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Fear of Same Sex Kissing Means No Kiss Cam for Washington Mystics

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There is no love lost between me and the Kiss Cam at sporting events. You know what I am talking about, right? They show a couple on the jumbotron and then the two of them are supposed to kiss.

Like that. 

I hate the Kiss Cam. I hate the Kiss Cam because I don't go to sporting events on dates. My husband hates crowds. I go to hockey games with my friends. I go to basketball games with my father-in-law. Sometimes I worry that I will be on the Kiss Cam with the stranger on my left. The whole thing is uncomfortable and stupid.

I was actually relieved when I first heard that the Washington Mystics didn't use the Kiss Cam. I love going to Mystics games and it just seemed like a bonus. 

Until I learned why the Mystics don't have a Kiss Cam.

Why? Because the spectators at WNBA games generally fall into two
categories: (1) dads and their daughters and (2) lesbians. If a Kiss
Cam were to be installed at Mystics games, little innocent children
could be subjected to the horrific view of two women locking lips.

- Grace Chu, Grace the Spot

Really? They are afraid people at a WNBA would be offended by two women kissing? I could be wrong, but I thought that the WNBA embraced everything about girl power. Isn't a professional women's basketball league the epitome of feminism? Doesn't equality mean... equality?

If you've ever been to a WNBA game, you know the lesbian quotient is high. (Off and
on the court, right girls?) You'll find a disproportionately high
number of girl-loving girls holding season tickets. But for the
Mystics, the chance that two gals might share a smooch in front of an
audience — that includes kids! — just isn't worth the risk. And not
only is management okay with it, but so too are team members. (Possibly
under direction from management?)

Says Mystics managing partner Sheila Johnson: "We got a lot of kids here. We just don't find it appropriate."

- Pam Spaulding, Pam's House Blend

The Washington Mystics don't find women kissing each other in front of children appropriate? Why not? I cannot speak for all parents, but I want my children to accept and understand that romantic love does not have to be between a man and a woman. I want my children to be open-minded. 

I don't want my children to know that our local WNBA team is afraid of them seeing two girls kissing each other.

And what about the other questions? On Draft Day Suit Laurie White says:

...analyzing this can get sticky fast,  with underlying issues including but perhaps not limited to the following:

Should women who financially support an organization as fans not be
permitted to be broadcast in an activity that’s common at professional
sporting events? Should a significant portion of the fan base be told
that the sight of them showing affection is repugnant, bad for business
and potentially bad for kids...

Are children potentially damaged by the sight of a lesbian couple
kissing in 3-d? And should parents be confronted with an issue like
this in this kind of environment?

When women’s sports struggle financially and rely on the support of
sponsors, must they resort, as to the Mystics have, to one like Exxon
Mobil, who received a zero corporate quality rating from the Human
Rights Campaign and are the only Fortune 10 company not to have a
non-discrimination policy related to sexual orientation?

Why is this issue on the front page of the Sports section when
women’s sports routinely struggle for air time (before, during and
after games) hence amplifying sponsorship needs and causing the whole
circle to remain, sadly, unbroken and back at “no kiss cam” square one?

Do you see what I mean? Ouch, my head.

Mine too, Laurie. Mine too.

And while I am still paranoid about The Kiss Cam camera man or woman focusing in on me and my father-in-law at a Wizards game, the next time I go to a Capitals game with my friend Nancy I hope the Kiss Cam focuses on us. I am a straight woman, but I will plant a big fat smooch right on her mouth.

 

Contributing Editor Sarah also blogs at Sarah and the Goon Squad and MamaPop.

 

 

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PunditMom 5 pts

That's disappointing. Had I known, I would have made more of a point of finding you at the game! ;O

Seriously, yesterday was the first professional basketball game I had taken PunditGirl to and she LOVED it! I was happy to be able to provide her with the opportunity to see two teams full of fit, athletic, accomplished women playing such an intense game.

If she happens to see some women kissing there or somewhere else, I have no problem with that.

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Sarah 5 pts

I took my daughter to a Mystics game yesterday (I don't like the KissCam politics, but I still like the basketball and the WBNA) and I'm not sure why Wise said "Dads and daughter and lesbians" were the major fanbase. 

We saw many, many families there and a lot of other moms taking with kids.

There were also small groups of men there.

I also think that the Mystics do a lot of things right, but they need to do a better job publicizing the positive things. I live in the DC Metro Area and this is the last time I can remember reading anything about them in the news since they drafted Marissa Coleman.

That was months ago.

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mommaamme 5 pts

... to spring into action shall the proper Kiss Cam moment arise.

Let's Go Caps!!

drudolph 5 pts

A few additional points on the KissCam issue: The story first broke because of an article ( http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/artic... ) by the Washington Post's sports columnist Mike Wise. Wise seems quite supportive of the lesbian fans--but he also implies that the issue is a matter of “lesbians vs. kids” when he says, “Understood is that women’s professional basketball has two major fan bases: dads and daughters, and lesbians. The KissCam issue, frivolous on its surface, puts the effort to cater to both audiences squarely at odds.”

Not exactly. Some of the dads may be gay. Some of the lesbians may have
daughters. Some of the daughters may turn out to be lesbians themselves
(and not because they saw two women kissing at a WNBA game). Society
doesn’t divide into neat and tidy teams with uniforms.

The Mystics aren’t all bad, either. They apparently send representatives to the big benefit dinners run by the Human Rights Campaign (HRC), the country's largest LGBT advocacy group, and even brought the whole team once.

Still, I think a "kiss in" by lesbian fans at a Mystics game would be a great way to bring attention to the issue, as I suggested in a post I wrote about this last week over at Mombian ( http://www.mombian.com/2009/07/29/love-kisses-and-... ). If straight women like Sarah want to join in the fun, I say that's even better!

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evilslutopia 5 pts

So it's okay for lesbians to come to the games and spend lots of money, as long as they're not too lesbiany while they're doing it?  Sure, that sounds totally fair. 

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Sarah 5 pts

Well said, Lynn.

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LynnCraig 5 pts

The world needs MORE Kissing, not less!

I agree with you 100%.

Sarah 5 pts

Exactly!

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lauriewrites 6 pts

And I for one would happily fly you up here just so we could be on that spinster aunt cam (a demographic I'M rapidly approaching if not already there...sorta plannning on redefining it in hotter terms, though. ;)) And it makes me really really smile to think what they'd get if they focused it on us, or any BlogHer woman, of any orientation, really. It's a gamble altogether.

Your point is spot-on as usual, though, and it's why I've enjoyed the comments on the mainstream media articles for the most part, which have been a cut above the usual in intelligence and insight.  Lesbian ticket holders are saying hey, we support you, we buy your stuff, what about us? Some have said they'll stop. Others are saying, hey, just play basketball. 

I didn't like Sheila Johnson's "explanation" of this in any event, which irrirates me in spite of the distaste I have for this kind of camera in the first place. So thanks for wrecking my head, Mystics. THANKS. (I'll still go watch them play, though, which probably says more than any of my other ranting.) 

Laurie

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LucindaA 5 pts

by how they decided that a large percentage of their audience was lesbians anyway?  Really?  How did come to that conclusion?  And then to openly announce it like it's a bad thing?  Wow!  Who was the brainchild behind this?  Let's piss off our best customers by announcing that they are a bad influence.  Hmmm.....Politics aside, possibly one of the dumbest business decisions ever.

Sarah 5 pts

Instead of a big heart superimposed over the screen they could have like 15 cats.

Maybe that would make the patriarchy more comfortable. (Hi Denise). 

Or in this case the matriarchy, and that just makes it worse.

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Sarah 5 pts

And two men in La-Z-Boys drinking beer and watching hockey and kissing each other is how it is sometimes. People should know that.  Stereotypes be damned!

Thanks Amber.

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Deb Rox 5 pts

This is an increasingly common double standard in how businesses are "accepting" gay famillies and gay people.  They certainly want our money, and in some sectors we are a formidible demographic. In women's sports? I would argue the determining demographic.  But they can't figure out how to handle our participation without offending some stereotypical biases--not that, as you say, sane people regardless of sexuality really want to be on a Kissing Cam anywhere.  So maybe they could deploy the Spinster Aunts Cam to use when they see two women sitting together.  That would make them feel more comfortable about our appearance on camera while supporting their team.

(I love Amber's story! Heh!)

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Summerm 5 pts

That's just ridiculous! As if the site of two women kissing will destroy families across the nation or someething.

Summer

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AmberS 5 pts

I agree with you, eliminating the Kiss Cam for this reason is at best ridiculous and at worst discriminatory. I would hope that my children learn to celebrate all love regardless of the genders of the people involved.

My husband works in sports TV, and at one time worked on the in-house show for the Vancouver Canucks. I don't know if they have a Kiss Cam or not. However, they used to have a 'Best Seats in the House' promotion sponsored by a beer company. Two fans (usually male) got to sit in big La-Z Boy type armchairs while a server brought them beer during the game. One night when they were showing the two guys sitting in the 'Best Seats' they leaned over and kissed on camera - I gather they were a couple. My husband says it was 15 kinds of awesome, it really broke every sort of stereotype you could possibly have.

Not a Kiss Cam moment exactly, but somewhat related all the same.

~ Amber

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