef 1901 pts

ajwilson412 And I appreciate your very encouraging comment. Thank you!!

Because I believe in and serve our Heavenly Father is why I felt I had to publish this blog. I am a child of the King, and proud of it. But I will not put down ANYONE who does not believe as me.

~Virginia

Reda 116 pts

ajwilson412

Joyce Meyers has a good book called Approval Addiction...and yes...I had to read it. It truly helped me. There are also books left behind from Mother Theresa that are wonderful. I am God's child, and it took me awhile to be able to talk, because of cynical people...but I realized an important fact. The cynical people will not be there at the end. It will be Christ. I will live in Heaven for eternity.

One thing I do not understand is the posts on FB, or other sites that say "if you are not ASHAMED of Jesus...."...why does the word ashamed come into it? And if you look, it is said a lot.

When I go anywhere, I wear an invisible sign on my back...it reads I am His child. Believe me....just the walk and the actions make people realize Whom you belong to..

I have faced ridicule...I saw and heard an angel on the night my grandmother passed away. I was 12 years old. I've never wavered from the story, because it was true...but I have faced ridicule over that, but once again, I know it's Christ at the end....and there is no one in this world....no one that can take that from me.

I loved your story.

HomeRearedChef 1901 pts

I, too, have had to face ridicule. It is probably the reason why I went silent for a long time, though I never stopped being a Christian. But our family has been through so much loss, so many lessons (my view of our trials and tribulations), that I finally understand that God is just molding me (us) in to the person I am supposed to be. Well, he now has my attention. I am all ears and heart. (Smile!) Thank you for stopping by to comment. You are so much appreciated. Reda ajwilson412

isthisthemiddle 1168 pts

Redaajwilson412 Reda, you are brave to admit you saw an angel. It is almost dangerous to admit that in this cynical world, yet many people share that experience. I don't judge the cynical-- they definitely have a right to their opinions. I enjoyed reading your comment!

HomeRearedChef 1901 pts

As much as I have too! isthisthemiddle Reda ajwilson412

judithL 10 pts

This is what comes of the tangled mess of mixing religion and politics - that a Christian and a Pagan are equally fearful to openly share their beliefs. Think about that.I was born and raised in a Christian faith, though not fundamental or born again. As a young adult I became fascinated by faith, belief and religion. In my (many) adult years, I have continued to make a practice of knowing some basic facts about the many faith-based practices that are all means of paying homage to the same divine spirit regardless of what name that spirit is given.While I respect your right to believe as you do, I personally cannot subscribe to a religion that says they or their profit is the only way by which salvation can be obtained. Jesus is certainly one way, and a good way, but I do not believe the only way. Because I now describe myself as "not religious but spiritual", I am considered by many to be a pagan. If you think you are afraid to advertise your Christian faith, try being in my shoes when a tide of one-religion fanatics are doing their best to drag us all back to the crusades.

HomeRearedChef 1901 pts

judithL I do understand where you are coming from. And wearing your shoes may be a tight fit. (Smile!)

I think that anytime anyone advertises what and how they believe, they will receive criticism. But I stand my ground (reason for this blog) as you stand yours.

I appreciate hearing from you,

~Virginia

Judy Schwartz Haley 33 pts

I never received any kind of derisive comments or issues from outsiders while I was a church going Christian - but man did those "christians" turn ugly when I started to question things.

HomeRearedChef 1901 pts

Judy Schwartz Haley I bet you know better now, than to ask. LOL!

But we do have to ask, especially if we do not know or understand. We have taught our children to question when they are not sure, including us, their parents!

~Virginia

Reda 116 pts

HomeRearedChef

Pick better people to ask, Judy. God always puts someone here for us....pray to find out who it is.

HomeRearedChef 1901 pts

So true, Reda, so very true. Reda

TPLauthor 7 pts

I think there's a fine line between the two. You don't want to be someone who always pushes people away with constant proselytizing, but nor do you want to keep your light hidden under a lampshade or bowl, as Jesus described. Certainly some are better than others than being bold about our faith, and I commend you for writing about this. My pastor once said to us during a Sunday message, "Would the majority of the people you see and spend time with on a regular basis -- including co-workers -- know that you are a Christian and that you live by faith?" Many shook their heads no. Sometimes all we need to do are the simple little things, like give the Glory to God for our blessings, or openly say that you'll pray for someone. It doesn't always have to be a sermon. =) Thanks for bringing this topic to light.

HomeRearedChef 1901 pts

TPLauthor There IS a fine line between the two. And I love that Bible verse, "Let your light so shine before men, that they may see..." Matthew 5:16

I have, even if fearfully, offered prayer to someone in need, be they a believer or not. And most recently it was very well received by a non-believer. (Smile!) You are so right, that I do not need to preach to show we serve Jesus.

Thank you for your very thought-provoking comment.

~Virginia

Reda 116 pts

TPLauthor

I know what you mean. I say grace when I have a meal. I always ask if I can. No one has ever said no, and sometimes I have felt like I was being tolerated. The point is...I wasn't praying to THEM...I was praying to our Lord, and He heard me.

P.S. When THEY come to MY house, I don't ask. I simply say grace.

Reda 116 pts

TPLauthor

I also realize now that there were some people who KNEW I was going to pray and sat and waited for me to say grace. Amen!

HomeRearedChef 1901 pts

RedaMost that come to my home, already know that we give thanks, and those that don't, I politely inform them that in our home we give thank to God the father for His provisions. TPLauthor

HomeRearedChef 1901 pts

RedaMe, too, Reda, when they come to my house, I don't ask if I can pray, I simply get they attention, gather everyone to the table, and let them know I am giving thanks for His provisions. *Smile!* TPLauthor

VirusHead 8 pts

It's a shame that the bad behavior and hypocrisy of some people who call themselves Christians taints all others. People who show humility and kindness and all the rest, as was Jesus' message have no reason not to continue to model the insights there, and to provide an alternative to those who continue to worship the bible as a fetish or use is as a weapon.