on feeling defeat

There is a lot going on behind the scenes of this post right now. But instead of focusing on the details-what I want to put out there and what I choose to bury deep, I am going to go broad.

Defeat. Powerlessness. Anguish.

These come up in our everyday lives in certain levels of minuscule and magnitude. It's easy to find them. Try hopping in line at the grocery store.

We get into these cycles, where we see how our world may be hurting us. Whether it be other people, other institutions, other systems that may be beyond our grasp. We feel it. We may say, "it doesn't matter, I can't change it." Or "it's useless, I'm stuck." There, my friend, in that exact moment we have to make a choice. We can feed into our feelings, choosing to give whomever or whatever the power over us. But keep in mind, if we hand it over we part with something precious. We become weak, trapped and miserable. Or we can do something else. Something big.

Have you ever felt this way?

Have you ever been so hung up on that powerlessness? It's a terrible feeling. It's like you've fallen into the lion's den and instead of looking for big boulders or branches to throw your superhuman strength into getting out, you focus on the lion. He has big teeth. He has sharp claws. You bank on your next moments coming to a slow, painful death.

Why do we do this? Because we have found that it is easier to fold in, to cower, to bet on the other guy instead of on ourselves.

Right now, right when you start to feel that defeat, that you cannot change whatever it is causing you to feel this way. Say it, yell it out loud. "I am strong. I am empowered. I am brave."

Life is too short to feel defeated all of the time. Stand up for yourself. You have a voice and you are the only one that can use it. Let those moments of anguish go, don't give in to them.

Yes, there are times for being courteous, for taking in other's opinions and thoughts. But if you ever get to that point where you feel like you are being bullied, like you don't matter. Put a stop to it. Don't give in to defeat, powerlessness and anguish. Because if you do, that vicious cycle will not stop.

Stand up. Stand tall. You are a warrior. And you choose your opponents wisely. 

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